THE END……What Have I learned…

I not really sure what this impact have had on my life but I think it definitely changed the way my children’s going to look.

I came here high on life after I got the call from Mr.M that Monday 13 days before rockstar. I don’t think I told anybody that I applied a while before so it probably came as a shock to somebody “dad” around me. I don’t think that I’ve been more excited about anything in my life this was as cool as it would be.  I came here with the aspirations to become a dating coach then go to school a few months later. I was going to start up a form an e-commerce then stay behind in London just hitting the clubs and be sarging like crazy. I was on a high in life.

I don’t think I could have been more wrong of what to expect, I now know that not even the people organizing this “event” knew what was supposed to be the product of it.  It was crazy in the begin and I’m not surprised that one dropped out.

So am I disappointed at the experience that this has been. Absolutely not, this has been such a learning experienced that has open up my eyes for what’s possible for me in my life. Partially because the things we were taught and mostly because the people that I’ve met during the journey.

This was marketed as away to work and wealth, health and relationships. Well I took and threw the health part out of the window when it came down to choose what to do in the schedule that didn’t have room for anything. So with two things to focus on you might think that I would have time to work hard on them, but no. I don’t really remember anything the first weeks of rockstar so it’s going to be interesting to read the book and to go back on my blogposts.

WHAT HAVE I LEARNED THEN…

Game: Game is f*****n easy and fun. I have some kickass memories with the guys out hitting on women. We all came here as “ordinary” people not socially awkward and some beginner’s skill in game, we were all very different in the way we interacted with women and turned in to a cool crew of guys. I came in with a clunky outer game and poor inner game. My biggest problem with women was that I had no skills in how to create the emotional connection with woman. I had easier to pull same night lays and being sexual, which turned out to be a good skill in Vegas. I look back at what I’ve learned in all these classes and I can’t really remember. I now have a moleskine notebook full of notes that I need to goo trough and map out. But I know that I’m really good now. How can I do that if I can’t put my fingers on what I’ve learned? It’s more of a feeling inside of me, I’ve had more than enough of positive reference experience with women now to now that I’m good.  I don’t know if there is anything that scares me on a night with a roll probably, but I’ll most likely do it anyway.

What is that I feel? I would like to say that I feel more complete as a man of what I can do, I’m not controlled by my fears. I can run after a beautiful woman if I see her on the streets. I don’t have to wonder what if I did approach her. I came here with a desire to connect with women and not to sleep with as many as possible. I think I coming really close to my goal I’ve been seeing one girl now for little while and it’s a good and new feeling to hang out with her.  It has also removed my desire to go after absolutely everything with two legs and breast that’s hot. I don’t know why, but she told me I could go on as usual since I’m a part of rockstar. I have honestly tried to hit on other women but I don’t have any desire for the moment and I have now abounded the idea of me being a guy that would like multiple relationships.  I would actually give it a go if I was staying in London with this girl, but for now I just enjoy the good feeling she is giving me, who knows what can happen in the future. I now feel comfortable with the idea that I can build relationships with women. So I can’t say anything more than mission accomplished, and thanks to all the instructors and fellow rockstars that has been there for the journey.

Business: I have now started to think about life in completely different new angle of what is possible to do for a living. I come from a blue collar family where it’s taking pride to work for the system and being a part of society and pull your weight. Practically all my friends in my hometown are hard workers in some form, and so is my family. I never even thought in the terms that we have been talking about here in rockstar.  I had some small ideas but nothing this planned out, I now know where I’m going and what I’m setting out to do. I now know where to aim my energy thanks to fellow rockstar and now friend Aaron. He showed me what is possible in the world of online marketing and talked and inspired with his way of life. The more we talked the more I saw how I think it suits me as a worker, and I’m now setting out to hit my goals. I came here to e inspired and to learn new ways of making a living. I know that I can work the living shit out of my body and be pulling 80 workweeks in freezing cold snow and water whipping up on. I’m now 27 almost 28 years old and I can already feel how my body is going to fall apart due to damage I got from working my ass off for somebody else. I’m never going to back to way of life I was living before it’s just not a possibility in my reality. I know look for the feeling in this area of life as I have with women. It’s the feeling of you don’t care if you lose, you can always get more money/women. I GOT THIS SHIT HANDLED. It means that there is room for improvement but you know what you are doing. So get back to me in three months and we will see where I am. I will consider that my goal here is almost achieved as it changed so much during the path of rockstar, but I’m happy with the outcome of it.

