Gabriel – July 11

Hey sorry for the lapse in posts! There has not been many dating related courses since we got to Stockholm, so I didn’t feel the need to post play by play.

Stockholm is one of the most beautiful cities in the world and it pretty much never gets dark here. The city has a kind of Disneyland feel to it.

Jeremy (Soul) gave a great presentation on comfort, seduction, and relationship management when we got here. This was particularly interesting to me, as I’ve been in long term relationships pretty much my whole life and would someday like to help other people in this area.

Prince and Riddler have continued to blow our minds with presentations on values, beliefs, NLP, and goal setting. Yesterday was a particularly interesting day as they went through the basics on micro-facial expression reading. They taught us how to read when someone is lying, telling the truth, or accessing memories. They’ve found it very useful in dating and business negotiations.

Since it never really gets dark here, the team has been staying out at all hours soaking up the city as much as possible. It seems like everyone’s skills are really coming together. Everyone has a different learning process, and in talking to the 2009 rockstars, most of the real breakthroughs will come AFTER project rockstar, when all this knowledge marinates and hopefully becomes wisdom. Collin and Troy have both met (and hooked up with) sexy Swedish girls. Chase continues to rock in field and seems to get better every time I see him. Ke looks way more comfortable with night game and seems to be having more fun than in London. Laurent has always looked comfortable in club environments (exotic looks, style, and the ability to dance doesn’t hurt!), but seems to be doing even better than in London.

Lessons Learned so far:
1) You really can’t change any behavior with out a shift in your values
2) If you are not having fun, your game will suffer. No real way around this

Troy – July 5-11,13

Day23 – Monday 5 July

Off day, tiny bit of day game.

We didn’t really do anything today. I was supposed to meet up with some of the Rockstars at 3 for day game but no one showed, so I grabbed some groceries. Flaking is not cool, especially without cell phones. I talked to a couple girls on the street, but nothing really hooked or interested me.

Day24 – 6 July

NLP, Public Speaking, night game.

I learned a lot about myself from Riddler and Prince (as per usual) and otherwise had a great day. The highlight of July 6th, however, was SOAP Bar.

The first set I approached opened pretty well (I still don’t know which brother is Prince and which is Riddler… A— was my wing). A and I saw these two girls immediately as they walked in – they were the hottest girls I’d seen all night. Turns out they were sisters. I originally opened the pink one, but she ended up moving closer to A so we switched targets. It’s a good thing too, because Pink slapped me; she asked how old I thought she was, and I guessed 18, 25 and then 12, the last was obviously a joke – I’m not a violent person, but if you hit me either A) violently or B) in the face, you’ve crossed a line. I was kind of in shock that she had a gall to do that, especially without reason, so I just pointedly ignored her while she tried to explain how much I deserved it, as I talked to the sister in black.

Long story short, I made out with the sister in black and tried several times to get her back to my place (she was very much for it, even suggested going back for drinks), but the evil sister would rain on the parade. We exchanged numbers at the end of the night and she quickly became the shortest fuse I’ve ever had.

Day25 – 7 July

NLP and Public Speaking with Riddler and Prince, night game.

The group is so tight-knit now; chilling with them feels almost like hanging out with high school friends. Riddler and Prince are basically Rockstars themselves with their tenacity, mindsets and just because they’re cool to hang out with. The coaches are all great, though the ones we see most are Bullet, Mr. M, Soul, Mark V, and last year’s Rockstars Micha, Alex and Aaron. It’s crazy watching everyone working together in field, getting
coached and being pushed by wings.

The bar tonight was mostly a sit-down place, which made things a little tricky logistically. I talked to a couple sets, but they went down like a hanged man. Everyone else was in set, so I eventually opened a two-set in a corner table with some corny line (“is this seat taken?”) and then sat with them and chatted. They seemed entertained. Gabriel came in to wing me for a bit though he left pretty quickly for another group and I had to play out the entire thing myself. Turns out they both had boyfriends, but they seemed fun so I stuck around for the rest of the night.

Day26 – 8 July

Comfort, Seduction and Relationships with Soul, Productivity with Whim, ASmallWorld event.

