Day 30: The Matrix

The Day

I started the day with lunch with my buddy ZeroSum from SF and Vishal and Micha. I then had to prepare for the Rockstar-only Internet Marketing presentation I was putting on. It was funny, as Alex and I ran around looking for a projector, and somehow talked event services into giving us one for free

The talk went great, but was grossly overtime. My apologies to Alex for that!

Following that we sat in on Mr M’s Social Circle Mastery seminar. I have taken Braddock’s version of it in the past, and it’s always good to get a different perspective. Despite eight hours of sleep the prior night though, I was still physically shattered… and Vishal had booked a table at XS for the night. So around 10pm or so we headed off to get ready to head out.

The Night

Tonight was supposed to be all about chilling and relaxing and just having fun. Micha was supposed to arrive with his date and her six friends, but that never materialised

I was content to just chill and enjoy my last night in Vegas but the drinks started arriving and Vishal wanted to talk to girls, so off we went. It turned out a bunch of the other instructors (Future, Prestige, Keychain, Starlight) were at XS too. We ran a bunch of sets, most of them going nowhere for me although Vishal was on fire.

There was only one set really worth mentioning. Vishal had opened her friend, so I just decided to go up and go direct on her anyway. We got talking and flirting a bit and her friend and her sat down with us at our table. She was probably one of only about three really cool girls that I have met all year. Spanish-Chinese, cute, good personality, very independent and successful and extremely worldly. I loved every minute of the conversation… even if most of it was spent force framing everything she said sexually

I’m starting to wonder if my issues with not being able to emotionally connect with the majority of women is actually just because I’m looking for a very specific type of woman, and that the non-emotional connects need to be there first before the emotional connect can take place.

The set went great. We talked. I carressed her neck. She grabbed my tie. We kissed. We looked into each others eyes. We told each other how much we liked each other. She said she wanted to leave. I said in a bit.

Then at some point, everything abruptly ended. She turned to her friend, said something, then they got up and left. In retrospect, I know exactly what I had needed to say to make her stay, and what I needed to do logistically to have spent the night with her.

Beyond that though, is that I didn’t number-close or facebook-close or get her contact details… even if we didn’t hook up she was still be a fucking cool person to have as a friend. This annoys me more than not getting laid

In case you’re wondering, what I should have said was “Hey look. I really meant what I said. I think that you are an incredible woman, and even if I didn’t want to take you upstairs right now and do all sorts of dirty and nasty things to you, we would still hang out.” This would be followed up by grabbing her hand, pulling her up from the table and leading her from the table to her room with “Let’s go.”

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – attraction. I still need to do some real off-field work on this. But I did practice the basic strategy behind eliciting and framing all night… but there were still silent moments.
• Verbal Game – vibing. Combining California Pimp’s structure with Juggler’s will be interesting.
• Verbal Game – qualification. I’m using California Pimp-style questions for qualification. These basically qualify a girl on her identity as a woman, her compliance to you and her looks. I am going to start using these more as it’s a really good way to qualify girls who I’m not that into for non-emotional stuff (the majority of girls I meet), and they hit hard.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I need to make them a habit so that they just happen in set and have a repertoire of them to use.
• Logistical Escalation. Time to do some inner game work on this to make it a habit. The number-close should be automatic during spikes in attraction and the logistical lead should just happen. I should always be leading, rather than waiting for her to lead. This only changes at a certain point when we’re already in seduction.
• Physical Escalation.
• Takeaways.
• Delivery.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. See above.
• Identity & Beliefs. Still to work on: girls find me attractive, girls check me out, I am sexworthy, I am a man who makes things happen.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change).
• Boundary function.

Learnings

• More Awkward is Less Awkward when winging. Just fucking go in guns blazing and be dominant. Don’t blow wing out.
• I feel like my ability to see the social matrix is starting to skyrocket. I said to Vishal last night: “It’s weird dude. I can see exactly the probabilities of each set working out and where we’re going to lose them, and I can see all the approach invitations and all the high probability sets… but I don’t act on them. What I like about you, is that you don’t look at any of that stuff and you just act on it.”
• I’m realising that I am bloody good at reading when a set in interested, when they’re not, when they’re likely to open or not and to some extent the exact moment that myself or the other Rockstars will get blown out or have hooked the set. I need to capitalise on this ability more however, and have some default behaviours for advancing the interaction based on these reads.

- Aaron P