Project Rockstar 2010 – Application FAQ

Project Rockstar 2010 has been officially announced.

This year it’s being spearheaded by Jeremy Soul, and is going to be set in London and Stockholm (also known as heaven on Earth). I expect this year’s Project Rockstar to be vastly different from last years – different emphases, less hectic travel schedules, hopefully less swine flu… and for the first time ever, the inclusion of both female participants and dating coaches.

Small side tangent:

Soul, Starlight and myself did an experimental “trial run” last week in San Francisco – we took a group of 6 women out on the town, and taught them how to cold approach and talk to guys. Starlight has a copy of the mindmap we came up with over at his blog: http://www.thestarlightblog.com/2010/02/girl-game-girls-get-a-strategy-to-meet-mr-right-in-san-francisco/

The distinctions we came up with are pretty fascinating. Openers work differently, the structure of emotional progression works differently, and going for the “close” goes differently.

It was a great learning experience all around, and I’m sure I’ll share some of the insights with some of my female friends over the coming weeks.

Back to Project Rockstar:

I’ve gotten a lot of questions about if people should apply, how much it’s going to cost, was it worth it, what’s involved, how to write an application etc etc… so I thought I’d answer some of the more common questions here.

Who is this suitable for?

If you are male, or female, and want more out of your life in general, you should consider applying. You are going to learn more than just how to date pretty much whoever you want – you are going to learn about social circles, about different ways to make and manage money, and different ways to live your life. The way it turned out last year, the remaining Rockstars at the end were all around 20-30 years of age. I don’t think that age matters that much if you are committed to making a change if your life. If you think you have what it takes – apply!

How much will/did it cost?

The answer is: it depends. If you live in the UK and you plan properly, you can probably do it for $2,000 or so. If you live abroad, you have to factor in plane tickets to-and-from Europe. I personally spent about $15,000 last year, though that was flying business class to-and-from the US, staying in nice hotels and eating out most of the time. Living in a convenient area in London, perhaps striking up a deal with a local Chinese restaurant to deliver takeout nightly and good planning will go a long way to reducing your costs.

Was it worth it?

Absolutely. Two events stand out to me from last year: 1) When my business started to take off, and 2) Project Rockstar. I saw it as an 8-week investment into improving my life – a chance to get away from old anchors and habitual patterns, and to both do something different and learn about a completely new way of living socially. It really comes down to asking if you’re willing to put on hold everything in your life for 6 (in my case 8 ) weeks, and walk away with more mentors, knowledge, experience, contacts and capabilities than the average person acquires over 2 lifetimes. Over that 8 weeks I also made friendships that will be with me for the rest of my life. Was it worth it? Fuck yeah.

How has life been since Project Rockstar?

I’m not going to go into personal details, but… one of the models we learnt over Project Rockstar was that of Health, Wealth and Relationships. I personally like to add in an extra section that I call “Happiness”. My life has gained momentum in all four areas since the end of Project Rockstar. I am doing things in all four areas that I would never have considered possible before. More importantly, it is continuing to gain momentum, and I have a much clearer picture of where I am headed over the next couple of years.

Will you (Whim) be involved in Project Rockstar 2010?

Most likely yes, I’ll be involved as a mentor. I am keen on teaching some online marketing strategies to the Rockstars for 2010, probably closer to the end of the program. I will also likely teach modules in productivity and efficiency – I taught a Cliff Notes version to the Rockstars as an impromptu session last year, and it blew them (and the lucky Rockstar mentors who got cc’d on the email) away.

What should I write in my application?

Ahhh… The million dollar question. It really depends – what sort of person are you, and how much effort are you willing to put in?

This is almost like a job or college application – take your time, think it through, present your best self, and use proper grammar and punctuation.