Jeremy had kind of walked me through Comfort, Seduction and Relationships while I was in the workshop with him in Toronto, so it was mostly refresher. I think the ideas are pretty important in general, but I’d basically memorized everything the first time around. The biggest thing for me was the observation that lots of guys get into relationships with girls in order to get laid, while it’s more honest and effective to just let the girl know that a formal relationship won’t necessarily follow – right now it’s just about getting to know each other and enjoying the experience.

Whim’s productivity training is explosive. Everything he said is going to be implemented in my life. Minus the “buy a mac” stuff. I’m way too in bed with Google, Microsoft and Canonical to switch. And the sex is good.
I brought the girl from SOAP Bar to the ASmallWorld event. Whim asked me if I had a game plan. I replied, “well, we hung out at the park, she saw my apartment, we made out, now I’m introducing her to some of the coolest people in Stockholm who just happen to be my friends, and afterwards I’m going to bring her back to my place.” I think he said “good plan” in an approving-mentor kind of way. She stayed over.

Day27 – 9 July

NLP, nap, night game.

I didn’t get much sleep with SOAP girl (I woke up repeatedly with blue balls), so NLP was promptly followed by a “nap.”

Night game sucked hard for me. I entered the venue, thought it might turn out well, and blew out the first half dozen sets. The first one technically wasn’t that bad, though I wasn’t attracted and it definitely felt like a warm-up set. Amusing anecdote: I guessed that a 32-year old was 19 (she got offended) and later that a 19-year old was 32 (she, too, was offended). I wasn’t just being a dick, they actually looked those ages.

I ended up leaving early after my last set, a super cute polish girl, was pulled away by the friend who I thought Gabriel was winging (he had turned to another girl next to him since the friend had done a weird pirouette when I was going to introduce them). I got McDonald’s and commiserated with my cheeseburger.

Day28 – 10 July

Day Game, chilling with Shortie (SOAP girl).

Day Game was fun. I wore the microphone for night game last night, and that probably wasn’t great for the record books. I wore it for day game after Chase today and Bullet probably got tons of solid audio and footage. I tore Stockholm up. One of the major changes I made was working on “trigger words” specifically related to the main topics that came up. “What’s your name?” “Where are you from?” “What are you doing in Stockholm?” and “What are you doing today?” all come up basically every time, so I now have a couple stand-by responses for them (I’m continually working on more though). They’re witty, amusing and come with role-plays. “I’m here on business for the Canadian Mafia. We don’t really have to be secretive, nobody suspects us of anything.” “I’m Troy. Like the movie. Just think of me and Brad Pitt *flex*.” I also have stand-by statements that evoke responses related to Jeremy’s daytime dating structure so I don’t have to ask questions all the time.

The schedule had “House Party” for tonight, so I had four or five girls who were going to show up that I had to cancel on when it was decided to go to a bar instead. I figured I’d just bring Shortie and we’d chill, since I hadn’t sealed the deal yet and she was a spectacularly short fuse. I ended up spending the night in the suburbs watching Fired Up and worrying about not having enough condoms.

Day29 – 11 July

Off-day, Shortie and hookah.

I had a weird, relationship-y day with Shortie (so named because she’s 5′0” and weighs less than her dog, who is a beast but immensely cute). We went shopping (my idea) and she bought sexy clothing to wear with me. I’m really unsure of how to feel, but I’ve been upfront about the whole non-relationship, 3-week deal. I am a bit of a romantic, so the cuddling and constant sex are great, but it’s kind of hard to talk to her. We’ll see. I’m going to cut down on the time spent together by setting up the next date as next weekend.

Hookah with the guys was awesome. J— got a beautiful, intelligent and witty girl’s number while we all chatted casually over clouds of flavoured smoke. Good vibing time.

13 July

I was going through my notes on NLP and found that one of my goals was as follows:

“I would like to be comfortable and skillful when displaying sexual intent.”

