Project Rockstar 2010 – Application FAQ

Project Rockstar 2010 has been officially announced.

This year it’s being spearheaded by Jeremy Soul, and is going to be set in London and Stockholm (also known as heaven on Earth). I expect this year’s Project Rockstar to be vastly different from last years – different emphases, less hectic travel schedules, hopefully less swine flu… and for the first time ever, the inclusion of both female participants and dating coaches.

Small side tangent:

Soul, Starlight and myself did an experimental “trial run” last week in San Francisco – we took a group of 6 women out on the town, and taught them how to cold approach and talk to guys. Starlight has a copy of the mindmap we came up with over at his blog: http://www.thestarlightblog.com/2010/02/girl-game-girls-get-a-strategy-to-meet-mr-right-in-san-francisco/

The distinctions we came up with are pretty fascinating. Openers work differently, the structure of emotional progression works differently, and going for the “close” goes differently.

It was a great learning experience all around, and I’m sure I’ll share some of the insights with some of my female friends over the coming weeks.

Back to Project Rockstar:

I’ve gotten a lot of questions about if people should apply, how much it’s going to cost, was it worth it, what’s involved, how to write an application etc etc… so I thought I’d answer some of the more common questions here.

Who is this suitable for?

If you are male, or female, and want more out of your life in general, you should consider applying. You are going to learn more than just how to date pretty much whoever you want – you are going to learn about social circles, about different ways to make and manage money, and different ways to live your life. The way it turned out last year, the remaining Rockstars at the end were all around 20-30 years of age. I don’t think that age matters that much if you are committed to making a change if your life. If you think you have what it takes – apply!

How much will/did it cost?

The answer is: it depends. If you live in the UK and you plan properly, you can probably do it for $2,000 or so. If you live abroad, you have to factor in plane tickets to-and-from Europe. I personally spent about $15,000 last year, though that was flying business class to-and-from the US, staying in nice hotels and eating out most of the time. Living in a convenient area in London, perhaps striking up a deal with a local Chinese restaurant to deliver takeout nightly and good planning will go a long way to reducing your costs.

Was it worth it?

Absolutely. Two events stand out to me from last year: 1) When my business started to take off, and 2) Project Rockstar. I saw it as an 8-week investment into improving my life – a chance to get away from old anchors and habitual patterns, and to both do something different and learn about a completely new way of living socially. It really comes down to asking if you’re willing to put on hold everything in your life for 6 (in my case 8 ) weeks, and walk away with more mentors, knowledge, experience, contacts and capabilities than the average person acquires over 2 lifetimes. Over that 8 weeks I also made friendships that will be with me for the rest of my life. Was it worth it? Fuck yeah.

How has life been since Project Rockstar?

I’m not going to go into personal details, but… one of the models we learnt over Project Rockstar was that of Health, Wealth and Relationships. I personally like to add in an extra section that I call “Happiness”. My life has gained momentum in all four areas since the end of Project Rockstar. I am doing things in all four areas that I would never have considered possible before. More importantly, it is continuing to gain momentum, and I have a much clearer picture of where I am headed over the next couple of years.

Will you (Whim) be involved in Project Rockstar 2010?

Most likely yes, I’ll be involved as a mentor. I am keen on teaching some online marketing strategies to the Rockstars for 2010, probably closer to the end of the program. I will also likely teach modules in productivity and efficiency – I taught a Cliff Notes version to the Rockstars as an impromptu session last year, and it blew them (and the lucky Rockstar mentors who got cc’d on the email) away.

What should I write in my application?

Ahhh… The million dollar question. It really depends – what sort of person are you, and how much effort are you willing to put in?

This is almost like a job or college application – take your time, think it through, present your best self, and use proper grammar and punctuation.

Keychain actually has a great guide up here: http://www.adventuresofkeychain.com/2009/06/18/how-to-get-into-project-rockstar-09-directors-cut/ – I actually wish I had seen that last year

Here’s what I did to write my application last year:

1. Read the entire Project Rockstar 2008 thread. If you’re on The Lounge, you can see the notes I posted up as a summary from it. This year you have the threads from 2008 and 2009 to read.
2. Read everything Mr M has ever published. This year my suggestion would be read and watch everything Jeremy Soul has up online.
3. Wrote a preliminary draft.
4. Mulled over it for a week.
5. Reread my draft, and rewrote it.
6. Thought long and hard about what value I could bring to the program – what does someone like Mr M / Soul value? What value can I bring to their lives by being part of Rockstar? What value can I bring to the other Rockstars by being part of the program?
   