Health: well I have had two home cooked meals since I entered rockstar, both of them thanks to my dear friend that I stayed with in Stockholm. So as you may imagine I’m not in any better shape than before I was rockstar. I made it an active choice to skip training and focus my time on other the other task since I got easy access to this since before.  I got a diet and workout schedule being taken care of as soon as I touch ground in my hometown anyway.

So what’s going to happen now, well I’m going to my home town until at least New Years Eve. My purpose is to too work in peace and quiet, since I’m really tired of the shitty living standard the London flats have to offer at staggering prices. I’m going back to Sweden as results in the debate where I would get the most work done. But I’ll be back out in the world really soon. The goal is to join the other Rockstar in mars to start a real rockstar mansion hitting it big in the states. Yes it will be revealed later but we’re all going to take our supernova to the max. Be sure to check out this blog later next year.

Instructorship: Do I still want to be an dating coach? Do I want to be a part of the community? The dreaded LSS!!! These are questions that I asked myself and I’m not as sure as I was eight weeks ago. First of all rockstar has been a lot of Approach coaching since it’s a good way to become good yourself and teaching others, a little bit too much in my taste. I didn’t really feel that competent in the beginning at first, I have now risen to the challenge and feel comfortable taking a newbie out and help him, I don’t enjoy it really today thouh.  I really need some time away before I can take a decision in if I want to peruse the goal of instructorship. Because what guys don’t get is you don’t get paid to go out and pick up women, you get paid to go out to hold grown man in the hand and tell them that the hot blonde over there won’t kill you when you tell her she looks good. I can and have approached instead of sending away student to women when I was AC’ing during rockstar and I don’t regret it. That’s how I had some of the most interesting interactions so far, and how I met some of the most interesting people around the world. I will make up my mind to New years eve if this is something I want to put my time and effort in. But in the meantime if you’re in Oslo at the end of this month 28th of Nov make sure to check out Day Game expert Jeremy Soul. He’s having one of his day game seminar and I will be there to help out.

But tanks to all the readers this has been super fun and I will get out of the community, at least for a while but you never know. I need to focus on other thing in my life right now.

The guys I would like to thanks for this awesome experience are:

Vishal (cya NYE)

Aaron, Alex, Josh (rockstar mansion Vegas is waiting for us)

Jeremy Soul (cya NYE and thnx for the time in STHLM)

Vercetti you big hug bear….

Keychain have to do some more day game shenanigans with you.

Dr. Yen my pc-muscle is growing every day thnx to you J

London Playboy thnx for the torture garden ticket.

All the instructor and business mentors that have been there and a part of this journey thanks for your contribution, 5.0, Sheriff, Jeff, Kunal, London wizard, Paladin, Alex Sargent and a few more. I hope to meet up with a lot of you guys again.

Last to be mentioned Mr.M you have had a huge impact on the way my life turned out, and you keep on having a huge influence in my life. A really hope I can show you my gratitude one day but for now SUCK IT.

And Adam I would like to percived as Suave, charming Swede with absolutely Dazzling smile so don’t fabricate anything.

Stay classy

-Micha

Ps. Sandra is a dork, but a cool one

Build the supernova

Days 44-46: The Council, Comedy and It’s Time To Be An Asshole

This is going to be a long and content-heavy post. Enjoy

Tuesday

Spent most of the day preparing with Aidan Killian (http://www.laughoutloud.ie/) for standup.

Nighttime was our second London Council meeting. We all sat there for about an hour each, while our various instructors gave us feedback on the gaps in our game, where we were, how far we had come and where we needed to go.