Keychain actually has a great guide up here: http://www.adventuresofkeychain.com/2009/06/18/how-to-get-into-project-rockstar-09-directors-cut/ – I actually wish I had seen that last year

Here’s what I did to write my application last year:

1. Read the entire Project Rockstar 2008 thread. If you’re on The Lounge, you can see the notes I posted up as a summary from it. This year you have the threads from 2008 and 2009 to read.
2. Read everything Mr M has ever published. This year my suggestion would be read and watch everything Jeremy Soul has up online.
3. Wrote a preliminary draft.
4. Mulled over it for a week.
5. Reread my draft, and rewrote it.
6. Thought long and hard about what value I could bring to the program – what does someone like Mr M / Soul value? What value can I bring to their lives by being part of Rockstar? What value can I bring to the other Rockstars by being part of the program?
   
7. Rewrote my application again.
8. Gave my application to a bunch of friends who I innately trust, to read and reread and proofread.
9. Rewrote my application again.
10. Sent it in.

More tips:

• Use proper grammar and punctuation. I can’t emphasise this enough.
• Don’t be afraid to ask. Alex Flair, Micha and myself have all offered to field questions on The Attraction Forums for people interested – so ask away.
• First-received-first-read. Applications are being taken on a rolling basis this year, so the sooner you get it done, the higher your chances of being selected.
• Be honest. Present your best self, but tell the truth.
• Reputation is everything. A lot of you have likely been on Love Systems programs, and have rapport with your former instructors/approach coaches. I’m not saying that it’ll help, but you know a huge part of Project Rockstar is social networking…
• Go for maximum impact. Get to the point and convey your passion – for life! This is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. So make it count.

- Aaron P

THE END……What Have I learned…

I not really sure what this impact have had on my life but I think it definitely changed the way my children’s going to look.

I came here high on life after I got the call from Mr.M that Monday 13 days before rockstar. I don’t think I told anybody that I applied a while before so it probably came as a shock to somebody “dad” around me. I don’t think that I’ve been more excited about anything in my life this was as cool as it would be.  I came here with the aspirations to become a dating coach then go to school a few months later. I was going to start up a form an e-commerce then stay behind in London just hitting the clubs and be sarging like crazy. I was on a high in life.

I don’t think I could have been more wrong of what to expect, I now know that not even the people organizing this “event” knew what was supposed to be the product of it.  It was crazy in the begin and I’m not surprised that one dropped out.

So am I disappointed at the experience that this has been. Absolutely not, this has been such a learning experienced that has open up my eyes for what’s possible for me in my life. Partially because the things we were taught and mostly because the people that I’ve met during the journey.

This was marketed as away to work and wealth, health and relationships. Well I took and threw the health part out of the window when it came down to choose what to do in the schedule that didn’t have room for anything. So with two things to focus on you might think that I would have time to work hard on them, but no. I don’t really remember anything the first weeks of rockstar so it’s going to be interesting to read the book and to go back on my blogposts.

WHAT HAVE I LEARNED THEN…

Game: Game is f*****n easy and fun. I have some kickass memories with the guys out hitting on women. We all came here as “ordinary” people not socially awkward and some beginner’s skill in game, we were all very different in the way we interacted with women and turned in to a cool crew of guys. I came in with a clunky outer game and poor inner game. My biggest problem with women was that I had no skills in how to create the emotional connection with woman. I had easier to pull same night lays and being sexual, which turned out to be a good skill in Vegas. I look back at what I’ve learned in all these classes and I can’t really remember. I now have a moleskine notebook full of notes that I need to goo trough and map out. But I know that I’m really good now. How can I do that if I can’t put my fingers on what I’ve learned? It’s more of a feeling inside of me, I’ve had more than enough of positive reference experience with women now to now that I’m good.  I don’t know if there is anything that scares me on a night with a roll probably, but I’ll most likely do it anyway.

What is that I feel? I would like to say that I feel more complete as a man of what I can do, I’m not controlled by my fears. I can run after a beautiful woman if I see her on the streets. I don’t have to wonder what if I did approach her. I came here with a desire to connect with women and not to sleep with as many as possible. I think I coming really close to my goal I’ve been seeing one girl now for little while and it’s a good and new feeling to hang out with her.  It has also removed my desire to go after absolutely everything with two legs and breast that’s hot. I don’t know why, but she told me I could go on as usual since I’m a part of rockstar. I have honestly tried to hit on other women but I don’t have any desire for the moment and I have now abounded the idea of me being a guy that would like multiple relationships.  I would actually give it a go if I was staying in London with this girl, but for now I just enjoy the good feeling she is giving me, who knows what can happen in the future. I now feel comfortable with the idea that I can build relationships with women. So I can’t say anything more than mission accomplished, and thanks to all the instructors and fellow rockstars that has been there for the journey.