7. Rewrote my application again.
8. Gave my application to a bunch of friends who I innately trust, to read and reread and proofread.
9. Rewrote my application again.
10. Sent it in.

More tips:

• Use proper grammar and punctuation. I can’t emphasise this enough.
• Don’t be afraid to ask. Alex Flair, Micha and myself have all offered to field questions on The Attraction Forums for people interested – so ask away.
• First-received-first-read. Applications are being taken on a rolling basis this year, so the sooner you get it done, the higher your chances of being selected.
• Be honest. Present your best self, but tell the truth.
• Reputation is everything. A lot of you have likely been on Love Systems programs, and have rapport with your former instructors/approach coaches. I’m not saying that it’ll help, but you know a huge part of Project Rockstar is social networking…
• Go for maximum impact. Get to the point and convey your passion – for life! This is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. So make it count.

- Aaron P

Project Rockstar 2010 Official Announcement

Project Rockstar 2010 Official Announcement

Welcome to Project Rockstar 2010!

Project Rockstar is a unique life coaching program sponsored by www.lovesystems.com for six carefully selected participants from around the world to train for six weeks in London & Stockholm with dating coaches, pick-up artists, fitness trainers, entrepreneurs, and other self-help experts in Europe and internationally.

The program is being run by Jeremy Soul, Love Systems’ Chief Day Game Instructor, recently voted No. 8 Pick Up Artist and Dating Coach in the world by TSB Magazine. Mr M, Director of Love Systems Europe, originally founded Project Rockstar in 2008, and will act as consultant to the project this year.

The aim of Project Rockstar is to transform six specially selected men and women into true “Social Masters” and showcase how dating science can lead to the achievement of the truly aspirational Rockstar lifestyle. It is sponsored by www.lovesystems.com, the world leader in dating science.

The project is based on cutting-edge concepts of interpersonal change, self-help, NLP and social dynamics – including, but not limited to “The Game”, Social Circle Mastery, Inner Game, achievement psychology, networking technology and other aspects of dating and lifestyle science. While it is true that participants will achieve the highest levels of dating skill, the aim of the program is to go beyond this and for participants to achieve a truly aspirational lifestyle which involves both significant interpersonal change and lifestyle mastery.

The six-week project will blend seminars, theory sessions, homework assignments and live, in-field coaching in the social arts (largely, the ability to attract the opposite sex, but also networking and social circle building). Love Systems normally charges thousands of dollars for this kind of training (and for a six-week program, the cost would easily run into tens of thousands of dollars), but this particular project is run free of charge. However, applicants must be selected for participation and must be able to fund themselves for the duration of the training.

This year will also be the first year that we train women to be Rockstars as well as men. It is our goal to transform selected female applicants into Social Masters of love, sex and relationships, as well as have female dating coaches teaching on the program for the first time ever.

Find out more by clicking on the tabs above.

The Natural’s Way of Being

Hey guys

Before I start this, a BIG shout out to my friend Alexis from Azoogle.

I posted this on my Classic Writings a while ago. It didn’t receive that many hits but it’s a great article and a must for those who want to get good the natural way!

The ‘technology’ / pick up advice in this article forms part of the new Love Systems Inner Game Seminar. It is a crucially important part of getting better with women and in your social interactions in general.

Background

I was recently out with the London instructor team (5.0, Daxx, Vercetti, Soul etc) at a club called ‘Tramp’ in London. I soon found myself talking to a pretty hot blond girl. We spoke for a while. She seemed interesting.

I noticed that she had very nice nails (they had some sort of floral pattern) and I was curious, so I asked, ‘Nice nails, are they real?’ Immediately I caught myself and thought ‘OMG did I just use a routine’? For those of you who don’t know, ‘Nice nails, are they real?’ is one of the first and most famous ‘negs’ ever developed.
[INDENT]Was it a routine?

