Day 38: A Night with London Playboy & Mr M

Day

We cancelled our session with Sasha as well, it just wasn’t going to work out. I checked into a hotel near Rockstar West. Did some daygame with Adam, Micha and Trackstar. I ended up practicing what I’m calling Micha game.

One of the Asian girls that I stopped during the post-work rush hour was interesting. She was cute, very cute. Strangely enough she was more nervous about the whole thing that I should have been… something along the lines of “oh my god, nobody ever says that to me.” Why I did not number-close her and set up a date I have no fucking idea… fuck this emotional intent stuff.

Night

Tonight actually marked the countdown of the final two weeks of Project Rockstar.

We were supposed to head out to Jalouse for their one year anniversary, so we rocked up to Loop at 9:30pm and met up with the Navy Seals. The line to get into Jalouse was absolutely insane, and they were enforcing their collared shirt policy with a vengeance. Micha and Vercetti ended up going to Jalouse, the rest of us rocked up to Movida.

We ended up doing essentially what were one-on-ones with London Playboy (http://www.thesocialcoach.com/) and Mr M. We also got to watch Mr M hit on a superhot blonde girl… it was awesomeness in action. Mr M also did an exercise where he hit on Alex and me as-if we were girls, so that we could model the vibe that he gives out in set. It was fucking weird (to us and to the bar staff and girls watching), and it’s going to take some unconscious uptake to integrate what I’ve learnt, but I’ll outline some of my notes about it below.

Here are the sets I did, and feedback from London Playboy and Mr M-

American Birthday Girls. London Playboy sent me in. I told him that I would be in there for 30 seconds to 1 minute then I’d be out. And I was right. Opened, intros all round, found out it was a birthday, waved to the birthday girl and started talking to her. Friends turned away, leaving me one-on-one with the birthday girl We talked for a while – my main focus has been on verbal game lately, so I wasn’t really physically escalating all that much. We just talked, and I started using some of the teases that I’ve been learning, like “so basically you think you’re better than me”. I got an emotional reaction – just not the one I wanted… she ended up apologising for what she said haha. #-closed and facebook-closed. Pinged her earlier today but haven’t gotten a response.

The only feedback from London Playboy about this set was to physically escalate more.

Blonde & Brunette. This was a two-set that I ran with London Playboy and Mr M sitting across from us on the opposite couch and listening in on the whole thing. I opened with hi, talked a bit then Jeff came in to wing me. I ended up talking to the blonde, Jeff to the brunette. The set didn’t really go anywhere – just a long conversation, lots of conversational and logical attraction, some frames set but no BT spikes. I got her facebook, but she wouldn’t give me her number. Ah.

There was a ton of feedback from London Playboy and Mr M about this set. The first one was sexual communication – talking overtly about sex in a comfortable and non-sleazy way. This is something I need to do and train. I also got feedback on my body language in seated sets, never to cross my legs, never to hold my hands together and to do bigger takeaways.

Winging Alex. Alex was talked to two hot brunettes. Turns out they were sisters and both models. One was dressed in a spring dress, the other in a Xena-looking leather gladiator outfit. We stood and talked for a while, then sat them down. Again, I ran intrigue-based attraction on the older sister, but I knew that it wasn’t doing it. I did fix a lot of body language and other things that Mr M & London Playboy had told me after the set before, but the girl kept looking away for other people to talk to. I’m seeing more and more now that what I need to do is start training my teasing neural nets, as being able to tease well is *the* foundation of verbal attraction game.

Apparently I improved a lot in this set (body language). Again, the weak point was a lack of state-based attraction and takeaways.

Sticking Points

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – opening, transitioning. Done.
• Verbal Game – attraction. Follow up with Sheriff. Teasing and Sexual talk neural net training. Practice intrigue-based attraction via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – vibing, qualification. Practice via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I need to list out more of these, add more emotional oomph to them and roll them into vibing/qualifiaction.
• Logistical Escalation. Getting better (especially locking in). Needs more field work though.
• Physical Escalation. Why did I take this away? Should be doing this *always*.
• Takeaways. I now have a good unconscious understanding of what this looks like. Time to start implementing.
• Delivery. As per takeaways.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. Yup, I’ve remembered to contact close in most of the sets I’ve done.
• Identity & Beliefs. Need to play around more with Micha-game.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Needs more exploration. Still not automatically doing this in set.
• Boundary function.
• Self-image. Loving myself more.
• Intent. The solution that London Playboy has suggested is to “fake it until you make it”. This is in body language, in verbals etc etc…

Learnings and Thoughts

• My biggest leverage point now is verbal attraction game, specifically teasing and sexual talk. I will practice these via written scenarios – I’m going to try to write out one per day.
• I made a commitment with Alex that every time we’re out, we are going to try to logistically escalate as far as we can and bounce girls back. Even if it’s just for practice.
• Quote from London Playboy about me: “You know what I like about this guy? Every time I tell him to do a set he complains about it and tells me why it won’t work and then he goes and does it.” I think this is a reflection of my inner game and self-image. I don’t really have that much of a formulation of how I view myself (in contrast to someone like Alex who truly loves himself). I am going to work on this.
• Speaking of London Playboy… could anyone ask for a better teacher? Very chill, does not pressure you with weird doses of social anxiety, very warm, and yet provides feedback you can actually put into use. Love it.

Mr M Hitting On Me

As I mentioned before, Mr M did a demo where he pretended that Alex and I were girls and hit on us, to allow us to model his vibe and game. Here’s what I learnt from it:

• Break rapport. Always. Lots of takeaways (BIG takeaways), on emotional high points.
• Non-sequitur teases.
• Sexual talk presented as just normal conversation. Like talking about sex positions.
• Insane eye contact and cockiness.
• Very dominant physical escalation. Face touches and strokes.
• Make the girl feel that she needs to comply.
• Physical game. Leaning on the girl, pushing into her etc etc
• Checking her out head-to-toe to build sexual tension.
• Cocky happy asshole vibe.
• The core of this is holding his own internal state and just throwing things out there to entertain himself.

- Aaron P