The Natural’s Way of Being

Hey guys

Before I start this, a BIG shout out to my friend Alexis from Azoogle.

I posted this on my Classic Writings a while ago. It didn’t receive that many hits but it’s a great article and a must for those who want to get good the natural way!

The ‘technology’ / pick up advice in this article forms part of the new Love Systems Inner Game Seminar. It is a crucially important part of getting better with women and in your social interactions in general.

Background

I was recently out with the London instructor team (5.0, Daxx, Vercetti, Soul etc) at a club called ‘Tramp’ in London. I soon found myself talking to a pretty hot blond girl. We spoke for a while. She seemed interesting.

I noticed that she had very nice nails (they had some sort of floral pattern) and I was curious, so I asked, ‘Nice nails, are they real?’ Immediately I caught myself and thought ‘OMG did I just use a routine’? For those of you who don’t know, ‘Nice nails, are they real?’ is one of the first and most famous ‘negs’ ever developed.
[INDENT]Was it a routine?

Answer: No.

But you just ‘negged’ her with a line. It technically was a routine. Right?

Answer: Hell no.

Why?

Answer: Because the truth is that I was genuinely curious and it just came out. I said it for ME and not to make her feel like her value was any lower (which is the point of a neg).

The next night, Daxx and I were having fun with some super hot hired guns dressed in lingerie in an exclusive party at 33 Portland Place (as a side note, we gain access to these high end places and the hottest girls using Social Circle Mastery technology). As we spoke to them, I found us both chaining some pretty funny ‘routines’ together (amidst general banter and great conversation). These ‘routines’ made us both genuinely laugh. They were used (a) between each other as we teased and played with each other, (b) with the girls and (c) were an integral part to what was a free flowing conversation.

The attraction was off the chart. And more importantly, Daxx, I and the girls were having LOADS of fun.

Were you using routines?

Answer: I guess so, yes. But not really.

What do you mean ‘not really’? You were using pre scripted lines!

Answer: We were propagating certain themes, yes, and this did involved saying things that we have said to women before. But it was out of the desire to have fun rather than conscious volition of getting in her pants.

So this wasn’t ‘natural’. You used lines. Right?

Answer: Yes, this interaction sometimes involved ‘lines’ which Daxx and I have said in conversations with women before, but talk to any great natural or anyone that has been in over 1000 bar conversations with attractive women and they will tell you the same thing… conversations and lines (especially fun ones) are often on rinse and repeat just because… they are fun! But no one line is like a mind trick that drops her panties.

The Truth Behind Routines

The key is that these WEREN’T just ‘routines’ because we OURSELVES found what we were saying funny and amusing. In fact, when they came out of our mouths, they often came out in what seemed to be altered versions of the routine because we were PLAYING with them and ACTUALLY ENJOYING THEM OURSELVES.

Consequently, the truth about routines and the KEY in using them correctly is:

So, if you use a routine from the point of view that you are TRYING to get a response from a girl (whether that be to open or attract or building comfort etc), the chances are that the routine will have far less impact. The more that you TRY TO GET A RESPONSE from someone else, the more that the fact that you are TRYING distorts the message. If you say the routine to amuse or interest yourself, the essence of why it is funny or interesting will come out. And as a side effect, your attractive personality will be conveyed.

In fact, I have found myself saying a routine to a girl that does not hit and thinking (sometimes even saying!), ‘Are you kidding me? That was hilarious! I found it funny. In fact, there is an audience applauding in my head! Is there something wrong with you?’. It literally CONFUSES ME when I use a routine and it does not hit. Why? Because I find it funny/interesting so she damn well should too! And if she doesn’t, well it is WEIRD. SHE is weird.

The IMPORTANT realization is that routines are about ME first and THEN about her. I can’t emphasize this enough. This is an extension of the conclusions of my advanced Inner Game articles on Attractive Reactiveness and Natural Game (READ THEM!!!). She should reciprocate my level of interest or amusement at the routine. If I find it funny, then why in the world wouldn’t she!? This mindset is essentially what everyone means when they loosely through around the term ‘living in your own reality’.

Tucker Max – A Naturals Perspective

In an interview with Tucker Max (a true ‘natural’ who also wrote the hugely amusing book called ‘I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell‘ and has one of the most famous blogs in the world) that I recently heard, he said a few things which really struck a chord with me.

He said (1) he uses other lines that he hears other people say to girls all the time and (2) when he talks to girls, the most important thing is that he entertains himself.

These two are NOT mutually exclusive. REALIZE THIS.

If you KNOW lines and routines that YOU LIKE, use them, but when you do use them, remember that you are doing it for your own amusement or interest NOT TO GET A RESPONSE OUT OF HER. If it amuses / interests you, HER amusement or interest really is a secondary concern. Not to mention, you will enjoy EVERY interaction.

REVEALING THE NATURALS ‘WAY OF BEING’

A girl recently told me that I wasn’t funny when I was teasing her. I stared at her incredulously and said, “Are you kidding? There is an audience in my head and they are in standing ovation right now!”.

A few months later, she brought up again that I wasn’t funny that night.

