Day 13: Storming Munich

The What
Absolutely awesome day.

Woke up in the morning and had the time to get ready properly, do some shopping and even to start reviewing some of the notes that I’ve taken over the past 12 days.

I then headed out with Mr M & Soul to the first day of the Munich bootcamp (http://www.lovesystems.com), and met up with the rest of the Rockstars there.

We sat in on the bootcamp seminar as both students and approach coaches. For me, this was my first Love Systems bootcamp, so it was pretty enlightening. The material presented was very different from what I’ve seen taught by other companies, and is definitely more geared towards people who like to think things out logically and structurally.

After 5 hours of seminar, we headed for dinner at this awesome German “fast food” place called Ocui. You take a swipe card, get your food freshly prepared, grab a glass of wine and then sit down in an urban-chic restaurant and have healthy and awesome food.

Following dinner we all rushed back to prepare for field time. Soul, Mr M and myself also met up with a journalist who wanted to cover the bootcamp for a local paper.

But onto infield…

This was a HUGE bootcamp. 4 instructors, 6 rockstars and our tour manager Conor approach coaching, as well as locals Frame and MunichHawk and ubermentor Jeff approach-coaching too. We hit up 2 clubs in central Munich.

I only did about 5-6 sets over the course of the night, most of the time was spent making sure the students were being pushed into sets, that they were opening properly and getting into interactions. It’s kind of reflective to see what the past 10 or so days of being pushed ourselves into sets that we don’t want to do has done to our game and calibration.

All the students were phenomenal, approaching, opening, going direct, getting numbers, kiss closes and all sorts of other chaos. Congratulations to all!

I did do a couple of demo sets~

The first was an attempt to show a student what a blow out looked like, and that it doesn’t matter if a girl “rejects” you. It didn’t quite work. Some tall, hot German girls walks past. I grab her, pull her in. I tell her she is adorable. We talk. We exchange names. We get up close. We talk more. I realise that I’m supposed to be coaching the student. We talk more, and exchange flirtatious eye contact. She promises me a dance later.

The second that I remember was showing a student how to go in “semi-direct”, or basically walking up to a girl and just introducing yourself. This was in the outside area. This girl was cute. Sexy cute. She had a small piercing just below her lower-right lip and a tongue piercing. After talking with the student for a few minutes, encouraging him to approach I decide to do it instead. Normally this would be perceived as awkward, having hovered around the girl for five minutes. But what is more awkward is less awkward, but what is less awkward is more awkward (credit: TD). I open, sit down and we exchange names. She has an American accent. I ask her about it. She says that she has been to Australia. That is perfect for me, and we connect, and talk, and talk, and talk. All throughout I am doing social touching (touching her on her arm, her upper arm, her elbow, her shoulder), and “clawing” her in on emotional high points for a sideways hug (credit: Tim). I glance up at the student, and decided that the point has been made – you can open, and talk to a girl, just by going up and saying hi. I leave the set. In retrospect, I should have number-closed or facebook-closed this girl, as all the signs of interest were there. More in this below.

The third I remember was towards the end of the night. I spotted a girl standing by herself looking bored on the fringes of her group. I go up. I say hi. I pull her in towards me, introduce myself, and ask for her name. It is something German. At this point there are 5cm between our faces. We talk. And dance. I spin her around, push her away, grab her in. Soon we are locking fingers, and we are waltzing. Her arms go around my neck. I go to kiss her – no go. I spin her away, and back. We talk in what is known as “vibing” – where the content of the conversation is less important than the emotional message conveyed behind it. I go to kiss her again. She turns her head away. Spin away, pull her back in, and then I look deeply into her eyes. The tension builds as she gets the message… she is the first to break the tension, saying “no, no, not tonight…” I pull her in, arm around her waist and we just rock on the spot for a bit. At this point, I am somewhat bored, I whisper something to her, and bid her farewell…

The rest of my sets pretty much involved me grabbing girls as they walked past, whispering sweet nothings into their ears, watching them smile… and exchanging some flirtatious eye contact while their less attractive friends dragged them away

I also had the opportunity to watch Mr M & Vercetti in set. They are phenomenal. It is both awesome and worrying that as they walked around the venue… they were checked out and ogled over by both German women… and men

It is starting to dawn on me the progress we have made and are making in Rockstar. I know some of us were worried, that we wouldn’t be ready or have made enough progress as last year’s Rockstars because of less field time… but after tonight, everything is starting to come together.

