Proof of Dating Science Evolutionary Theory

Hey guys,

Check this article out on how women feel betrayed by love, but men feel betrayed by sex. The article is reprinted below.

Amazing, and very indicative of the fact that evolution wants us to replicate our own genes. If a man impregnated your woman, that would be very bad as you would bring up offspring that was not yours. Thus your aversion against a woman having sex with another man. On the other hand, if a man were to fall in love with another woman, the existing woman would lose her resources and not be able to bring her child up as well. If he just had sex with another woman, he may not. Thus, a woman gets more angry when a man falls in love, rather than has sex with another woman.

Interesting huh?

Here is the article:

Women betrayed by love and men by sex
Women feel more betrayed if their partner falls in love with someone else than if he is simply unfaithful, claims a new study. Men feel more let down by a partner’s sexual indiscretions.

By Richard Alleyne, Science Correspondent
Published: 5:30PM GMT 27 Jan 2010

Researchers believe the two opposing views about what would do the most damage to a relationship could explain why marriages break down so often.

Previous research has suggested a similar trend and the prevailing theory was the difference has evolutionary origins.

Men learned over thousands of years to be hyper-vigilant about sex because they can never be absolutely certain they are the father of a child – while women are much more concerned about having a partner who is committed to raising a family.

But the new research suggests it is much more to do with how secure men and women feel in relationships.

While men hide their insecurity by remaining independent and concentrating on sex, women enter more deeply into relationships, putting more store in emotional connection.

The study suggests women are stronger mentally.

Men fret about unfaithful wives because they are obsessed by the sexual side of their relationships — a superficiality linked to their thin personal attachments.

In other words male jealousy is shaped by deep emotional insecurities, say psychologists Dr Kenneth Levy and Dr Kristen Kelly of Pennsylvania State University.

The researchers asked 416 people which they would find more distressing – knowing their partner was off having passionate sexual intercourse with someone else or knowing that same partner had formed a deep emotional attachment with someone else.

The participants, which included 99 men and 317 women, also completed additional assessments including a standard measurement of whether they were secure or non-committal in their romantic relationships.

Now Dr Levy and Dr Kelly, whose findings are published in Psychological Science, said they doubted the evolutionary explanation because there is a conspicuous subset of men who are more like women and find emotional betrayal more distressing than sexual infidelity.

They suspected it might have to do with trust and emotional attachment. Some people — men and women alike — are by nature more secure in their attachments to others while others are more invested in their own autonomy and seemingly less in need of intimacy.

Psychologists see this compulsive self-reliance as a defensive strategy — protection against deep-seated feelings of vulnerability.

People high on this trait tend to be preoccupied with the sexual aspects of relationships rather than emotional intimacy.

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