THE END……What Have I learned…

I not really sure what this impact have had on my life but I think it definitely changed the way my children’s going to look.

I came here high on life after I got the call from Mr.M that Monday 13 days before rockstar. I don’t think I told anybody that I applied a while before so it probably came as a shock to somebody “dad” around me. I don’t think that I’ve been more excited about anything in my life this was as cool as it would be.  I came here with the aspirations to become a dating coach then go to school a few months later. I was going to start up a form an e-commerce then stay behind in London just hitting the clubs and be sarging like crazy. I was on a high in life.

I don’t think I could have been more wrong of what to expect, I now know that not even the people organizing this “event” knew what was supposed to be the product of it.  It was crazy in the begin and I’m not surprised that one dropped out.

So am I disappointed at the experience that this has been. Absolutely not, this has been such a learning experienced that has open up my eyes for what’s possible for me in my life. Partially because the things we were taught and mostly because the people that I’ve met during the journey.

This was marketed as away to work and wealth, health and relationships. Well I took and threw the health part out of the window when it came down to choose what to do in the schedule that didn’t have room for anything. So with two things to focus on you might think that I would have time to work hard on them, but no. I don’t really remember anything the first weeks of rockstar so it’s going to be interesting to read the book and to go back on my blogposts.

WHAT HAVE I LEARNED THEN…

Game: Game is f*****n easy and fun. I have some kickass memories with the guys out hitting on women. We all came here as “ordinary” people not socially awkward and some beginner’s skill in game, we were all very different in the way we interacted with women and turned in to a cool crew of guys. I came in with a clunky outer game and poor inner game. My biggest problem with women was that I had no skills in how to create the emotional connection with woman. I had easier to pull same night lays and being sexual, which turned out to be a good skill in Vegas. I look back at what I’ve learned in all these classes and I can’t really remember. I now have a moleskine notebook full of notes that I need to goo trough and map out. But I know that I’m really good now. How can I do that if I can’t put my fingers on what I’ve learned? It’s more of a feeling inside of me, I’ve had more than enough of positive reference experience with women now to now that I’m good.  I don’t know if there is anything that scares me on a night with a roll probably, but I’ll most likely do it anyway.

What is that I feel? I would like to say that I feel more complete as a man of what I can do, I’m not controlled by my fears. I can run after a beautiful woman if I see her on the streets. I don’t have to wonder what if I did approach her. I came here with a desire to connect with women and not to sleep with as many as possible. I think I coming really close to my goal I’ve been seeing one girl now for little while and it’s a good and new feeling to hang out with her.  It has also removed my desire to go after absolutely everything with two legs and breast that’s hot. I don’t know why, but she told me I could go on as usual since I’m a part of rockstar. I have honestly tried to hit on other women but I don’t have any desire for the moment and I have now abounded the idea of me being a guy that would like multiple relationships.  I would actually give it a go if I was staying in London with this girl, but for now I just enjoy the good feeling she is giving me, who knows what can happen in the future. I now feel comfortable with the idea that I can build relationships with women. So I can’t say anything more than mission accomplished, and thanks to all the instructors and fellow rockstars that has been there for the journey.

Business: I have now started to think about life in completely different new angle of what is possible to do for a living. I come from a blue collar family where it’s taking pride to work for the system and being a part of society and pull your weight. Practically all my friends in my hometown are hard workers in some form, and so is my family. I never even thought in the terms that we have been talking about here in rockstar.  I had some small ideas but nothing this planned out, I now know where I’m going and what I’m setting out to do. I now know where to aim my energy thanks to fellow rockstar and now friend Aaron. He showed me what is possible in the world of online marketing and talked and inspired with his way of life. The more we talked the more I saw how I think it suits me as a worker, and I’m now setting out to hit my goals. I came here to e inspired and to learn new ways of making a living. I know that I can work the living shit out of my body and be pulling 80 workweeks in freezing cold snow and water whipping up on. I’m now 27 almost 28 years old and I can already feel how my body is going to fall apart due to damage I got from working my ass off for somebody else. I’m never going to back to way of life I was living before it’s just not a possibility in my reality. I know look for the feeling in this area of life as I have with women. It’s the feeling of you don’t care if you lose, you can always get more money/women. I GOT THIS SHIT HANDLED. It means that there is room for improvement but you know what you are doing. So get back to me in three months and we will see where I am. I will consider that my goal here is almost achieved as it changed so much during the path of rockstar, but I’m happy with the outcome of it.

