THE END……What Have I learned…

I not really sure what this impact have had on my life but I think it definitely changed the way my children’s going to look.

I came here high on life after I got the call from Mr.M that Monday 13 days before rockstar. I don’t think I told anybody that I applied a while before so it probably came as a shock to somebody “dad” around me. I don’t think that I’ve been more excited about anything in my life this was as cool as it would be.  I came here with the aspirations to become a dating coach then go to school a few months later. I was going to start up a form an e-commerce then stay behind in London just hitting the clubs and be sarging like crazy. I was on a high in life.

I don’t think I could have been more wrong of what to expect, I now know that not even the people organizing this “event” knew what was supposed to be the product of it.  It was crazy in the begin and I’m not surprised that one dropped out.

So am I disappointed at the experience that this has been. Absolutely not, this has been such a learning experienced that has open up my eyes for what’s possible for me in my life. Partially because the things we were taught and mostly because the people that I’ve met during the journey.

This was marketed as away to work and wealth, health and relationships. Well I took and threw the health part out of the window when it came down to choose what to do in the schedule that didn’t have room for anything. So with two things to focus on you might think that I would have time to work hard on them, but no. I don’t really remember anything the first weeks of rockstar so it’s going to be interesting to read the book and to go back on my blogposts.

WHAT HAVE I LEARNED THEN…

Game: Game is f*****n easy and fun. I have some kickass memories with the guys out hitting on women. We all came here as “ordinary” people not socially awkward and some beginner’s skill in game, we were all very different in the way we interacted with women and turned in to a cool crew of guys. I came in with a clunky outer game and poor inner game. My biggest problem with women was that I had no skills in how to create the emotional connection with woman. I had easier to pull same night lays and being sexual, which turned out to be a good skill in Vegas. I look back at what I’ve learned in all these classes and I can’t really remember. I now have a moleskine notebook full of notes that I need to goo trough and map out. But I know that I’m really good now. How can I do that if I can’t put my fingers on what I’ve learned? It’s more of a feeling inside of me, I’ve had more than enough of positive reference experience with women now to now that I’m good.  I don’t know if there is anything that scares me on a night with a roll probably, but I’ll most likely do it anyway.

What is that I feel? I would like to say that I feel more complete as a man of what I can do, I’m not controlled by my fears. I can run after a beautiful woman if I see her on the streets. I don’t have to wonder what if I did approach her. I came here with a desire to connect with women and not to sleep with as many as possible. I think I coming really close to my goal I’ve been seeing one girl now for little while and it’s a good and new feeling to hang out with her.  It has also removed my desire to go after absolutely everything with two legs and breast that’s hot. I don’t know why, but she told me I could go on as usual since I’m a part of rockstar. I have honestly tried to hit on other women but I don’t have any desire for the moment and I have now abounded the idea of me being a guy that would like multiple relationships.  I would actually give it a go if I was staying in London with this girl, but for now I just enjoy the good feeling she is giving me, who knows what can happen in the future. I now feel comfortable with the idea that I can build relationships with women. So I can’t say anything more than mission accomplished, and thanks to all the instructors and fellow rockstars that has been there for the journey.

Business: I have now started to think about life in completely different new angle of what is possible to do for a living. I come from a blue collar family where it’s taking pride to work for the system and being a part of society and pull your weight. Practically all my friends in my hometown are hard workers in some form, and so is my family. I never even thought in the terms that we have been talking about here in rockstar.  I had some small ideas but nothing this planned out, I now know where I’m going and what I’m setting out to do. I now know where to aim my energy thanks to fellow rockstar and now friend Aaron. He showed me what is possible in the world of online marketing and talked and inspired with his way of life. The more we talked the more I saw how I think it suits me as a worker, and I’m now setting out to hit my goals. I came here to e inspired and to learn new ways of making a living. I know that I can work the living shit out of my body and be pulling 80 workweeks in freezing cold snow and water whipping up on. I’m now 27 almost 28 years old and I can already feel how my body is going to fall apart due to damage I got from working my ass off for somebody else. I’m never going to back to way of life I was living before it’s just not a possibility in my reality. I know look for the feeling in this area of life as I have with women. It’s the feeling of you don’t care if you lose, you can always get more money/women. I GOT THIS SHIT HANDLED. It means that there is room for improvement but you know what you are doing. So get back to me in three months and we will see where I am. I will consider that my goal here is almost achieved as it changed so much during the path of rockstar, but I’m happy with the outcome of it.