Alex and Micha both received phenomenal feedback from the Council. I was… a bit more complicated. In the post I was going to publish on Monday about my thoughts on Project Rockstar, I had written that out of all the Rockstars, I felt that my game had improved the least. I am yet to reach a moment where everything just “clicks” for me, and there was apparently quite a bit of debate amongst the Council as to what to tell me, or how to advise me or guide me towards improving my game.

All the feedback is specific to me, but there is some good advice in this~

• Learning Game. Rockstar is just the opening credits to the movie of my life. Consider game and social skills as a subset of the skills required to do business. Approach only when you feel like approaching (nightgame). Daygame is just about skillset acquisition and a numbers game.
• Self-Concept stuff. Your greatest strengths are also your greatest weaknesses. This is a paradox, and for me, working it out is presenting different parts of my personality in different contexts. Frustration is a human process, one that I have conquered in the past, and one that I just need to trust in myself to overcome in the present (with game). More work on warmth and emotional connect. Wield emotions via logic, rather than trying to force emotions out (see emotions as a separate progression track to be inserted into attraction, qualification, comfort etc, and in that moment unleash the emotion and turn off the intellect). Have fun when going out. When going out, just have fun rather than feel the need to approach, approach, approach. See self as a social and fun person, and someone who enhances the social situation, and someone who people have fun around. Self-reliance – great but learn how to vary the behaviour.
• Parts of Others (NLP concept). Create an understanding that others have things they can contribute to my life. Realise that everyone has something amazing about their life. Accept that people are fucked up… probably more than I am. Look for the parts that are golden and learn from them. See others’ primal parts. Listen, and try the weird shit that others say and do, but have no feedback loop when doing so. Create a new part that is the social instigator.
• Taking chances. Be willing to fuck up. Go skydiving. Let’s joust attitude.
• Emotional Expression. Wielding emotions through logic. Find the point of emotional blockage and let it loose at times. Revel in my ability to play with my own mind, the minds of others and the darkness and dominance. Consider that opening up emotionally will give me an enhanced ability to access the social sphere. Consider taking a David Deida course or AMP or something.
• The Alex Lesson. Knowing when to be intellectual and when to be in the moment. Being happy with where you currently are lets you evolve to the next level.
• Acceptance. Acceptance is contextual – others’ acceptance of me is irrelevant, it’s my acceptance of them that counts. Kill the belief of “if people don’t accept me, fuck them.”
• Needing Others. This is the hardest feedback point for me to take in. But it is sometimes necessary to have others around you who accept you for who you are and who help you grow as a person. Navy Seals / Delta Force concept.

Wednesday

We spent all day with Aidan preparing for the Rockstar comedy night. And it was well worth it… all of us performed extremely well, and I’m really happy that Adam (you bastard!) and Mr M insisted that we push forward with the standup training.

There will be videos up on youtube of the whole night, but for now, here are some of the things that I’ve taken away from the ten hours or so of training we’ve had with Aidan and Sasha.

Differences in comedy – standup will make your routines punchier and hit harder. Improv improves your ability to vibe on the spot. They are two completely different skillsets.

Applying standup structure to routines. There is a process for this, roughly:

1. Get a friend or a group of friends to listen to you.
2. Stand up, and start talking about a topic or an event or a story from your life. Make sure you record it.
3. After saying it once, say it again, cutting out all descriptive and unnecessary detail from the story.
4. Figure out which details belong in the setup, and which belong in the punch. It’s even better if you have multiple punches with each being the setup for the next punch. i.e., work out what your jokes are.
5. Work out the emotional progression through the routine. Where are you supposed to be excited, where are you supposed to be dejected, where are you supposed to be sad.
6. Piece the routine back together with proper setup and transitions, adding in more detail and having the proper delivery (including pauses and laughter points).
7. Repeat back to your friends to see where the laugh points are and to see if it is genuinely funny.

Standup delivery. There’s a lot to owning the stage, making eye contact with the audience, with handling a microphone properly and being still and using proper hand gestures to enhance delivery. Doing standup for this alone is great – it shows you very specifically how to hold court in large groups.