Health: well I have had two home cooked meals since I entered rockstar, both of them thanks to my dear friend that I stayed with in Stockholm. So as you may imagine I’m not in any better shape than before I was rockstar. I made it an active choice to skip training and focus my time on other the other task since I got easy access to this since before.  I got a diet and workout schedule being taken care of as soon as I touch ground in my hometown anyway.

So what’s going to happen now, well I’m going to my home town until at least New Years Eve. My purpose is to too work in peace and quiet, since I’m really tired of the shitty living standard the London flats have to offer at staggering prices. I’m going back to Sweden as results in the debate where I would get the most work done. But I’ll be back out in the world really soon. The goal is to join the other Rockstar in mars to start a real rockstar mansion hitting it big in the states. Yes it will be revealed later but we’re all going to take our supernova to the max. Be sure to check out this blog later next year.

Instructorship: Do I still want to be an dating coach? Do I want to be a part of the community? The dreaded LSS!!! These are questions that I asked myself and I’m not as sure as I was eight weeks ago. First of all rockstar has been a lot of Approach coaching since it’s a good way to become good yourself and teaching others, a little bit too much in my taste. I didn’t really feel that competent in the beginning at first, I have now risen to the challenge and feel comfortable taking a newbie out and help him, I don’t enjoy it really today thouh.  I really need some time away before I can take a decision in if I want to peruse the goal of instructorship. Because what guys don’t get is you don’t get paid to go out and pick up women, you get paid to go out to hold grown man in the hand and tell them that the hot blonde over there won’t kill you when you tell her she looks good. I can and have approached instead of sending away student to women when I was AC’ing during rockstar and I don’t regret it. That’s how I had some of the most interesting interactions so far, and how I met some of the most interesting people around the world. I will make up my mind to New years eve if this is something I want to put my time and effort in. But in the meantime if you’re in Oslo at the end of this month 28th of Nov make sure to check out Day Game expert Jeremy Soul. He’s having one of his day game seminar and I will be there to help out.

But tanks to all the readers this has been super fun and I will get out of the community, at least for a while but you never know. I need to focus on other thing in my life right now.

The guys I would like to thanks for this awesome experience are:

Vishal (cya NYE)

Aaron, Alex, Josh (rockstar mansion Vegas is waiting for us)

Jeremy Soul (cya NYE and thnx for the time in STHLM)

Vercetti you big hug bear….

Keychain have to do some more day game shenanigans with you.

Dr. Yen my pc-muscle is growing every day thnx to you J

London Playboy thnx for the torture garden ticket.

All the instructor and business mentors that have been there and a part of this journey thanks for your contribution, 5.0, Sheriff, Jeff, Kunal, London wizard, Paladin, Alex Sargent and a few more. I hope to meet up with a lot of you guys again.

Last to be mentioned Mr.M you have had a huge impact on the way my life turned out, and you keep on having a huge influence in my life. A really hope I can show you my gratitude one day but for now SUCK IT.

And Adam I would like to percived as Suave, charming Swede with absolutely Dazzling smile so don’t fabricate anything.

Stay classy

-Micha

Ps. Sandra is a dork, but a cool one

Build the supernova

Day 38: A Night with London Playboy & Mr M

Day

We cancelled our session with Sasha as well, it just wasn’t going to work out. I checked into a hotel near Rockstar West. Did some daygame with Adam, Micha and Trackstar. I ended up practicing what I’m calling Micha game.

One of the Asian girls that I stopped during the post-work rush hour was interesting. She was cute, very cute. Strangely enough she was more nervous about the whole thing that I should have been… something along the lines of “oh my god, nobody ever says that to me.” Why I did not number-close her and set up a date I have no fucking idea… fuck this emotional intent stuff.

Night

Tonight actually marked the countdown of the final two weeks of Project Rockstar.