I read it and crossed it out instead of copying it onto my computer. This was one of my major sticking points coming into Rockstar: I felt that I was a good conversationalist, could open fairly successfully, and then I would falter because the interaction was going nowhere. Uncle ABE (Always Be Escalating) is probably the guy who saved the day, and Jeremy’s talks on smooth kino escalation as well as DaHunter’s sexual hoops (in the classic writing section, also I read a bit more about them in Phone and Text) offered the technology I used.

Just above these goals is a bullet point that reads: “Focus on Aha! moments. Feel great about them. Celebrate them!” Well, I’m stoked! I knew I was seeing improvements, but it’s even better to realize that I’m not just improving randomly but rather on the path I’ve decided myself.

I’m going to sound like a LS fanboi for a second here, but there’s so much that I’ve gained from LS materials, instructors and exercises. My verbal game has gone way up after mindmapping conversations/trigger words etc, involving teases and role plays (often with sexual hoops) (which I learned from Mr. M in his bootcamp), and since all of this can be shrunk into text game (I learned calibration on text investment and more about role plays, teasing and hoops in Phone and Text), that’s exploded too and helps my verbals in turn. Some of my texts are starting to look like “Callback nickname + slightly teasing small sexual hoop role play on trigger word + calibration for investment found in last ping in <80 characters.” My conversational structure was driven home again and again in Vercetti and Soul’s bootcamps, among many others. /fanboi rant

Chase – July 8,11

July 8

Hi everyone.

Hasn’t been as much posts because we’ve been settling into Stockholm.

The women are gorgeous, you can literally go to the grocery store or McDonald’s if you want to do hired gun game.

I’ve done a few sets in Sweden so far, my Observation:

- Being American and speaking English is a huge DHV
- The women are very flakey. Had some sets I thought were awesome but not getting anything back from texts
- They don’t date here, it’s all about one night stands or social circle =p
- They are very approachable and friendly.

I’ve been going out the past 2 nights and feel everything’s starting to “click” in my head. The first 3 weeks I was just confused in set since we’ve been learning so much theory. Now everything’s starting to become clear and progress should be better now.

Troy – July 3,4

Day21 – 3 July

5.0 Bootcamp, rampant alcoholism.

The last day in London was a little anti-climatic for me. I walked over to McDonald’s with the girl from the night before, dropped her off at the tube and passed out until just short of 5.0’s bootcamp. I really wasn’t feeling it, and the venue destroyed any urge I had to game. I’ve been to biker bars (Dominion <3), ear-shattering techno clubs (Heaven R.I.P.) and bars packed beyond the safety limits (Hull, the dirty dirty). This was the loudest, most packed, and least appealing atmosphere I could imagine. I ran one set with Ke, which involved me screaming at a grenade over a table while being jostled constantly and having drinks spilled on me. Beyond that I talked to maybe one other girl and then left.

When we all got together Gabriel, Ke, Collin and I drank the rest of the vodka, some whiskey, beer, etc. It was pretty exciting to see everyone under the influence. The next morning sucked a little worse though.

Day22 – 4 July

Travel, 1-set regret.

Gabriel and I wound up having to cab to Heathrow. That sucked.
I didn’t realize Copenhagen was in Denmark, but connecting through it was uninspiring and so this realization struck me as less than grandiose. Woo Denmark … where’s my gate?

Gabriel had luggage issues again so I had to find my way around solo, which is what I had been expecting anyway. Asking directions, I ran into this beautiful English girl who was apparently staying right next to the park I was looking for. We chatted as we walked and I felt all the Love Systems stages filling up as we got to the park and her hotel. I even went in to get a map, but I didn’t try to get her number. Worse, I found out later that she’s staying in the same hotel as half of the Rockstars (thus I’m there all the time and it’s two blocks from my place).

You regret only those actions you do not take.

Collin – July 6

Bonsai, 5.0

Earlier last week we had a stripper game teleconference with Bonsai. Thursday night we had an optional visit to the strip club to practice what we learned. Some of the guys just weren’t into it, which is totally cool, that’s why it was optional. I wasn’t particularly stoked on it, but I figured what the hell we’re here to try new things lets give this a shot. Laurent and I were the only Rockstars to show up, along with a few of the coaches.

