Collin – July 17-19

July 17 – Past and present Rockstars present on business

This might not be the kind of post most guys on the attraction forums will find interesting because it isn’t game related, but this stuff is a key component of Project Rockstar and a part of what makes it so special. Two of the Rockstars from last year gave us presentations on productivity and business.

First, Whim gave us a money presentation on Asian Efficiency. He covered so much ground I’m sure I will have much more time in my days ahead to do what I choose. Time management, rituals, and the importance of journals were covered in detail. He also taught us a technique called a pomodoro. This is where you set a timer and focus only on work for 25 minutes straight then take a 5 minute break. Repeat for 4 pomodoros, then take a 15 minute break. Great way to get more done in your day or to accomplish a task that you are procrastinating on. I sat down to write this blog with Chase about 3 hours ago and all we have been doing is talking like 7th grade girls. We started our pomodoro timer about 5 minutes ago, and look how much I’ve written so far!

Alex (another rockstar from last year) gave us a talk on Search engine optimization. I had no clue about this topic going into the talk so I learned a lot. Search engine rankings are actually based on a very complicated algorithm, but are similar to how things become popular in the real world. Useful to know if (when) I have a website of my own.

The bulk of the week was current Rockstar Chase unleashing a whole new world of Internet Marketing on us. Chase spoke for hours on end everyday divulging the secrets that made him so successful on the internet. He went over general marketing principles, and he also spent some time going over outsourcing for us, and how we can outsource everyday tasks to cheap virtual assistants overseas to free up a lot more time to accomplish other goals. The talks by Chase this week were amazing, and I’m not just writing this because he’s sitting next to me right now. He really put a lot of time and effort into making this week as beneficial as possible for us, and I know I can speak for everyone that got to hear his talks that we were all very grateful to have the opportunity to learn from such a successful guy in his field. Thanks Chase!!!

At the end of the week we had a business round table discussion with about 15 of us that were present. It was really cool to realize that we have been surrounded by so many successful people on a daily basis for the last 5 weeks. As the talk went on it became clear that we were all very focused on succeeding not only with women but financially as well. This is a key component of Rockstar, its not just about getting better with women but improving business and quality of life in general. Many people in the room were successful entreprenuers and we had a lot of different perpectives and tips on starting and running a business successfully. This was a great talk and very helpful for myself as a business owner.

July 18 – State Control!

Our schedule has been packed solid here in Stockholm. We were busy in London, but we took a lot of nights off. Here in Stockholm, we’ve gone balls to the wall. 7-8 hours of classtime each day, daygame to and from the classroom and during lunch break, go home hit the gym, then meet the guys at soap bar for nightgame, go out from there usually until after the sun comes up. Grab a few hours of sleep, rinse, repeat. We’re like rabid animals. And we love it. Rarr.

Riddler and Prince have played a huge part in keeping our momentum going. Their enthusiasm is so contagious. “Alright tonight we are going to escalate until one of us gets slapped!” Mr M taught us how to do a line – “Tonight we are going to walk down a line and open every single girl no matter who she’s with!” The environment is one where we are having a blast no matter what. This is a great place to be, where blowouts are actually funny!

A problem that I used to have was if I was in a bad mood or tired, I would have difficulty having fun or trying to get in state. I talked in a previous post about the anchoring technique they taught us which works amazingly well. This week we learned something even better. How to control your state at all times. WE are always in control of how we feel. Here are a few tips:

1 – Your body language plays a big part. Imagine for a second that you are the owner of the bar or club, and everyone in the place loved you. You would stand tall, confident, hold your head high, shoulders back and smile. It’s hard to hold onto this body language and simultaneously think about negative things. Whenever you find yourself feeling down, the first thing to do is improve your physiology.

2 – Your self talk. If you are telling yourself you aren’t having fun, it’s pretty hard to change that. Don’t let that negative self talk start. For example, after a blowout don’t say I screwed up. Re-affirm what you did well, and then what you can do better next time.

3 – Your focus. What are you thinking about, what are you focusing on. Always be focusing on positive things.

After this is made into a habit, state control will be almost automatic. Combining this with the anchoring technique and one of my main sticking points is gone!

Collin

July 19 – Making it through “the dip”

Early in Rockstar Soul taught us about a U- shaped mood curve. When you’re learning a new skill, you’re very excited at first. But as you try to implement what you’ve learned, you actually get worse results than before because you’re consciously thinking about the new information so much. At the very bottom of the curve, your mood is very low, you may question if it’s worth it, and many people quit. But once you make it through the bottom of the curve, the turning point where everything “clicks”, you start experiencing better results, the mood starts going up again. And as you move along the curve, you start feeling the excitement again, and having much more fun, which makes the curve skyrocket even higher, and at a faster rate.

This diagram that Soul shared with us has proven to be very true. Not just in game, Chase shared a similar concept when starting a new business, he called it getting through “the dip”. I can see different Rockstars at different points of the curve. Personally I have made it through the bottom of the curve when everything came together, and now when I go out I am having fun again, and my results are improving drastically every single night I go out. It’s a great place to be. What I didn’t understand is that I have been getting better and moving forward since the very beginning, even though at times I felt I was moving backwards because my results were getting worse. Really I was just progressing along the curve like I was supposed to. Now I know that this is normal and just a part of the process. You HAVE to go through the dip in order to make it work. The problem is a lot of people don’t make it through because as they move along the curve, their mood is dropping and they are having less fun, which makes it more difficult to stay motivated. But we should realize that this drop in mood is a good thing. That means you’re making progress and you’re almost there. That means you just have to stick it out a little bit longer and you’ll make it through the bottom of the dip, everything will click, and you will start the rising portion of the curve, where you’re having a blast and feel invincible and soon your mood and results will shoot up much higher than you ever thought they could be. In game, and in life in general, everyone seems to always be looking for a shortcut. A “magic bullet” or a pill where they just wake up one day and suddenly they are great with women. But you can’t cheat this curve. I don’t have very fond memories of being in London. I was on the first half of the curve, and it sucked. It was tough, and I was way out of my comfort zone. I was getting no results. I was experiencing painful rejections out in public in the middle of the day. I was getting humiliated at night by getting blown out repeatedly. It didn’t seem like it at the time, but this was all forward progress. I HAD to go through those painful, embarrassing moments to come out the other end a different person. There is no way around this. There is no shortcut, no trick I could have learned to get to the point where I have gotten now. The only way is to man up and go through the painful times and stay with it long enough to make it past the dip. After enough blowouts, I just stopped caring about the outcome. That’s when I started seeing flashes of the rising curve. The reason I’m posting this is because before Rockstar I never stuck with it long enough to make it through the dip, to the fun part. I tried to make it work, but after a few harsh rejections and some uncomfortable feelings I would quit. It seemed pointless to me – I was having less fun and getting worse results, so why should I keep trying? I expected instant results and fun times. I didn’t know about the U curve. But now looking back, I can see a few moments where I was ALMOST there, if I had just pushed through a little bit longer I would have made it to the other side. I wish I knew about this back then, because life after the dip is full of excitement and positive feelings. It’s such a liberating feeling to be able to go up and talk to any woman you want, at any time. If anyone reading this can relate, keep moving along – you’re probably almost there! Collin