Health: well I have had two home cooked meals since I entered rockstar, both of them thanks to my dear friend that I stayed with in Stockholm. So as you may imagine I’m not in any better shape than before I was rockstar. I made it an active choice to skip training and focus my time on other the other task since I got easy access to this since before.  I got a diet and workout schedule being taken care of as soon as I touch ground in my hometown anyway.

So what’s going to happen now, well I’m going to my home town until at least New Years Eve. My purpose is to too work in peace and quiet, since I’m really tired of the shitty living standard the London flats have to offer at staggering prices. I’m going back to Sweden as results in the debate where I would get the most work done. But I’ll be back out in the world really soon. The goal is to join the other Rockstar in mars to start a real rockstar mansion hitting it big in the states. Yes it will be revealed later but we’re all going to take our supernova to the max. Be sure to check out this blog later next year.

Instructorship: Do I still want to be an dating coach? Do I want to be a part of the community? The dreaded LSS!!! These are questions that I asked myself and I’m not as sure as I was eight weeks ago. First of all rockstar has been a lot of Approach coaching since it’s a good way to become good yourself and teaching others, a little bit too much in my taste. I didn’t really feel that competent in the beginning at first, I have now risen to the challenge and feel comfortable taking a newbie out and help him, I don’t enjoy it really today thouh.  I really need some time away before I can take a decision in if I want to peruse the goal of instructorship. Because what guys don’t get is you don’t get paid to go out and pick up women, you get paid to go out to hold grown man in the hand and tell them that the hot blonde over there won’t kill you when you tell her she looks good. I can and have approached instead of sending away student to women when I was AC’ing during rockstar and I don’t regret it. That’s how I had some of the most interesting interactions so far, and how I met some of the most interesting people around the world. I will make up my mind to New years eve if this is something I want to put my time and effort in. But in the meantime if you’re in Oslo at the end of this month 28th of Nov make sure to check out Day Game expert Jeremy Soul. He’s having one of his day game seminar and I will be there to help out.

But tanks to all the readers this has been super fun and I will get out of the community, at least for a while but you never know. I need to focus on other thing in my life right now.

The guys I would like to thanks for this awesome experience are:

Vishal (cya NYE)

Aaron, Alex, Josh (rockstar mansion Vegas is waiting for us)

Jeremy Soul (cya NYE and thnx for the time in STHLM)

Vercetti you big hug bear….

Keychain have to do some more day game shenanigans with you.

Dr. Yen my pc-muscle is growing every day thnx to you J

London Playboy thnx for the torture garden ticket.

All the instructor and business mentors that have been there and a part of this journey thanks for your contribution, 5.0, Sheriff, Jeff, Kunal, London wizard, Paladin, Alex Sargent and a few more. I hope to meet up with a lot of you guys again.

Last to be mentioned Mr.M you have had a huge impact on the way my life turned out, and you keep on having a huge influence in my life. A really hope I can show you my gratitude one day but for now SUCK IT.

And Adam I would like to percived as Suave, charming Swede with absolutely Dazzling smile so don’t fabricate anything.

Stay classy

-Micha

Ps. Sandra is a dork, but a cool one

Build the supernova

Days 44-46: The Council, Comedy and It’s Time To Be An Asshole

This is going to be a long and content-heavy post. Enjoy

Tuesday

Spent most of the day preparing with Aidan Killian (http://www.laughoutloud.ie/) for standup.

Nighttime was our second London Council meeting. We all sat there for about an hour each, while our various instructors gave us feedback on the gaps in our game, where we were, how far we had come and where we needed to go.

Alex and Micha both received phenomenal feedback from the Council. I was… a bit more complicated. In the post I was going to publish on Monday about my thoughts on Project Rockstar, I had written that out of all the Rockstars, I felt that my game had improved the least. I am yet to reach a moment where everything just “clicks” for me, and there was apparently quite a bit of debate amongst the Council as to what to tell me, or how to advise me or guide me towards improving my game.