Thursday

We did daygame with Alex Sergeant in town. I was really not feeling it. I was actually just pretty content to walk around and enjoy London for a change. The couple of sets Micha vetoed me on I approached… lied through my teeth, and the girls gave me this look of “thanks, but I know you don’t really mean it” haha.

We then heard a talk on Mr M on sexual hoops, physical escalation and other advanced stuff. We also heard from Freedom of Speech about state triggers and the “parting the seas” concept. I don’t have notes on this yet but when I compile them I’ll put up some of the takeaways in a future blog post.

Nightgame was with Paladin. I really wasn’t in the mood to do anything. I just decided to chill, have fun and be an asshole.

Did not open any sets. The other guys were up for it, so I let them do their thing. I was pretty content to just chill out in the club, and talk about inner game and Rockstar with Paladin.

I ended up somehow winging Micha in a set. I just did not fucking care how the set went. This was the lesson from the council, of not caring about others’ acceptance and just accepting who they are, no matter how fucked up they may seem. So I said what was on my mind, and how I was feeling at the time.

Micha: Hey this is my friend A.

Me: Hi, what are your names.

Half-Asian Natalie: Natalie.

Blonde Natalie: Natalie.

I start talking to half-Asian Natalie.

Natalie: Where are you from?

Me: Guess.

Natalie: South Korea? Japan? Thailand?

Me: You’re such a fucking racist.

Natalie: Nooooo!!! I’m not… I’m the last person to be a racist, I’m half Thai (she was really apologetic in saying this haha).

Me: (in Thai) So you speak Thai.

Natalie: Yeah!

Me: Where are you girls from.

Natalie: Germany.

Me: You speak pretty good English for German girls.

Natalie: OMG, thank you!

Me: (thinking WTF – end up telling her a bit about Thailand).

Natalie: (tells me about Thailand)

Me: What do you do here in London.

Natalie: I study international business management.

Me: Fuck, not another one of you. And in London. This city is fucking cold and miserable. I’m getting ready to leave.

Natalie: What?!?

Me: Yeah, I’ve had enough of you.

Natalie: What? I’m sorry, I’m not racist.

Me: (thinking WTF – big takeway and turn around)

Natalie: (grabs my arm, turns me back around) Who are you? (steps back and checks me out head to toe).

Me: I’m popular.

Natialie: (grabs my necklace) Ohhh… Armani… I guess you are popular.

Me: (thinking WTF) Yeah.

At this point Micha turned to me and indicated he was bored and wanted to leave. So we left. The next thing I could have said would have been “Look. I’m not a sausage with feet OK. I have feelings too.” or something to that effect.

Despite having a super-chill night and not really doing anything, I had more fun tonight than on any other night in the past week. And hey, it’s fun to be an asshole sometimes and just not give a shit about what happens to a set. I think I’m going to make a commitment to myself to do this for the rest of Rockstar – take happy asshole game to the extreme and just work it. I’ve been struggling to find the motivation to go out or approach or even wing… but after tonight, I have some of that back. This is gonna be fun.