Takeaways

• Teaching pickup totally changes the nature of the game and your inner game. There is something very, very different about walking into a venue and then directing the social interactions that happen in there. It’s almost like you become master of the venue and are able to influence or even manipulate the social variables there – and when you can do that, there’s no need to be anxious or even a real need for state.
• Sexual intent: this is still my main sticking point. For example, getting bored with the set towards the end of the night, or not automatically going for some sort of contact close in every set past hook point (where the girl has been engaged). Mr M says that this is pretty much a “you need to pull the trigger” problem, and is a habit to break and reform. Soul says that it’s a matter of finding hotter girls or making each set more challenging to myself. Mr M also mentioned the notion of “ohhhh”… where you see a girl, and she just does all the right things for you and you can picture yourself doing all sorts of dirty and sexy things to her.
• Escalation: I am going to structure my physical escalation more- same basic structure in the beginning, but a smoother escalation towards a kiss… touching her face, brushing away her hair, pulling her hair first… before kissing. I am also going to add in a basic two-step qualification to all the sets I run.
• Framing – friendly frame. Almost everyone I talk to I mention that the people in XYZ country are really friendly. It sets the right frame, and subsequently makes them friendlier!
• Nonsensical vibing. Something that describes how Braddock games and teases. I don’t really understand it yet, but have heard it and it’s both funny and effective, and something that I should add to my game.

Highlights of the Day

• Konichiwa opener: For probably the third time in my life I was opened my a girl. A HOT girl. She was walking past with her less attractive friend, and we made eye contact. She says: “Konichiwa! Are you Japanese?” My mind went: “No, but IT’S ON!!” I grabbed her while her friend vanished outside. We talk, we get up close, we talk… I tease her, touch her, grab her, pull her in… the words are meaningless, the meaning is in what we are doing with our gestures, our touching, and our eye contact. And then the friend reappears. And grabs her, apologises, and takes her away. As she is being dragged away, she is looking back, with a “I really want to spend more time with you” look in her eyes. I mentioned what had happened to Mr M and the Konichiwa opener is to be field tested tonight- whether the girl looks Japanese or not.
• Straight German guys offering to buy us drinks – told you people here are friendly.
• Quote of the day from Mr M: “Fuck, I never win that game” (in reference to who gets to use the bathroom first).

- Aaron P

Day 06: Life, Service & Teamwork

The What

All the Rockstars awoke fairly late this morning. We thought our morning session was at 11am with wealth mentor K at Rockstar East. At 10:50am, Conor showed up with a couple of Rockstars and told us we had to be in Mayfair in 10 minutes. They sprinted for the station, and I decided to say fuck that, I have a sprained ankle I’m taking a cab.

So Micha and Alex and myself hopped in a cab and headed out to Mayfair. I called Mr M along the way to apologise for being late, and we ended up getting there in record time. K was not impressed – his time is worth some $13,000 per hour, and he was taking a whole hour and a half to speak with us.

K gave us a talk on the core success principles of business, the number one being time management. His unique philosophy of building organisations and the way he pictures his role in them is incredible, as is his attitude on life, selflessness and contributing service to the world. He is actually about to launch a new business, http://www.datingadviceline.com, which is likely to revolutionise the way that dating advice is dispensed to both men and women worldwide.

Following K’s talk we raced back to Rockstar East to grab lunch and meet up with Dr Yen. Yen gave us a talk on sexual readiness, from the basis like logistics and condoms to the essential like STDs and contraction rates to the “dark side” like multiple orgasms and exuding sexuality. He also taught us a powerful eye contact technique that involves visualising the nastiest, dirtiest sexual acts possible with a girl while talking to her to turn her on.

The afternoon finished up with Vercetti leading a body language and body awareness workshop which was absolutely amazing. Vercetti not only can teach it extremely well, but he embodies everything that he teaches as well. Highlights included dramatic movement as a predatory animal, learning how to release tension from our body with breathing and guided relaxation as well as a range of non-standard muscular motions to better tone subcommunications and control. My only regret was that with a sprained ankle I couldn’t do all the exercises.

We were supposed to have a conference call with Dr Gabe about sexual health, but because of poor planning we found ourselves 45 minutes late to the talk. Josh summed up the main points for us.

Vercetti came down hard on us for not pushing our comfort zones enough in the first 5 days of Rockstar. Part of this is poor scheduling and coordination between the mentors and the Rockstars, but at the same time, I can’t help but to feel responsible for not pushing myself enough either. Instead of having a proper sit-down meal (we can kiss that idea goodbye for the next 8 weeks), we grabbed whatever we could find on Brick Lane and headed to Rockstar East to regroup and then out for infield.