Business: I have now started to think about life in completely different new angle of what is possible to do for a living. I come from a blue collar family where it’s taking pride to work for the system and being a part of society and pull your weight. Practically all my friends in my hometown are hard workers in some form, and so is my family. I never even thought in the terms that we have been talking about here in rockstar.  I had some small ideas but nothing this planned out, I now know where I’m going and what I’m setting out to do. I now know where to aim my energy thanks to fellow rockstar and now friend Aaron. He showed me what is possible in the world of online marketing and talked and inspired with his way of life. The more we talked the more I saw how I think it suits me as a worker, and I’m now setting out to hit my goals. I came here to e inspired and to learn new ways of making a living. I know that I can work the living shit out of my body and be pulling 80 workweeks in freezing cold snow and water whipping up on. I’m now 27 almost 28 years old and I can already feel how my body is going to fall apart due to damage I got from working my ass off for somebody else. I’m never going to back to way of life I was living before it’s just not a possibility in my reality. I know look for the feeling in this area of life as I have with women. It’s the feeling of you don’t care if you lose, you can always get more money/women. I GOT THIS SHIT HANDLED. It means that there is room for improvement but you know what you are doing. So get back to me in three months and we will see where I am. I will consider that my goal here is almost achieved as it changed so much during the path of rockstar, but I’m happy with the outcome of it.

Health: well I have had two home cooked meals since I entered rockstar, both of them thanks to my dear friend that I stayed with in Stockholm. So as you may imagine I’m not in any better shape than before I was rockstar. I made it an active choice to skip training and focus my time on other the other task since I got easy access to this since before.  I got a diet and workout schedule being taken care of as soon as I touch ground in my hometown anyway.

So what’s going to happen now, well I’m going to my home town until at least New Years Eve. My purpose is to too work in peace and quiet, since I’m really tired of the shitty living standard the London flats have to offer at staggering prices. I’m going back to Sweden as results in the debate where I would get the most work done. But I’ll be back out in the world really soon. The goal is to join the other Rockstar in mars to start a real rockstar mansion hitting it big in the states. Yes it will be revealed later but we’re all going to take our supernova to the max. Be sure to check out this blog later next year.

Instructorship: Do I still want to be an dating coach? Do I want to be a part of the community? The dreaded LSS!!! These are questions that I asked myself and I’m not as sure as I was eight weeks ago. First of all rockstar has been a lot of Approach coaching since it’s a good way to become good yourself and teaching others, a little bit too much in my taste. I didn’t really feel that competent in the beginning at first, I have now risen to the challenge and feel comfortable taking a newbie out and help him, I don’t enjoy it really today thouh.  I really need some time away before I can take a decision in if I want to peruse the goal of instructorship. Because what guys don’t get is you don’t get paid to go out and pick up women, you get paid to go out to hold grown man in the hand and tell them that the hot blonde over there won’t kill you when you tell her she looks good. I can and have approached instead of sending away student to women when I was AC’ing during rockstar and I don’t regret it. That’s how I had some of the most interesting interactions so far, and how I met some of the most interesting people around the world. I will make up my mind to New years eve if this is something I want to put my time and effort in. But in the meantime if you’re in Oslo at the end of this month 28th of Nov make sure to check out Day Game expert Jeremy Soul. He’s having one of his day game seminar and I will be there to help out.

But tanks to all the readers this has been super fun and I will get out of the community, at least for a while but you never know. I need to focus on other thing in my life right now.

The guys I would like to thanks for this awesome experience are:

Vishal (cya NYE)

Aaron, Alex, Josh (rockstar mansion Vegas is waiting for us)

Jeremy Soul (cya NYE and thnx for the time in STHLM)

Vercetti you big hug bear….

Keychain have to do some more day game shenanigans with you.

