THE END……What Have I learned…

I not really sure what this impact have had on my life but I think it definitely changed the way my children’s going to look.

I came here high on life after I got the call from Mr.M that Monday 13 days before rockstar. I don’t think I told anybody that I applied a while before so it probably came as a shock to somebody “dad” around me. I don’t think that I’ve been more excited about anything in my life this was as cool as it would be.  I came here with the aspirations to become a dating coach then go to school a few months later. I was going to start up a form an e-commerce then stay behind in London just hitting the clubs and be sarging like crazy. I was on a high in life.

I don’t think I could have been more wrong of what to expect, I now know that not even the people organizing this “event” knew what was supposed to be the product of it.  It was crazy in the begin and I’m not surprised that one dropped out.

So am I disappointed at the experience that this has been. Absolutely not, this has been such a learning experienced that has open up my eyes for what’s possible for me in my life. Partially because the things we were taught and mostly because the people that I’ve met during the journey.

This was marketed as away to work and wealth, health and relationships. Well I took and threw the health part out of the window when it came down to choose what to do in the schedule that didn’t have room for anything. So with two things to focus on you might think that I would have time to work hard on them, but no. I don’t really remember anything the first weeks of rockstar so it’s going to be interesting to read the book and to go back on my blogposts.

WHAT HAVE I LEARNED THEN…

Game: Game is f*****n easy and fun. I have some kickass memories with the guys out hitting on women. We all came here as “ordinary” people not socially awkward and some beginner’s skill in game, we were all very different in the way we interacted with women and turned in to a cool crew of guys. I came in with a clunky outer game and poor inner game. My biggest problem with women was that I had no skills in how to create the emotional connection with woman. I had easier to pull same night lays and being sexual, which turned out to be a good skill in Vegas. I look back at what I’ve learned in all these classes and I can’t really remember. I now have a moleskine notebook full of notes that I need to goo trough and map out. But I know that I’m really good now. How can I do that if I can’t put my fingers on what I’ve learned? It’s more of a feeling inside of me, I’ve had more than enough of positive reference experience with women now to now that I’m good.  I don’t know if there is anything that scares me on a night with a roll probably, but I’ll most likely do it anyway.

What is that I feel? I would like to say that I feel more complete as a man of what I can do, I’m not controlled by my fears. I can run after a beautiful woman if I see her on the streets. I don’t have to wonder what if I did approach her. I came here with a desire to connect with women and not to sleep with as many as possible. I think I coming really close to my goal I’ve been seeing one girl now for little while and it’s a good and new feeling to hang out with her.  It has also removed my desire to go after absolutely everything with two legs and breast that’s hot. I don’t know why, but she told me I could go on as usual since I’m a part of rockstar. I have honestly tried to hit on other women but I don’t have any desire for the moment and I have now abounded the idea of me being a guy that would like multiple relationships.  I would actually give it a go if I was staying in London with this girl, but for now I just enjoy the good feeling she is giving me, who knows what can happen in the future. I now feel comfortable with the idea that I can build relationships with women. So I can’t say anything more than mission accomplished, and thanks to all the instructors and fellow rockstars that has been there for the journey.

Business: I have now started to think about life in completely different new angle of what is possible to do for a living. I come from a blue collar family where it’s taking pride to work for the system and being a part of society and pull your weight. Practically all my friends in my hometown are hard workers in some form, and so is my family. I never even thought in the terms that we have been talking about here in rockstar.  I had some small ideas but nothing this planned out, I now know where I’m going and what I’m setting out to do. I now know where to aim my energy thanks to fellow rockstar and now friend Aaron. He showed me what is possible in the world of online marketing and talked and inspired with his way of life. The more we talked the more I saw how I think it suits me as a worker, and I’m now setting out to hit my goals. I came here to e inspired and to learn new ways of making a living. I know that I can work the living shit out of my body and be pulling 80 workweeks in freezing cold snow and water whipping up on. I’m now 27 almost 28 years old and I can already feel how my body is going to fall apart due to damage I got from working my ass off for somebody else. I’m never going to back to way of life I was living before it’s just not a possibility in my reality. I know look for the feeling in this area of life as I have with women. It’s the feeling of you don’t care if you lose, you can always get more money/women. I GOT THIS SHIT HANDLED. It means that there is room for improvement but you know what you are doing. So get back to me in three months and we will see where I am. I will consider that my goal here is almost achieved as it changed so much during the path of rockstar, but I’m happy with the outcome of it.