Answer: No.

But you just ‘negged’ her with a line. It technically was a routine. Right?

Answer: Hell no.

Why?

Answer: Because the truth is that I was genuinely curious and it just came out. I said it for ME and not to make her feel like her value was any lower (which is the point of a neg).

The next night, Daxx and I were having fun with some super hot hired guns dressed in lingerie in an exclusive party at 33 Portland Place (as a side note, we gain access to these high end places and the hottest girls using Social Circle Mastery technology). As we spoke to them, I found us both chaining some pretty funny ‘routines’ together (amidst general banter and great conversation). These ‘routines’ made us both genuinely laugh. They were used (a) between each other as we teased and played with each other, (b) with the girls and (c) were an integral part to what was a free flowing conversation.

The attraction was off the chart. And more importantly, Daxx, I and the girls were having LOADS of fun.

Were you using routines?

Answer: I guess so, yes. But not really.

What do you mean ‘not really’? You were using pre scripted lines!

Answer: We were propagating certain themes, yes, and this did involved saying things that we have said to women before. But it was out of the desire to have fun rather than conscious volition of getting in her pants.

So this wasn’t ‘natural’. You used lines. Right?

Answer: Yes, this interaction sometimes involved ‘lines’ which Daxx and I have said in conversations with women before, but talk to any great natural or anyone that has been in over 1000 bar conversations with attractive women and they will tell you the same thing… conversations and lines (especially fun ones) are often on rinse and repeat just because… they are fun! But no one line is like a mind trick that drops her panties.

The Truth Behind Routines

The key is that these WEREN’T just ‘routines’ because we OURSELVES found what we were saying funny and amusing. In fact, when they came out of our mouths, they often came out in what seemed to be altered versions of the routine because we were PLAYING with them and ACTUALLY ENJOYING THEM OURSELVES.

Consequently, the truth about routines and the KEY in using them correctly is:

So, if you use a routine from the point of view that you are TRYING to get a response from a girl (whether that be to open or attract or building comfort etc), the chances are that the routine will have far less impact. The more that you TRY TO GET A RESPONSE from someone else, the more that the fact that you are TRYING distorts the message. If you say the routine to amuse or interest yourself, the essence of why it is funny or interesting will come out. And as a side effect, your attractive personality will be conveyed.

In fact, I have found myself saying a routine to a girl that does not hit and thinking (sometimes even saying!), ‘Are you kidding me? That was hilarious! I found it funny. In fact, there is an audience applauding in my head! Is there something wrong with you?’. It literally CONFUSES ME when I use a routine and it does not hit. Why? Because I find it funny/interesting so she damn well should too! And if she doesn’t, well it is WEIRD. SHE is weird.

The IMPORTANT realization is that routines are about ME first and THEN about her. I can’t emphasize this enough. This is an extension of the conclusions of my advanced Inner Game articles on Attractive Reactiveness and Natural Game (READ THEM!!!). She should reciprocate my level of interest or amusement at the routine. If I find it funny, then why in the world wouldn’t she!? This mindset is essentially what everyone means when they loosely through around the term ‘living in your own reality’.

Tucker Max – A Naturals Perspective

In an interview with Tucker Max (a true ‘natural’ who also wrote the hugely amusing book called ‘I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell‘ and has one of the most famous blogs in the world) that I recently heard, he said a few things which really struck a chord with me.

He said (1) he uses other lines that he hears other people say to girls all the time and (2) when he talks to girls, the most important thing is that he entertains himself.

These two are NOT mutually exclusive. REALIZE THIS.

If you KNOW lines and routines that YOU LIKE, use them, but when you do use them, remember that you are doing it for your own amusement or interest NOT TO GET A RESPONSE OUT OF HER. If it amuses / interests you, HER amusement or interest really is a secondary concern. Not to mention, you will enjoy EVERY interaction.

REVEALING THE NATURALS ‘WAY OF BEING’

A girl recently told me that I wasn’t funny when I was teasing her. I stared at her incredulously and said, “Are you kidding? There is an audience in my head and they are in standing ovation right now!”.

A few months later, she brought up again that I wasn’t funny that night.