The infield was lead by Bugsy and Vercetti, and we were joined by one of our wealth mentors, Jeff, and entrepreneurial genius and mentor B from Norway. KingOfHearts arrived later too. We headed to OnAndOn to begin our nighttime infield. Jeff and Micha went on a date with 2 girls they had met earlier in the week. The rest of us combed through the club practicing various elements of game. Bugsy really pushed hard for me to practice what is known as “being sociable”. I was actually more interested in just practicing fast escalation game, so I ended up with a weird combination of the two over the course of the night.

The Sets (that I remember)

2 Korean girls – opened with hi. Bantered with the cuter one for a long time, while some random guy talked to the other. Vercetti dropped by and said “kino” (physical escalation) at some point, but every time I let her go she would backturn me. In the end I gave up and decided to move on.

Birthday group – a big set of guys and girls celebrating a birthday. 2 had a halo/devil horns on. Bugsy pushed me to open the group, despite me not wanting to. I started by talking to one of the guys, who told me that it was one of the girl’s birthdays and that they were supposed to be in costume… he also told me that she was single Bugsy then pushed me to later open the two girls in costume, which I did, and he joined the group and we talked with them for a while, teasing the girls and engaging them. Nothing really came out of the set, but my key takeaway was this: you can open situational, and be aware of what’s going on in the group. In this case, they were sitting completely bored in a nightclub… and bringing energy and fun to them only adds value.

Afterparty girls – this set spans the entire night. I bumped into Bugsy as I was leaving the birthday group and engaged the two girls. Fast physical escalation game coupled with lots of teasing. I eventually found out that Josh had engaged the set earlier and that they wanted to hang out with us later. We bumped into them and their entire group throughout the whole night, and flirted with them. Eventually we invited them all back to Rockstar East for an afterparty. More on this later.

J-girl – I can never seem to escape the allure of j-girls. Cute, fantastic skin and that awesome Japanese voice… I opened her with hi, and immediately started physical escalation. Pulled her in, smelled her hair, hands around her neck, face-to-face. I tried to kiss her a couple of times but she wasn’t quite ready yet. After a bit she became insistent on finding her friend (who I had seen earlier and was not impressed with), so I left.

Bugsy’s Breast Girls – Bugsy pulled me into this group of three girls he had just opened and started talking to about breast size, shapes and colouration. I chatted and practiced being sociable with them for quite a bit, then decided to leave.

Other sets – random girls I grabbed and said hi to, some winging for the other Rockstars. Nothing much here.

The Afterparty

A couple of the Rockstars (myself included) and some of the instructors ended up bringing the afterparty group back to Rockstar East. We grabbed wine along the way, and upon arriving at Rockstar East we discovered a bunch of random people partying there. Bugsy and I headed out to get wine glasses and open more sets, but received a call that we were needed back. I spent the rest of the time playing host and allowing the appropriate isolations to take place. One of the Rockstars ended up getting a blowjob in a downstairs bedroom, before the girl’s friends decided to take her home. All-in-all it was a fun experience and showed just what was needed to take groups of people home from clubs from an afterparty.

More Rockstar parties are planned for the future.

Afterwards, Bugsy, KoH and myself stumbled out to Brick Lane. KoH ended up crashing at Rockstar West, but made a last-minute booty call and ended up at his French girl’s house for the night.

Words of Wisdom (K, Yen, Vercetti, Bugsy, KoH)

• Entrepreneurship principles from K.
• How to do PC exercises properly from Yen.
• “The look” from Yen. Imagine having the dirtiest sex possible with a girl while talking to her and making eye contact.
• Body language, subcommunications and awareness from Vercetti. Use drama-style exercises to increase your own bodily awareness and control.
• Being sociable: just keep hammering away at it and you’ll get in eventually (Bugsy).
• Sexual framing via either/or statements (credit: Bugsy).

Highlights of the Day

• Yen’s talk on sexual readiness and making your cock as hard as marble.
• K’s philosophy on life. Wow.
• The fun and after at OnAndOn.

- Aaron P

Day 05: Casualties of War

The What

The physical, mental and emotional strains of Project Rockstar are starting to show.

Claude has a nasty virus that’s keeping him in-and-out of the sessions, Micha has a rising fever and I sprained my ankle during a training session with R (more on this later).

Today we had an all-day session with Dr Stuart Sandler about using cognitive-behavioural therapy techniques to set and achieve goals, and to overcome approach anxiety. The most fascinating thing for me out of the morning discussion was the concept that successful people – without a fail – are willing to throw their lives out of sync for a period of time to achieve a goal. This is very similar to what I was personally doing earlier this year when I was building up my business to a certain standard of success. Mr M fully agreed, and so did Dr Sandler. This was reflected in the final goal-setting prerequisite: the goal must be worded in the *now* to force your physiology and psyche into taking action.