Dr. Yen my pc-muscle is growing every day thnx to you J

London Playboy thnx for the torture garden ticket.

All the instructor and business mentors that have been there and a part of this journey thanks for your contribution, 5.0, Sheriff, Jeff, Kunal, London wizard, Paladin, Alex Sargent and a few more. I hope to meet up with a lot of you guys again.

Last to be mentioned Mr.M you have had a huge impact on the way my life turned out, and you keep on having a huge influence in my life. A really hope I can show you my gratitude one day but for now SUCK IT.

And Adam I would like to percived as Suave, charming Swede with absolutely Dazzling smile so don’t fabricate anything.

Stay classy

-Micha

Ps. Sandra is a dork, but a cool one

Build the supernova

Days 23 & 24: Rain

It’s been pretty quiet for the past couple of days.

We did some infield with Keychain (shop game), but I was being obnoxious and he sent me home

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…just kidding. I was dead tired and my brain has been going through overdrive processing game information that I needed to just sit and do nothing and let it process.

We had a talk from London Playboy (http://www.thesocialcoach.com/) about stripper game – it’s exactly the same as normal game, except you have less room for error, and you need to watch for what he calls “stripper IOIs” rather than the usual IOIs.

The rest of the guys went out to a stripclub to practice their newfound stripper-pulling abilities while I rested up  – for some 12 hours or something.

Today we had a health check-in with Miki, then an NLP session with Jamie Salad of Salad Ltd (http://www.saladltd.co.uk). Jamie with over a bunch of high-level concepts like happiness and life goals and we just explored them in a sort-of pseudo-trance for three hours. I’m not sure yet exactly what I learnt from it, but when I review my notes later I’m sure there are a couple of gems in there.

Tonight we are all busy catching up on administrative work and packing for Vegas.

- Aaron P

Days 16 & 17: Oktberfest & Aftermath

Monday
On Monday we went out to enjoy Oktoberfest.

Actually, we were supposed to go to Erotik Messe (adult convention) and have Mr M teach us pornstar game… but we arrived there to find the convention centre eerily quiet and empty, only to find out that the convention was running on the weekends only.

And so, we went to Oktoberfest, where Mr M made it his number one priority to get us drunk on beer and hitting on girls.

There really isn’t that much to say about what happened – I’ll just let the pictures tell the story:

I ended up having late-night tapas with Vyron and Keychain afterwards. Keychain had pulled a busty German blonde early that day, and with facilitation from Vyron’s couch and a dirndl had quite a bit of fun. I’ll let him tell that story though

Tuesday
Not much happened today, except for our flight back to London. We’ll be taking care of some housekeeping in London before heading out to Stockholm for some adventures in Soul.

Now that I think about it, there are two blogworthy items here.

The first was Vishal spotting Rachel Bilson at the airport. He comes up to me and says “Aaron, don’t look back but there’s an actress behind you.” The terrible thing about this was that it made me (and everyone else) super-nervous and we just let her walk away. For reference, I found this photo on Google:

It’s interesting though – I have no idea who Rachel Bilson is, and if someone had said “veto” I would have just gone, unaware of her social status or value. I suppose this goes to show just how much of this is all in our heads, beliefs and what we know (or don’t know) about the world. It’s also made me realise that having as much fun as I have had so far in Rockstar, there is still a long way to go. That natural instinct, which Daxx spoke so passionately about a couple of weeks ago, is still not there in me. In my mind, I can picture a bunch of the lads from back home, completely unaware of “approach anxiety” or the Community or pickup or social dynamics, spotting some hottie actress and saying “first one to get her number gets a beer!”

Takeaways

• Don’t get Mr M drunk. And don’t let Mr M get you drunk.
• Internalisation. I need to spend more time internalising what I have learnt, and applying it throughout. When asked to approach, there is little anxiety or hesitation, but even then, there is that tiny splinter left. It’s time to pluck it out and move onto the next level.

Highlights of the Day

• Vishal and I spotted 3 cute girls on the plane. I passed him a note- “Jailbait anyone?” He wrote back- “I’d trade a month for that!” LOL

- Aaron P

end of munich bootcamp. Day 15

Sunday… I’m knackered. Didn’t go to bed until five a clock. We head down for the bootcamp for debrief of the students, me and Vish’ head out in Munich as the class commences again.