Sticking Points

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – attraction. Teasing and Sexual talk neural net training. Practice attraction via scenarios. Practice asshole game via scenarios and in-field.
• Verbal Game – vibing, qualification. Practice via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – sexual hoops (including SOIs). Go over Mr M’s talk, list them out, use them in both off-field and in-field.
• Logistical Escalation.
• Physical Escalation.
• Takeaways. I’m getting better at this. Practice in-field.
• Delivery. Practice in-field.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation.
• Identity & Beliefs. Understanding that others are fucked up and that they all have some amazing part of their life, and something to contribute to mine. Adopting the belief of “I may fuck this up, but let’s joust.” Realising that you only need to score 30/100 to pick up. No need to aim for 92/100. Realising that acceptance is contextual, and that I don’t really need to care about others’ acceptance of me, and that it’s more about my acceptance of them for who they are. Killing the belief of “if people don’t accept me, fuck them.”
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Needs more exploration. Still not automatically doing this in set.
• Boundary function.
• Self-image. Frustration as something I have overcome and will continue to push through. Realising that there’s nothing wrong with me, and that my greatest strengths are also my greatest weaknesses. More work on warmth and emotional connection. Seeing self as having fun when going out, and being someone who enhances the social situation. Creating the social instigator part in myself. The Alex Lesson.
• Behaviour. Learning to present different parts of me to different people. Learning to wield emotions via logic. Listening to the weird shit others say and trying it, without judgement.
• Emotional Management. Letting loose on emotional block points. Revelling in darkness and dominance, and the ability to play with my own and others’ minds. Ingrain idea that opening up emotionally will give me an enhanced ability to access the social sphere.
• Capabilities. Ability to see primal parts in others. Ability to recognise that in some areas of my life I need others to help me grow.
• Intent. Finding it fucking hard to fake this. But I will keep pushing.

- Aaron P

The pick-up community

Yes this is a “special” community that I’m a part of writing for every other night. I’m here to learn and end enjoy. I’m learning a lot and throw all the other things aside that I can’t apply.

Project Rockstar is a little more then a cold approach program though. We are being schooled to become social masters, and therefore we become/are social savvy (at least I consider myself to be that).
A lot of guys who started with pick up especially old school community are in my terms really fuckin weird and awkward, when they got good with women they became weird and good with women. You see that for a guy to be good with cold approach game doesn’t make him socially calibrated. Look at Mystery/Matador/Lovedrop they are all fuckin weirdos, good with women yes, anything I want to be like NO.

When I find guys that inspires me and motivates me, they can make me do everything. I had a session with one of our awesome coaches Vercetti he took me on a class of salsa dancing. I was rather confused mid class and hated the Idea before class, but I stretched my comfort zone because I trusted him and his judgment. It’s almost like the mutual respect I have with a dear friend. The people that I’m inspired by in this community they have not only become better with women but also socially calibrated. We were told “many of these guys are not role models, but are here to teach you game” in the beginning. In the same time during the rockstar are we also told concept as thin slice and always trusting our thin slice. I made a bad judgment call today. I trusted my thin slice completely but acted a little wrong on it. I will always trust it just act on it differently.

We had a guest instructor coming today to teach us Day Game. Sasha (http://www.sashapua.com/), and we also got to meet Ace, one of the London Community’s old school guys. My first sight if Sasha gave me thin slice of a person I might hung around with 5 years ago when my life was still chaos, destruction and drugs. I trust my warnings signals a lot and I’m happy for it. Sasha for me came of weird when I met him. He came of a little nervous when he was started talking to us and tried to find his way with jokes, and nothing really hitting home with the rockstars, only upsetting us and making some of us really pissed. We then hit the streets after an hour of theory, we started at tottenhamn court road. But as I said earlier I need trust for me to do stupid shit that will be really fuckin weird or awkward. I didn’t have that with this guy, and not two of the other rockstars as well. Our reaction to that was to wander off and do daygame on our own and sneaking out of class. It’s not the best choice I’ve made since rockstar. He was generally upset and wants us to write him an apology now. I’m not sure I will because I’m still not sure I want to learn anything from him.

Do you want to know the fucked up thing, I could probably learn a ton from this guy. The theory he taught us was good, really good. We tested it on our own without him and it’s solid. Guys that I like taught from him and are good. Why can’t I do the same. The same reason that stops most people FEAR. I really don’t want to turn in to anything like him that’s why it’s hard to listen to him. If your only looking to get solid good day game. Then he’s probably your guy I would really recommend him but I want more out of this.

The sense moral is my fear of being “weird” hinder me in my learning process of game as I stay socially calibrated.

Stay Classy San Diego

-Love Micha

Days 23 & 24: Rain

It’s been pretty quiet for the past couple of days.

We did some infield with Keychain (shop game), but I was being obnoxious and he sent me home

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…just kidding. I was dead tired and my brain has been going through overdrive processing game information that I needed to just sit and do nothing and let it process.