All the feedback is specific to me, but there is some good advice in this~

• Learning Game. Rockstar is just the opening credits to the movie of my life. Consider game and social skills as a subset of the skills required to do business. Approach only when you feel like approaching (nightgame). Daygame is just about skillset acquisition and a numbers game.
• Self-Concept stuff. Your greatest strengths are also your greatest weaknesses. This is a paradox, and for me, working it out is presenting different parts of my personality in different contexts. Frustration is a human process, one that I have conquered in the past, and one that I just need to trust in myself to overcome in the present (with game). More work on warmth and emotional connect. Wield emotions via logic, rather than trying to force emotions out (see emotions as a separate progression track to be inserted into attraction, qualification, comfort etc, and in that moment unleash the emotion and turn off the intellect). Have fun when going out. When going out, just have fun rather than feel the need to approach, approach, approach. See self as a social and fun person, and someone who enhances the social situation, and someone who people have fun around. Self-reliance – great but learn how to vary the behaviour.
• Parts of Others (NLP concept). Create an understanding that others have things they can contribute to my life. Realise that everyone has something amazing about their life. Accept that people are fucked up… probably more than I am. Look for the parts that are golden and learn from them. See others’ primal parts. Listen, and try the weird shit that others say and do, but have no feedback loop when doing so. Create a new part that is the social instigator.
• Taking chances. Be willing to fuck up. Go skydiving. Let’s joust attitude.
• Emotional Expression. Wielding emotions through logic. Find the point of emotional blockage and let it loose at times. Revel in my ability to play with my own mind, the minds of others and the darkness and dominance. Consider that opening up emotionally will give me an enhanced ability to access the social sphere. Consider taking a David Deida course or AMP or something.
• The Alex Lesson. Knowing when to be intellectual and when to be in the moment. Being happy with where you currently are lets you evolve to the next level.
• Acceptance. Acceptance is contextual – others’ acceptance of me is irrelevant, it’s my acceptance of them that counts. Kill the belief of “if people don’t accept me, fuck them.”
• Needing Others. This is the hardest feedback point for me to take in. But it is sometimes necessary to have others around you who accept you for who you are and who help you grow as a person. Navy Seals / Delta Force concept.

Wednesday

We spent all day with Aidan preparing for the Rockstar comedy night. And it was well worth it… all of us performed extremely well, and I’m really happy that Adam (you bastard!) and Mr M insisted that we push forward with the standup training.

There will be videos up on youtube of the whole night, but for now, here are some of the things that I’ve taken away from the ten hours or so of training we’ve had with Aidan and Sasha.

Differences in comedy – standup will make your routines punchier and hit harder. Improv improves your ability to vibe on the spot. They are two completely different skillsets.

Applying standup structure to routines. There is a process for this, roughly:

1. Get a friend or a group of friends to listen to you.
2. Stand up, and start talking about a topic or an event or a story from your life. Make sure you record it.
3. After saying it once, say it again, cutting out all descriptive and unnecessary detail from the story.
4. Figure out which details belong in the setup, and which belong in the punch. It’s even better if you have multiple punches with each being the setup for the next punch. i.e., work out what your jokes are.
5. Work out the emotional progression through the routine. Where are you supposed to be excited, where are you supposed to be dejected, where are you supposed to be sad.
6. Piece the routine back together with proper setup and transitions, adding in more detail and having the proper delivery (including pauses and laughter points).
7. Repeat back to your friends to see where the laugh points are and to see if it is genuinely funny.

Standup delivery. There’s a lot to owning the stage, making eye contact with the audience, with handling a microphone properly and being still and using proper hand gestures to enhance delivery. Doing standup for this alone is great – it shows you very specifically how to hold court in large groups.

Thursday

We did daygame with Alex Sergeant in town. I was really not feeling it. I was actually just pretty content to walk around and enjoy London for a change. The couple of sets Micha vetoed me on I approached… lied through my teeth, and the girls gave me this look of “thanks, but I know you don’t really mean it” haha.

We then heard a talk on Mr M on sexual hoops, physical escalation and other advanced stuff. We also heard from Freedom of Speech about state triggers and the “parting the seas” concept. I don’t have notes on this yet but when I compile them I’ll put up some of the takeaways in a future blog post.

Nightgame was with Paladin. I really wasn’t in the mood to do anything. I just decided to chill, have fun and be an asshole.

Did not open any sets. The other guys were up for it, so I let them do their thing. I was pretty content to just chill out in the club, and talk about inner game and Rockstar with Paladin.

I ended up somehow winging Micha in a set. I just did not fucking care how the set went. This was the lesson from the council, of not caring about others’ acceptance and just accepting who they are, no matter how fucked up they may seem. So I said what was on my mind, and how I was feeling at the time.

Micha: Hey this is my friend A.

Me: Hi, what are your names.

Half-Asian Natalie: Natalie.

Blonde Natalie: Natalie.

I start talking to half-Asian Natalie.

Natalie: Where are you from?

Me: Guess.

Natalie: South Korea? Japan? Thailand?

Me: You’re such a fucking racist.

Natalie: Nooooo!!! I’m not… I’m the last person to be a racist, I’m half Thai (she was really apologetic in saying this haha).

Me: (in Thai) So you speak Thai.

Natalie: Yeah!

Me: Where are you girls from.