It’s one of the first time we just get to stroll around in the centre of Munich without being stressed. I jusy realised that I would like to have a few days in the city to actually explore it. I don’t want anybody to ask me now what I’ve seen on this trip. This trip hasn’t been anything more the about chasing women, I don’t think that it’s a bad thing but I would love to have more time here.

We then did the ritual dinner after bootcamp with the guys and started to discuss if we were going out. The german country captain had a great idea so instead of clubs we got in the cab and told him to bathouse. He laughed at us and started to talk about taking us to a proper bathouse with “happy endings” we got him to take us to the right place after we disappointed him, and told him we only wanted a sauna.

The bathouse was awesome. We headed in and we all rented “towels” that turned out to be tabelcloth, it was huge. Me, Vercetti, Vishal and josh came wrapped up and looked at each other bursting out in laughter. Mr M the only one that had shorts almost ended up on the floor in laughing attack. I noticed as soon as I entered the steamroom that this was a nude and unisex sauna. This must have been 10 game heaven as all the women were hot. So hot that Alex even tried to pick one up in the sauna, his french charm didn’t hit though.

Then me, vercetti and keychain (since all the rockstars got no urge for adventure) headed out for some midnight fun in munich on a sunday. We started out at a “burlesque” themed club that had a interesting way of keeping you occupied while you took a leak- HARDCORE PORN on monitors. We rolled on after the total shock of german culture to another wierd club with naked people on the walls. There I got veto’ed by Keychain and crashed hard, another veto boyfriend show up. He finally picked a few girls that hooked good then he showed up to wing. Game on we did everything and was doing good, vercetti decided to leave and we stayed behind. It was a long night and good fun buit no same night lay due two logistics, ended up in bed with keys instead.

Haha that’s how adventures happen and I think that this weekend was the start of a few crazy weeks that I have no idea on how there going to end.

Cya

-love Micha

Day 15: Relaxing

We started off the day with the last day of the Munich Bootcamp. Mr M gave probably the most comprehensive talk ever on qualification, followed by a talk on comfort. Keychain also talked about sexual escalation and logistics.

The students had a great debrief session, with each recognising where they were at in terms of infield ability and what they needed to do next.

Following the end of the bootcamp, we had dinner with a couple of the students before Vyron took us all to a local bathhouse.

This was fascinating. Growing up in Australia and living in America, I wasn’t really sure what to expect. Basically it’s a traditional (Greek / Roman I believe) bath house, where you walk around in the nude between steam rooms, a sauna, a cooling pool and shower areas. And yes, men and women of all shapes, sizes and age do this.

It was fascinating – both from a cultural standpoint and also from a social dynamics standpoint. It took most of us (except Micha) about 20 minutes to get comfortable walking around and sitting in a sauna in the nude, and even then we used towels while walking between rooms.

Contrast this to the cute German girl who somehow ended up in the sauna and pool with us and happily threw off her towel despite her erect nipples. And yes, one of the Rockstars did hit on her haha.

The interesting takeaway from the experience was this – certain cultures have this environment where they grow up comfortable with their sexuality and doing things like sitting in the nude in a public bathhouse with complete strangers, and they’re not weirded out by this. Contrast this to say the sexual repression that happens in most English-speaking countries, and it explains a lot.

From a game standpoint, it also made me realise that a lot of the “the girl is weirded out by this” feelings that I have had during sexual escalation in the past was really coming from me. And the corollary to this is that the more comfortable I become with my own sexuality and openness, the more comfortable the women that I interact with will be.

Highlights of the Day

• Bootcamp students: The Polish online casino king and Dutch porn comic artist.
• Polish online casino king, when asked if he gambles: “No, I don’t understand why people gamble.”
• Keychain imitating a tired penis following ejaculation: “Ugh… no way.”
• Josh to Alex in the bathhouse: “Alex, pull down your pants and come over here.”
• Finding out that Vercetti spent the night with some German girl.

- Aaron P

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