We were supposed to head out to Jalouse for their one year anniversary, so we rocked up to Loop at 9:30pm and met up with the Navy Seals. The line to get into Jalouse was absolutely insane, and they were enforcing their collared shirt policy with a vengeance. Micha and Vercetti ended up going to Jalouse, the rest of us rocked up to Movida.

We ended up doing essentially what were one-on-ones with London Playboy (http://www.thesocialcoach.com/) and Mr M. We also got to watch Mr M hit on a superhot blonde girl… it was awesomeness in action. Mr M also did an exercise where he hit on Alex and me as-if we were girls, so that we could model the vibe that he gives out in set. It was fucking weird (to us and to the bar staff and girls watching), and it’s going to take some unconscious uptake to integrate what I’ve learnt, but I’ll outline some of my notes about it below.

Here are the sets I did, and feedback from London Playboy and Mr M-

American Birthday Girls. London Playboy sent me in. I told him that I would be in there for 30 seconds to 1 minute then I’d be out. And I was right. Opened, intros all round, found out it was a birthday, waved to the birthday girl and started talking to her. Friends turned away, leaving me one-on-one with the birthday girl We talked for a while – my main focus has been on verbal game lately, so I wasn’t really physically escalating all that much. We just talked, and I started using some of the teases that I’ve been learning, like “so basically you think you’re better than me”. I got an emotional reaction – just not the one I wanted… she ended up apologising for what she said haha. #-closed and facebook-closed. Pinged her earlier today but haven’t gotten a response.

The only feedback from London Playboy about this set was to physically escalate more.

Blonde & Brunette. This was a two-set that I ran with London Playboy and Mr M sitting across from us on the opposite couch and listening in on the whole thing. I opened with hi, talked a bit then Jeff came in to wing me. I ended up talking to the blonde, Jeff to the brunette. The set didn’t really go anywhere – just a long conversation, lots of conversational and logical attraction, some frames set but no BT spikes. I got her facebook, but she wouldn’t give me her number. Ah.

There was a ton of feedback from London Playboy and Mr M about this set. The first one was sexual communication – talking overtly about sex in a comfortable and non-sleazy way. This is something I need to do and train. I also got feedback on my body language in seated sets, never to cross my legs, never to hold my hands together and to do bigger takeaways.

Winging Alex. Alex was talked to two hot brunettes. Turns out they were sisters and both models. One was dressed in a spring dress, the other in a Xena-looking leather gladiator outfit. We stood and talked for a while, then sat them down. Again, I ran intrigue-based attraction on the older sister, but I knew that it wasn’t doing it. I did fix a lot of body language and other things that Mr M & London Playboy had told me after the set before, but the girl kept looking away for other people to talk to. I’m seeing more and more now that what I need to do is start training my teasing neural nets, as being able to tease well is *the* foundation of verbal attraction game.

Apparently I improved a lot in this set (body language). Again, the weak point was a lack of state-based attraction and takeaways.

Sticking Points

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – opening, transitioning. Done.
• Verbal Game – attraction. Follow up with Sheriff. Teasing and Sexual talk neural net training. Practice intrigue-based attraction via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – vibing, qualification. Practice via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I need to list out more of these, add more emotional oomph to them and roll them into vibing/qualifiaction.
• Logistical Escalation. Getting better (especially locking in). Needs more field work though.
• Physical Escalation. Why did I take this away? Should be doing this *always*.
• Takeaways. I now have a good unconscious understanding of what this looks like. Time to start implementing.
• Delivery. As per takeaways.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. Yup, I’ve remembered to contact close in most of the sets I’ve done.
• Identity & Beliefs. Need to play around more with Micha-game.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Needs more exploration. Still not automatically doing this in set.
• Boundary function.
• Self-image. Loving myself more.
• Intent. The solution that London Playboy has suggested is to “fake it until you make it”. This is in body language, in verbals etc etc…

Learnings and Thoughts

• My biggest leverage point now is verbal attraction game, specifically teasing and sexual talk. I will practice these via written scenarios – I’m going to try to write out one per day.
• I made a commitment with Alex that every time we’re out, we are going to try to logistically escalate as far as we can and bounce girls back. Even if it’s just for practice.
• Quote from London Playboy about me: “You know what I like about this guy? Every time I tell him to do a set he complains about it and tells me why it won’t work and then he goes and does it.” I think this is a reflection of my inner game and self-image. I don’t really have that much of a formulation of how I view myself (in contrast to someone like Alex who truly loves himself). I am going to work on this.
• Speaking of London Playboy… could anyone ask for a better teacher? Very chill, does not pressure you with weird doses of social anxiety, very warm, and yet provides feedback you can actually put into use. Love it.