My response? “Listen, the audience in my head is STILL in standing ovation from the jokes I made that night. In fact, 3 have died of exhaustion, but were so moved by my humor that they felt compelled to keep clapping. The noise of their applause drowns out your heckling…”. Can you see the mindset? The important thing is that THAT IT IS FUNNY TO ME!

This ISN’T GAME guys, this is A WAY OF BEING

Implications of ‘The Naturals Way Of Being’

Let’s say you go to talk to a girl.

It doesn’t hook?

It doesn’t matter.

What you said is still interesting / amusing to you.

Let’s even say she is rude to you and says you are ugly and not funny.

That is simply the opinion of ONE girl in the sea of people out there. That being the case, it is quite honestly… irrelevant. And even more honestly, you thought that it was genuinely funny and/or at the least, interesting.

You go and talk to the next girl.

Voila! You get into a conversation.

Somewhere along the line, you make a joke that you find hilarious!

But she doesn’t laugh.

You look at her.

She looks at you.

You smile because you found it funny. That audience in your head is laughing. In fact, they are fucking on the ground in stitches. Four of them have DIED OF LAUGHTER. You begin to smile and chuckle a little bit. A genuine chuckle.

The chances are that she chuckles or at least smiles too. But in any case… and here is the key…

Mr M’s Funny Shit: How Braddock Runs A Bootcamp

Mr M’s Funny Shit – How To Fool A Cop When You Are WASTED

This guy is a goddamn legend:

Proof of Dating Science Evolutionary Theory

Hey guys,

Check this article out on how women feel betrayed by love, but men feel betrayed by sex. The article is reprinted below.

Amazing, and very indicative of the fact that evolution wants us to replicate our own genes. If a man impregnated your woman, that would be very bad as you would bring up offspring that was not yours. Thus your aversion against a woman having sex with another man. On the other hand, if a man were to fall in love with another woman, the existing woman would lose her resources and not be able to bring her child up as well. If he just had sex with another woman, he may not. Thus, a woman gets more angry when a man falls in love, rather than has sex with another woman.

Interesting huh?

Here is the article:

Women betrayed by love and men by sex
Women feel more betrayed if their partner falls in love with someone else than if he is simply unfaithful, claims a new study. Men feel more let down by a partner’s sexual indiscretions.

By Richard Alleyne, Science Correspondent
Published: 5:30PM GMT 27 Jan 2010

Researchers believe the two opposing views about what would do the most damage to a relationship could explain why marriages break down so often.

Previous research has suggested a similar trend and the prevailing theory was the difference has evolutionary origins.

Men learned over thousands of years to be hyper-vigilant about sex because they can never be absolutely certain they are the father of a child – while women are much more concerned about having a partner who is committed to raising a family.

But the new research suggests it is much more to do with how secure men and women feel in relationships.

While men hide their insecurity by remaining independent and concentrating on sex, women enter more deeply into relationships, putting more store in emotional connection.

The study suggests women are stronger mentally.

Men fret about unfaithful wives because they are obsessed by the sexual side of their relationships — a superficiality linked to their thin personal attachments.

In other words male jealousy is shaped by deep emotional insecurities, say psychologists Dr Kenneth Levy and Dr Kristen Kelly of Pennsylvania State University.

The researchers asked 416 people which they would find more distressing – knowing their partner was off having passionate sexual intercourse with someone else or knowing that same partner had formed a deep emotional attachment with someone else.

The participants, which included 99 men and 317 women, also completed additional assessments including a standard measurement of whether they were secure or non-committal in their romantic relationships.

Now Dr Levy and Dr Kelly, whose findings are published in Psychological Science, said they doubted the evolutionary explanation because there is a conspicuous subset of men who are more like women and find emotional betrayal more distressing than sexual infidelity.

They suspected it might have to do with trust and emotional attachment. Some people — men and women alike — are by nature more secure in their attachments to others while others are more invested in their own autonomy and seemingly less in need of intimacy.

Psychologists see this compulsive self-reliance as a defensive strategy — protection against deep-seated feelings of vulnerability.

People high on this trait tend to be preoccupied with the sexual aspects of relationships rather than emotional intimacy.

Mr M

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