Health: well I have had two home cooked meals since I entered rockstar, both of them thanks to my dear friend that I stayed with in Stockholm. So as you may imagine I’m not in any better shape than before I was rockstar. I made it an active choice to skip training and focus my time on other the other task since I got easy access to this since before.  I got a diet and workout schedule being taken care of as soon as I touch ground in my hometown anyway.

So what’s going to happen now, well I’m going to my home town until at least New Years Eve. My purpose is to too work in peace and quiet, since I’m really tired of the shitty living standard the London flats have to offer at staggering prices. I’m going back to Sweden as results in the debate where I would get the most work done. But I’ll be back out in the world really soon. The goal is to join the other Rockstar in mars to start a real rockstar mansion hitting it big in the states. Yes it will be revealed later but we’re all going to take our supernova to the max. Be sure to check out this blog later next year.

Instructorship: Do I still want to be an dating coach? Do I want to be a part of the community? The dreaded LSS!!! These are questions that I asked myself and I’m not as sure as I was eight weeks ago. First of all rockstar has been a lot of Approach coaching since it’s a good way to become good yourself and teaching others, a little bit too much in my taste. I didn’t really feel that competent in the beginning at first, I have now risen to the challenge and feel comfortable taking a newbie out and help him, I don’t enjoy it really today thouh.  I really need some time away before I can take a decision in if I want to peruse the goal of instructorship. Because what guys don’t get is you don’t get paid to go out and pick up women, you get paid to go out to hold grown man in the hand and tell them that the hot blonde over there won’t kill you when you tell her she looks good. I can and have approached instead of sending away student to women when I was AC’ing during rockstar and I don’t regret it. That’s how I had some of the most interesting interactions so far, and how I met some of the most interesting people around the world. I will make up my mind to New years eve if this is something I want to put my time and effort in. But in the meantime if you’re in Oslo at the end of this month 28th of Nov make sure to check out Day Game expert Jeremy Soul. He’s having one of his day game seminar and I will be there to help out.

But tanks to all the readers this has been super fun and I will get out of the community, at least for a while but you never know. I need to focus on other thing in my life right now.

The guys I would like to thanks for this awesome experience are:

Vishal (cya NYE)

Aaron, Alex, Josh (rockstar mansion Vegas is waiting for us)

Jeremy Soul (cya NYE and thnx for the time in STHLM)

Vercetti you big hug bear….

Keychain have to do some more day game shenanigans with you.

Dr. Yen my pc-muscle is growing every day thnx to you J

London Playboy thnx for the torture garden ticket.

All the instructor and business mentors that have been there and a part of this journey thanks for your contribution, 5.0, Sheriff, Jeff, Kunal, London wizard, Paladin, Alex Sargent and a few more. I hope to meet up with a lot of you guys again.

Last to be mentioned Mr.M you have had a huge impact on the way my life turned out, and you keep on having a huge influence in my life. A really hope I can show you my gratitude one day but for now SUCK IT.

And Adam I would like to percived as Suave, charming Swede with absolutely Dazzling smile so don’t fabricate anything.

Stay classy

-Micha

Ps. Sandra is a dork, but a cool one

Build the supernova

Last day in town

Woke up absolutely trashed as usual, this city would without a doubt kill me if I wasn’t sober. It’s started to become a routine out of it now and it goes.

1. Wake up
2. Walk down to conference and grab 2 cups of coffee.
3. Call the guys and do unhealthy trashy breakfast.
4. Socialize with the crowd.

This day the breakfast was at Johnny rockets the burger joint across the street who does absolutely amazing milk shake’s and burgers. They don’t make burgers like that back at home.
Highlight of the dinner; the young teen waiter “what shake do you want, vanilla, strawberry or brownie” Vishal “brownie are fuckin kiddin’ me” with a dead serious face
Me and Vishal ran into Big Business and Dubbsy who was on their way to the strip with a group of day game student. We decided to join in without any after thought about it just to be able to see the strip during daytime. I was amazed about the no of women that was out, we started out ceasers palace. There was nothing out there to chase. The only women that I saw was either 65 years old or too young. The younger generation was definitely by the pool’s recuperating from yesterday clubbing.
After we doubled back to hotel to listen to Aaron on internet marketing, this guy really know what he’s talking about. I got really inspired by him, he really impressed with an organized presentation as well.