Mr M Hitting On Me

As I mentioned before, Mr M did a demo where he pretended that Alex and I were girls and hit on us, to allow us to model his vibe and game. Here’s what I learnt from it:

• Break rapport. Always. Lots of takeaways (BIG takeaways), on emotional high points.
• Non-sequitur teases.
• Sexual talk presented as just normal conversation. Like talking about sex positions.
• Insane eye contact and cockiness.
• Very dominant physical escalation. Face touches and strokes.
• Make the girl feel that she needs to comply.
• Physical game. Leaning on the girl, pushing into her etc etc
• Checking her out head-to-toe to build sexual tension.
• Cocky happy asshole vibe.
• The core of this is holding his own internal state and just throwing things out there to entertain himself.

- Aaron P

Days 23 & 24: Rain

It’s been pretty quiet for the past couple of days.

We did some infield with Keychain (shop game), but I was being obnoxious and he sent me home

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…just kidding. I was dead tired and my brain has been going through overdrive processing game information that I needed to just sit and do nothing and let it process.

We had a talk from London Playboy (http://www.thesocialcoach.com/) about stripper game – it’s exactly the same as normal game, except you have less room for error, and you need to watch for what he calls “stripper IOIs” rather than the usual IOIs.

The rest of the guys went out to a stripclub to practice their newfound stripper-pulling abilities while I rested up  – for some 12 hours or something.

Today we had a health check-in with Miki, then an NLP session with Jamie Salad of Salad Ltd (http://www.saladltd.co.uk). Jamie with over a bunch of high-level concepts like happiness and life goals and we just explored them in a sort-of pseudo-trance for three hours. I’m not sure yet exactly what I learnt from it, but when I review my notes later I’m sure there are a couple of gems in there.

Tonight we are all busy catching up on administrative work and packing for Vegas.

- Aaron P

The last day of Stockholm and Monday night stripper game

Last day in this wonderful country. It’s a weird feeling and I don’t want to leave. Stockholm really done it for me this time, I might actually move here some day even for just a short time. I will be back that’s for sure, It;s odd sometimes that you have to leave something before you appreciate it.

Well I woke up really late this morning and overslept for the morning session with a talk about qualification. I got to look at Aaron’s notes later (Thnx for the asian efficiency) I didn’t stress that much because everything this day was set down to be voluntary. I got in to town for the first infield session, I came in with a little bit of low state since it was raining quite bit. It’s not that hot to be out in the rain chasing skirt.

I rolled up with Vishal and Aaron, we got delegated to work with Bugsy. The day was slow the first of our approaches Aaron’s completely out of state and me and Vishal not feeling to moody in the pre-winter snow. I did a nice first approach at the corner of drottningatan ran into Ahlens a descent size shopping mall. After getting a grip from it and did a few really good approaches we ran into the other guys. Everybody liked our spot because it was in the cover of rain.

I then teamed up with the duo of Asian again Jeremy Soul and Vishal, we were a force to be reckoned with this weekend  I will wing anybody of these two at any time. I really had some realizations this weekend and it’s thanks to this two guys. We rolled out an some people followed and just had a really good time.

It turned out to be a really early evening for everybody except me. I had to leave for my flight 5 am in the morning so I took the grown up decision to stay out all night to just roll right out to the airport. we met up at the Scandic anglais as usual I took my red bull’s as usual a just decided to take it a slow night with the boys. There’s  my problem these days I can’t go out today and don’t talk to women. Had some fun set no really wicked set, except one that I had to abandon, I ahd made a promise to Fride (hmmmmm) it was worth it we had a really good conversation even if it was short then headed out to town. Ahh well we had a really nice night at Vish’s hotel.

Travel sucks I have started to fly as much now that I almost hate being at airport’s it’s not exciting anywhere in my body It’s just a huge waiting period and it’s boring.