Some of the benefits Bonsai taught us is that in strip clubs, girls approach you, and they have to talk to you. So worst case scenario you just practice your game and routines on hot, mostly naked girls. So I wasn’t really sure how it would all go down, but oddly enough I had a great time. I used everything that I learned in the teleconference with Bonsai and sure enough, it worked. Really well. By the end of the night I had exchanged facebook info with two of the girls and if I had more time in London (and if I wanted to) I’m sure I could have met up with at least one of them. Once again, just like with daygame, I’ve discovered a whole new way to meet women that I thought was impossible before. I’ve never been one to frequent the strip clubs, but now I know that if I ever find myself there for a bachelor party or whatever I’ll have the skills to attract the girls if I choose! THANKS BONSAI!!

Our last weekend in London consisted of field time with 5.0. This guy (like all LS instructors) has unbelievable game. I wish we had more time to spend with him and had some classroom sessions. Our saturday night got cut a little short because of logistical issues, but the time we did get to spend with him he “de-creepified” all of us. Basically, cured us of all of our bad habits that we are doing in bars and clubs. I kept crossing my arms and he explained to me that it gives off either a too cool or an I’m nervous vibe, so I have to stop doing that.

London wrap up, halfway point

Wow, I can’t believe we are already halfway through Project Rockstar. It seems like it has gone by in a flash, but then again I feel like we’ve been here forever. There has been so much action and excitement and different emotions of getting out of our comfort zones that we’ve barely had time to catch our breath and process what an unreal transformation we’ve been going through.
Although it doesn’t feel like we’ve changed much on the inside, I know we all have grown tremendously so far. The best thing going on right now is AA is long gone, and we are all having a lot more fun and getting much better working as a team. We have learned each others strong points and we are all using that to help us grow together. I can’t wait for Sweden, it only gets better for the second half!

Some halftime adjustments I am imposing on myself for the next three weeks in Stockholm are things that I will be doing as a checklist for each day. They are: doing something out of my comfort zone every day, getting blown out at least once a day (fastest way to success is to double your failure rate!) (and if I’m not getting blown out that means I’m playing it too safe), practicing visualizations, and working on body language.

Now that we have hit our full stride and have mostly eliminated the rookie mistakes, I am really hoping for all of us to take off like rockets durng the next three weeks. Personally, I feel comfortable in daygame but still need a lot of work for night time. I plan on focusing on that in Stockholm and I am hoping that I see some drastic improvement within the first week.

As always, I’ll let you guys know how it goes!!

Lata, Collin

Project Rockstar Reading List

Below is a thorough selection of recommended reading material for this year’s Project Rockstar participants.

You may find several of the books helpful in your own self-development. (It may help to invest in a portable reading device such as a Kindle, which will allow you to get more reading done on the go).

• Upgrade Your Life by Gina Trapani on productivity
• Getting Things Done by David Allen on productivity
• Brain Rules by John Medina on how the brain works
• Flight Plan by Brian Tracey on goal setting and success
• What Every Body Says by Joe Navarro on body language
• Making Great Decisions in Business and Life by David Henderson on better decision-making

• Influence by Robert Cialdini on psychology behind persuasion
• Yes!: 50 Scientifically Proven Ways to Be Persuasive by Robert Cialdini on practical applications of influence
• Eat That Frog by Brian Tracey on productivity
• Iron John by Robert Bly on being a man
• Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz on visualization
  
• The Inner Game of Tennis by Timothy Gallwey on visualization

• Switch by Chip and Dan Heath on motivation and emotional understanding
• 4-Hour Workweek  by Tim Ferriss on business and lifestyle design
• Crush It! by Gary Vaynerchuk on business, marketing and social media
• Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferazzi on Social Circle Mastery
• Pulling Your Own Strings by Wayne Dyer on inner game

• How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie on comfort
• Shantaram by Gregory David Roberts helps with storytelling
• Way of the Superior Man by David Deida on modern masculinity and relationships
• Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand as inspiring fiction
• Musashi by Yoshikawa as inspiring fiction

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