The next thing on the schedule was the social circle mastery class with Mr.M all this following without a proper break, in a real project rockstar management style. I have start to look at the end of this project it’s becoming so much information that I want to start to apply to my life.

I started to tex with girl from last night during the day, so our plans to take one slow night in vegas with a calm midnight walk at the strip went to hell. We ended up booking a table at XS at the wynn. I think it’s possible that it’s the coolest venue in Vegas, will go back there easy the next time I’m back in town. Clubbing in this city is amazing I feel like a golden god walking in that the women check out. I did a few cold approaches even tough I had a date here. I just couldn’t help my self it’s just to much fun. But I ended up in her arm literary and don’t regret it. I got home late as usual only to have a quick nap before I went to the airport.

Cya

-love Micha

Bootcamp Glory

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Instructors Night Out

Woke up today fresh after crashing completely yesterday of jetlag. We started out this morning with the worlds hidden masters again. What the were teaching resonated a lot with the social dynamics that we’re learning at the moment. On problem arrived I’m Scandinavian so I love the sun, sitting inside on a good day like this makes me depressed. I ran out in the sun as soon as the class was over just to get that warm feeling in my stomach. I love warm weather all year round and I moving away from Europe that is stated as a fact from today. Mr M taught us his inner game seminar today this one of the best seminar I’ve ever been to. He put a name to a lot of things that I kind of before but not really sure about. It’s the absolute fundamentals that you should actually take before a bootcamp, this will sort out so many problems that the “new guys” experience.

Have you ever felt lika a fat kid in a candy store. There’s how I felt in the nights venue, Tao that’s located in the Venetian. It’s probably the coolest club that I’ve entered. The whole instructor team and approach coaches were out, and this means trouble. I never rolled out with this many guys that had “game” it’s amazing. It was a slow start for me personally and I didn’t approach until I hooked up with Aaron and we took turns opening. It turned in to a lot of sets that night but only two that hooked good. This is the first time I had two women physically fighting over me while another one pulls my arm and tells me how hot I am. I love the person that came up with the phrase “what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas” the women here are crazy. Girl no 1 won the fight

Good night

Cya

-Love Micha

Day 30: The Matrix

The Day

I started the day with lunch with my buddy ZeroSum from SF and Vishal and Micha. I then had to prepare for the Rockstar-only Internet Marketing presentation I was putting on. It was funny, as Alex and I ran around looking for a projector, and somehow talked event services into giving us one for free

The talk went great, but was grossly overtime. My apologies to Alex for that!

Following that we sat in on Mr M’s Social Circle Mastery seminar. I have taken Braddock’s version of it in the past, and it’s always good to get a different perspective. Despite eight hours of sleep the prior night though, I was still physically shattered… and Vishal had booked a table at XS for the night. So around 10pm or so we headed off to get ready to head out.

The Night

Tonight was supposed to be all about chilling and relaxing and just having fun. Micha was supposed to arrive with his date and her six friends, but that never materialised

I was content to just chill and enjoy my last night in Vegas but the drinks started arriving and Vishal wanted to talk to girls, so off we went. It turned out a bunch of the other instructors (Future, Prestige, Keychain, Starlight) were at XS too. We ran a bunch of sets, most of them going nowhere for me although Vishal was on fire.

There was only one set really worth mentioning. Vishal had opened her friend, so I just decided to go up and go direct on her anyway. We got talking and flirting a bit and her friend and her sat down with us at our table. She was probably one of only about three really cool girls that I have met all year. Spanish-Chinese, cute, good personality, very independent and successful and extremely worldly. I loved every minute of the conversation… even if most of it was spent force framing everything she said sexually

I’m starting to wonder if my issues with not being able to emotionally connect with the majority of women is actually just because I’m looking for a very specific type of woman, and that the non-emotional connects need to be there first before the emotional connect can take place.

The set went great. We talked. I carressed her neck. She grabbed my tie. We kissed. We looked into each others eyes. We told each other how much we liked each other. She said she wanted to leave. I said in a bit.