Monday night and London Playboy showed up for a preparations talk for Vegas with stripper game witch was awesome. He knew his stuff and it’s always inspiring to listen to. We met with Mr.M at the spearminth’s rhino and got in for free (kudos Mr.M). The night was quite disappointing somebody tipped of the stripper we only were browsing and not buying (huff huff Narrator ) in his defense he didn’t know. So i tried and failed miserably i heard Hi-Roller did good but fucked up.

We headed out to tottenham court road to grab some food, that is hard 2 am tuesday morning. Mc Donalds was the choice for the boys but they didn’t have any chairs so the Indian boy in the crew deicided to run into Burger King with his food and eat it until security kicked his ass out.

Sitting here a few hours until Vegas so see you guys and watch some picture’s from stockholm and last night London.

Quote of today from Vishal: Micha you’re a viking a rapist.

Cya

-Love Micha

Day 09: The Most Important Day Yet

The What

Today was the most important day of Project Rockstar yet.

We started the morning with a continuation of M’s talk on business plans. Then we grabbed some lunch, and were given time to finish up on housekeeping and administrative tasks in preparation for our upcoming jaunt to Munich.

Following that we met up with Curran Padake, one of the old-guard in the Community and a former Pickup101 instructor. He gave us advice on daygame approaches, on using statements rather than questions and ran through some improv-style exercises on using facial expressions to convey messages rather than using words. He also very importantly pointed out the use of “check-ins” to keep the girl engaged in conversation.

The last session of the day was the one we were all looking forward to but were also uncertain about. It was a session of personalised feedback for each of the Rockstars with The Council (Mr M, London Playboy, Vercetti, 5.0, Dr Yen and Keychain). Over the past week or so they had taken their collective first impressions of us both in and out of field and formed notions of “this is what they need to change and consider in their lives”.

It was fairly brutal, but extremely constructive. The feedback was delivered in a such a way that it would have a huge impact on our thought processes and emotions, and drive us towards change and development. The questions and feedback I received from the instructors were pretty much dead-on: a couple were things that I’d recognised in myself in the past but thought were unchangeable. Others were things that I had no idea I was exuding, and it’s a completely liberating feeling to be able to have these things brought into conscious awareness.

In case you’re wondering, here’s what was pointed out to me:

• Lack of intent.
• Comes off as cold.
• Comes off as aloof and arrogant.
• Needs to appreciate a wider range of things.
• Needs to work on form.

I am starting to see that these things all tie back into my self-concept and self-image, which I’m believing more and more is the source of absolutely everything in life. I am going to begin work on this immediately, and we’ll see where it takes me over the next couple of weeks.

I really hope that we have one of these sessions every 2 weeks or so. It would be great to see what the result of field time and personal development does to our character over the next 7 weeks.

Highlights of the Day

• Council feedback session. Blew all of us away.
• Josh to Vishal: “you motherfucker, put your lips on this and suck it” (handing him a drink).

- Aaron P

Field work

Approach anxiety, I don’t feel it att all. It’s such a liberating feeling to see that gorgeous woman walking down the street and just go after her and tell her that you find her interesting. This what this day was all about. We met up with Dr.Yen and his “disciples” att covent garden for some day time pick up. We started even before Dr.Yen arrives and I think it’s wonderfull how easy it is here in London.

I donk’t think that anybody had anything att all. Even though during the day Dr.Yen had to scream and shout att people that his boots were coming somebody’s arse if nobody approach that hot girl.

Ok and the game veto has now started. The rules go like this if I’m out with att friend and see att hot girl and want him to approach. Then I just point att her and say veto, that removes all his excuses he then HAVE to approach no excuses are accepted. It’s att good way to get you going. I found out during the day that whenever I found somebody that was really attractive I just went for them myself.

It’s grueling walking around and picking up women sounds like alot of fun. It actually might be fun when you don’t have a fever and att bad stomache, in short picking up women when your sick sucks ass.

After walking around for hours me and the older guys went away with Darren from www.thesocialcoach.com a really old school guy who’s been around for a while. He was really cool and friendly and gave of att good vibe. Unfortunatly so did I feel like shit and ended up running home to go a sleep.

Maybe I feel better tommorow

Cya

-Love Micha

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