The afternoon session was about approach anxiety and escalation anxiety, and about how to handle it. In this area, desensitisation and repeated exposure works wonders, as do some of the CBT techniques that Dr Sandler discussed. I personally still have some degree of approach anxiety and escalation anxiety. My approach anxiety is centred around logistics and “the right moment”. A lot of the time, I’ll see a set and just feel that it isn’t right to approach at that time (because they’re ordering a drink, because of where they’re standing or whatever). After today’s workshop, the thought I came away with was “there is never a perfect time to open”, so I will just do it. My escalation anxiety… I need to explore it a lot more and run the train more.

After Dr Sandler’s workshop we were given something of a reprieve in the form of a 2 hour break – I jetted back to Rockstar West to take a powernap. We then met up with R, our personal trainer. I went over my sprained ankle with him, and he told me basically: stay off your feet as much as possible, ice it 2-3 times a a day and take ibuprofen. After that we met with KingOfHearts and A (don’t know his screen name). We grabbed some food nearby and KoH talked to us about what we wanted to get out of the night. I was a bit divided over pushing for a one-night stand and getting to know the local barstaff as we were heading out in our neighbourhood. In the end, we decided to just go out and have fun.

Even though my ankle was swollen and hurting, I decided to go out – I’m here to learn after all. KoH was extremely encouraging, and not an overly-pushy the way a lot of instructors are. On the way from the restaurant, I went directly complimented a brunette British girl, and we talked for a bit. In retrospect I should have asked for her number and invited her to our housewarming party this weekend, but I didn’t. A (the instructor) told me to always ask for a girl’s number in street or daygame, because the probabilities dictate that you will never see her again. We bounced to a salsa bar nearby, stayed for a bit then moved. We headed to a more casual bar. KoH demonstrated opening and holding a set of guys and girls and Conor joined him. He then asked me to talk to a seated set of 2 girls, who were part of a larger party of 10 or so. I hesitated a couple of times then went. KoH wanted me to use his patented nuclear-bomb direct group opener, but I refrained. I just opened with hi. The two girls were extremely friendly, and we talked quite a bit about travel and London. At some point I ran out of things to say, and bid them a good evening and left. Talking with KoH, he told me that I need to just plough, plough and plough. In laymen’s speak this means to just continue talking to the group repeatedly until they accept that you’re just going to stay there. To achieve this, I think I need to explore my conversational threads more, and perhaps even formulate some type of routine stack.

I ended up talking with two Asian girls for the rest of the night. I was not particularly attracted to either, but Alex wanted to practice talking to girls in English, so we stayed. It was a bit strange. I continuously tested touching the girl I was talking to, seeing if I could escalate but while she remained flirtatious and pulled silly faces and the sort she was having none in terms of touching. After a half hour or so we had exchanged contact information and we decided to leave. KoH suggested that we bounce the girls to the next bar, and proceed to show us how to do so: tell a funny story, and create an emotional high and then suggest the bounce.

We bounce, but lost the girls (walking through the streets) at some point. KoH opened a cute blonde in the venue we bounced to, while Adam and I observed. After that my ankle was really starting to swell up and I decided to leave and rest up. The coming days are going to be tough, with all sorts of seminars, daygame and nightgame sessions planned, not to mention our whirlwind trip through Munich and Stockholm where we will be interacting with others 24/7.

Words of Wisdom (from KingOfHearts and A)

• Bouncing girls to another venue and then just leaving them there is fine. Girls do it to guys all the time.
• Plough, plough, plough, plough. Until they just accept that you’re staying there.
• Always try to number-close girls on the street. You will never get another chance.
• Don’t worry as much about physical escalation – that is one route you can take, but conversational escalation is more important. Move off mundane every-day topics as soon as possible and go into more sexual conversations as soon as possible (e.g., discussion of threesomes).
• Don’t worry that much about reading a girl’s signals. The best guys at pickup just have the mindset of “I’m hot, and she likes this because other people have liked this before and if she doesn’t like this she’s kinda weird.” This is the mindset of “if they’re still there, she’s interested.”
• Different approaches to game: if you haven’t done it before, do it until you know that you can do it. Then you will see that you have an option of whether you want to take that approach or not.

Highlights of the Day

• 4 of the 6 Rockstars being out of commission for one reason or the other. We need to man up.
• KoH suggesting that we bounce the Asian girls to Rockstar West haha.
• Vishal on his date with his hot and sexy daygame girl from yesterday (I believe he’s with her now!)

- Aaron P