My response? “Listen, the audience in my head is STILL in standing ovation from the jokes I made that night. In fact, 3 have died of exhaustion, but were so moved by my humor that they felt compelled to keep clapping. The noise of their applause drowns out your heckling…”. Can you see the mindset? The important thing is that THAT IT IS FUNNY TO ME!

This ISN’T GAME guys, this is A WAY OF BEING

Implications of ‘The Naturals Way Of Being’

Let’s say you go to talk to a girl.

It doesn’t hook?

It doesn’t matter.

What you said is still interesting / amusing to you.

Let’s even say she is rude to you and says you are ugly and not funny.

That is simply the opinion of ONE girl in the sea of people out there. That being the case, it is quite honestly… irrelevant. And even more honestly, you thought that it was genuinely funny and/or at the least, interesting.

You go and talk to the next girl.

Voila! You get into a conversation.

Somewhere along the line, you make a joke that you find hilarious!

But she doesn’t laugh.

You look at her.

She looks at you.

You smile because you found it funny. That audience in your head is laughing. In fact, they are fucking on the ground in stitches. Four of them have DIED OF LAUGHTER. You begin to smile and chuckle a little bit. A genuine chuckle.

The chances are that she chuckles or at least smiles too. But in any case… and here is the key…

Mr M’s Funny Shit: How Braddock Runs A Bootcamp

Mr M’s Funny Shit – How To Fool A Cop When You Are WASTED

This guy is a goddamn legend:

Proof of Dating Science Evolutionary Theory

Hey guys,

Check this article out on how women feel betrayed by love, but men feel betrayed by sex. The article is reprinted below.

Amazing, and very indicative of the fact that evolution wants us to replicate our own genes. If a man impregnated your woman, that would be very bad as you would bring up offspring that was not yours. Thus your aversion against a woman having sex with another man. On the other hand, if a man were to fall in love with another woman, the existing woman would lose her resources and not be able to bring her child up as well. If he just had sex with another woman, he may not. Thus, a woman gets more angry when a man falls in love, rather than has sex with another woman.

Interesting huh?

Here is the article:

Women betrayed by love and men by sex
Women feel more betrayed if their partner falls in love with someone else than if he is simply unfaithful, claims a new study. Men feel more let down by a partner’s sexual indiscretions.

By Richard Alleyne, Science Correspondent
Published: 5:30PM GMT 27 Jan 2010

Researchers believe the two opposing views about what would do the most damage to a relationship could explain why marriages break down so often.

Previous research has suggested a similar trend and the prevailing theory was the difference has evolutionary origins.

Men learned over thousands of years to be hyper-vigilant about sex because they can never be absolutely certain they are the father of a child – while women are much more concerned about having a partner who is committed to raising a family.

But the new research suggests it is much more to do with how secure men and women feel in relationships.

While men hide their insecurity by remaining independent and concentrating on sex, women enter more deeply into relationships, putting more store in emotional connection.

The study suggests women are stronger mentally.

Men fret about unfaithful wives because they are obsessed by the sexual side of their relationships — a superficiality linked to their thin personal attachments.

In other words male jealousy is shaped by deep emotional insecurities, say psychologists Dr Kenneth Levy and Dr Kristen Kelly of Pennsylvania State University.

The researchers asked 416 people which they would find more distressing – knowing their partner was off having passionate sexual intercourse with someone else or knowing that same partner had formed a deep emotional attachment with someone else.

The participants, which included 99 men and 317 women, also completed additional assessments including a standard measurement of whether they were secure or non-committal in their romantic relationships.

Now Dr Levy and Dr Kelly, whose findings are published in Psychological Science, said they doubted the evolutionary explanation because there is a conspicuous subset of men who are more like women and find emotional betrayal more distressing than sexual infidelity.

They suspected it might have to do with trust and emotional attachment. Some people — men and women alike — are by nature more secure in their attachments to others while others are more invested in their own autonomy and seemingly less in need of intimacy.

Psychologists see this compulsive self-reliance as a defensive strategy — protection against deep-seated feelings of vulnerability.

People high on this trait tend to be preoccupied with the sexual aspects of relationships rather than emotional intimacy.

Mr M

Tips in Entrepreneurship

Hey guys… here are some of my tips for success in entrepreneurship. A guy from The Lounge asked me, but I thought I would post it here. I think that my readers would appreciate it.

1) Read “Ready, Fire Aim” – GREAT book on entrepreneurship.
2) Take the next step – i.e. just get up in the morning and say ‘I’m going to do x for my business. Don’t go ‘I’m going to take over the world’ because it’s too much. The next step is a definable goal and so easy to do, but hard to do if you’re loking too big picture.
3) Continue improving yourself.
4) Read Sam Walton’s book “Made in America”
5) Don’t be afraid to fail and expect it.
6) Don’t get attached to your company. Make rational decisions based on economics, not emotions.

Online Dating? The Facts

Guys

Check this out if you ever try online dating:

Which Profile Pics Lead To The Most Dates

Awesome sauce. So interesting. Basically:

1. Don’t smile
2. Look away from the camera
3. Be doing something interesting
4. Keep your shirt on

Thanks to Bonsai for this article!

MONEY!!!