We had a talk from London Playboy (http://www.thesocialcoach.com/) about stripper game – it’s exactly the same as normal game, except you have less room for error, and you need to watch for what he calls “stripper IOIs” rather than the usual IOIs.

The rest of the guys went out to a stripclub to practice their newfound stripper-pulling abilities while I rested up  – for some 12 hours or something.

Today we had a health check-in with Miki, then an NLP session with Jamie Salad of Salad Ltd (http://www.saladltd.co.uk). Jamie with over a bunch of high-level concepts like happiness and life goals and we just explored them in a sort-of pseudo-trance for three hours. I’m not sure yet exactly what I learnt from it, but when I review my notes later I’m sure there are a couple of gems in there.

Tonight we are all busy catching up on administrative work and packing for Vegas.

- Aaron P

Day game in stockholm

Stockholm there might be a chance that I’m moving back to that city. This has been a wonderful stop with some good realizations, and YES swedish women are exactly as you thought (f**kin hot). Like mystery says women of extreme beauty rarely go alone except in Sweden night time when the average is 8. God I love this place, I now know why Soul moved here.

This was an interesting trip and the schedule was a little more relaxed then usual. Soul had really put the emphasis on that we should enjoy Stockholm. I still atended to everything except one night session (ended up in food coma on my best friends couch after having a monster dinner.)

The first day Soul had his day game seminar, I’ve taken it before bit it all made more sense now. I know that it’s due to my extensive time in the field. I really love this seminar and to hear it from Soul him self. This a dating coach like nobody else. He bring’s in a passion and care like I haven’t seen. It’s easy to like him and relate to him. He is just like a child when it comes to expressing himself in the face, and he talks like a woman.

I’m not going to go in the technical stuff if you want to you need to attends one of his seminars. I think it’s definitively worth it if you want some easy to listen guidelines if you want to handle this area.

We had some guest at the seminar, reporters. Some people like them some hate them, I love them. You should look in this weeks Aftenposten A-Magasinet if you live in Norway I’m featured with keychain, that’s fun. This time the reporters came from swedish Metro, Amelia and www.thelocal.se.

We then decided to head out after the interviews to take some pictures. If you ever tried to game some women with a camera up her ass, join the club. Can anybody give me good answer to, why is that weird woman taking pictures.  The photographer was a pain in the ass with camera. She was sweet and doing her job, it’s just hard to “deliever” like that. I really like it because of the attention. We then headed back to dump the reporters and switch intructor/students. I did the sets as I saw them, I just didn’t see the fun in  walking around in cold stockholm chasing women. It turned out to be an awful day result wise but sure a bit of fun.

I then had a date with my best friend that I was staying with that was awesome. This was the first homecooked meal of food since 3 days before project rockstar. We had some swedish herring for starters prepared on sandwich, and a really good homemade chili.  No women on this earth could pulled me of the chouch, I crashed dead tired 9 am. It was a wonderful feeling just to dose of to a episode of entourage.

Realization today.

1. Swedish women are the hottest int the world(didn’t notice that until I spent a few weeks in London)

2. It’s extremely hard to “game” a girl that get a camerlense up her ass without telling her what’s going on.

Cya

-love Micha

Day 21: Recovery

After yesterday’s craziness today was spent in downtime and recovery.

We had a morning theory session with Soul about flakes and other daygame-related topics.

Here’s what we talked about:

• Once you’re good at attraction the rest is logistical and emotional management.
• You can plug in qualification and comfort when you see you don’t have it (in real time in set).
• Sexual tension should only be relieved when she’s on your bed.
• Act like sex isn’t a big deal until it actually becomes not a big deal.
• Women love sex.

On flakes:

• Flakes from bad game, missing attraction, comfort, qualification.
• Set up dates during the interaction rather than going for a number.
• You will get flakes, as your game gets better they go away.
• You never know what’s going on in a girl’s life, so don’t take it personally.

- Aaron P

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