Then at some point, everything abruptly ended. She turned to her friend, said something, then they got up and left. In retrospect, I know exactly what I had needed to say to make her stay, and what I needed to do logistically to have spent the night with her.

Beyond that though, is that I didn’t number-close or facebook-close or get her contact details… even if we didn’t hook up she was still be a fucking cool person to have as a friend. This annoys me more than not getting laid

In case you’re wondering, what I should have said was “Hey look. I really meant what I said. I think that you are an incredible woman, and even if I didn’t want to take you upstairs right now and do all sorts of dirty and nasty things to you, we would still hang out.” This would be followed up by grabbing her hand, pulling her up from the table and leading her from the table to her room with “Let’s go.”

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – attraction. I still need to do some real off-field work on this. But I did practice the basic strategy behind eliciting and framing all night… but there were still silent moments.
• Verbal Game – vibing. Combining California Pimp’s structure with Juggler’s will be interesting.
• Verbal Game – qualification. I’m using California Pimp-style questions for qualification. These basically qualify a girl on her identity as a woman, her compliance to you and her looks. I am going to start using these more as it’s a really good way to qualify girls who I’m not that into for non-emotional stuff (the majority of girls I meet), and they hit hard.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I need to make them a habit so that they just happen in set and have a repertoire of them to use.
• Logistical Escalation. Time to do some inner game work on this to make it a habit. The number-close should be automatic during spikes in attraction and the logistical lead should just happen. I should always be leading, rather than waiting for her to lead. This only changes at a certain point when we’re already in seduction.
• Physical Escalation.
• Takeaways.
• Delivery.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. See above.
• Identity & Beliefs. Still to work on: girls find me attractive, girls check me out, I am sexworthy, I am a man who makes things happen.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change).
• Boundary function.

Learnings

• More Awkward is Less Awkward when winging. Just fucking go in guns blazing and be dominant. Don’t blow wing out.
• I feel like my ability to see the social matrix is starting to skyrocket. I said to Vishal last night: “It’s weird dude. I can see exactly the probabilities of each set working out and where we’re going to lose them, and I can see all the approach invitations and all the high probability sets… but I don’t act on them. What I like about you, is that you don’t look at any of that stuff and you just act on it.”
• I’m realising that I am bloody good at reading when a set in interested, when they’re not, when they’re likely to open or not and to some extent the exact moment that myself or the other Rockstars will get blown out or have hooked the set. I need to capitalise on this ability more however, and have some default behaviours for advancing the interaction based on these reads.

- Aaron P

Day 27: So Close Yet So Far

Yet another strange day.

On the surface, things were phenomenal. A full day of superconference lectures and breakout sessions, and a great night out with students at Tao.

They were phenomenal – superb approaches, makeouts, handjobs in booths… it was all there

And now for the strange part: the realisation of my number one sticking point… and the realisation that there’s nothing I can do to fix it quickly. It came out of my post-workshop conversation with Sheriff. Most instructors have pointed out to me that they sense (with some confusion) that I almost don’t want to be at Project Rockstar. I usually get questions like “How much do you really want this?” or “Dude, why aren’t you pulling the trigger?”. Understandably, everyone thought that this was tied back to issues of sexual intent… and it kind of is, but it is actually a much larger issue than that. It is about emotional intent.

I spent a lot of time last night and this morning thinking about this, its origins and how to work on it.

It actually results in some pretty weird social interactions… like girls grabbing me to kiss me to try to work out if I like them. At the same time though, it’s also a major issue in my game.

The general solution is this: it will take time to work on, and will be a process of emotional opening up and connecting more with my emotions and the expression of them to others. Unfortunately this is not a quick process, and will take time. For the moment, I have to trust in myself that even though I am processing attraction at an intellectual and not an emotional level, the inner self always shines through. If I am talking to a girl, it is because I want to be there, even if I don’t find myself emotionally compelled to be there (that will come over time). Other people can most definitely pick up on my emotional state through my subcommunications, even if I don’t truly feel it myself yet. This is more about aligning my self-image with what is actually happening and trusting in myself more.

Resolving this sticking point will skyrocket my game. I know this. And now that I know this, it is something to work towards – I just wish I could get there faster.

- Aaron P

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