Natalie: Germany.

Me: You speak pretty good English for German girls.

Natalie: OMG, thank you!

Me: (thinking WTF – end up telling her a bit about Thailand).

Natalie: (tells me about Thailand)

Me: What do you do here in London.

Natalie: I study international business management.

Me: Fuck, not another one of you. And in London. This city is fucking cold and miserable. I’m getting ready to leave.

Natalie: What?!?

Me: Yeah, I’ve had enough of you.

Natalie: What? I’m sorry, I’m not racist.

Me: (thinking WTF – big takeway and turn around)

Natalie: (grabs my arm, turns me back around) Who are you? (steps back and checks me out head to toe).

Me: I’m popular.

Natialie: (grabs my necklace) Ohhh… Armani… I guess you are popular.

Me: (thinking WTF) Yeah.

At this point Micha turned to me and indicated he was bored and wanted to leave. So we left. The next thing I could have said would have been “Look. I’m not a sausage with feet OK. I have feelings too.” or something to that effect.

Despite having a super-chill night and not really doing anything, I had more fun tonight than on any other night in the past week. And hey, it’s fun to be an asshole sometimes and just not give a shit about what happens to a set. I think I’m going to make a commitment to myself to do this for the rest of Rockstar – take happy asshole game to the extreme and just work it. I’ve been struggling to find the motivation to go out or approach or even wing… but after tonight, I have some of that back. This is gonna be fun.

Sticking Points

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – attraction. Teasing and Sexual talk neural net training. Practice attraction via scenarios. Practice asshole game via scenarios and in-field.
• Verbal Game – vibing, qualification. Practice via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – sexual hoops (including SOIs). Go over Mr M’s talk, list them out, use them in both off-field and in-field.
• Logistical Escalation.
• Physical Escalation.
• Takeaways. I’m getting better at this. Practice in-field.
• Delivery. Practice in-field.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation.
• Identity & Beliefs. Understanding that others are fucked up and that they all have some amazing part of their life, and something to contribute to mine. Adopting the belief of “I may fuck this up, but let’s joust.” Realising that you only need to score 30/100 to pick up. No need to aim for 92/100. Realising that acceptance is contextual, and that I don’t really need to care about others’ acceptance of me, and that it’s more about my acceptance of them for who they are. Killing the belief of “if people don’t accept me, fuck them.”
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Needs more exploration. Still not automatically doing this in set.
• Boundary function.
• Self-image. Frustration as something I have overcome and will continue to push through. Realising that there’s nothing wrong with me, and that my greatest strengths are also my greatest weaknesses. More work on warmth and emotional connection. Seeing self as having fun when going out, and being someone who enhances the social situation. Creating the social instigator part in myself. The Alex Lesson.
• Behaviour. Learning to present different parts of me to different people. Learning to wield emotions via logic. Listening to the weird shit others say and trying it, without judgement.
• Emotional Management. Letting loose on emotional block points. Revelling in darkness and dominance, and the ability to play with my own and others’ minds. Ingrain idea that opening up emotionally will give me an enhanced ability to access the social sphere.
• Capabilities. Ability to see primal parts in others. Ability to recognise that in some areas of my life I need others to help me grow.
• Intent. Finding it fucking hard to fake this. But I will keep pushing.

- Aaron P

Days 39-40: The LSS and… what just happened?

Thursday

We had an investment talk from wealth mentor Andrew S. He talked about diversification, and the future of the global economy and how we should be investing money as we make it.

I spent the evening working on teasing drills and catching up on rest and some business stuff – I hear Josh and Micha had quite the adventure out about town though.

Friday

The LSS. Ah. I was a bit ambivalent going into the workshop. On the one hand, I have massive respect for some members of the LSS – Dr Yen, Soul, London Playboy. On the other, the less-than-friendly reception that the Project Rockstar thread has received made me almost want to say “Why are we doing this? They obviously don’t like us.” I’m glad that we decided in the end to participate in the LSS bootcamp – all the presenters and guys there were cool, normal guys… not weird screennames online who have nothing better to do that complain about the commercialisation of something they don’t understand and how pretty we are. It would seem that the latter are a small minority on the LSS (and thank god for that!)

We heard talks from Psy, Mowgli, Wisdom, LPB and Mantra. We also held a Rockstar Panel where we talked a bit about our experiences over the past few weeks, some of the things we had learnt and a small section of physical escalation and gaming abroad.

Later that evening 5.0 stole Josh and I away from approach coaching to go do some high-end club game. I’ve never really been to a high-end club before (does Movida count?), so I wasn’t really sure what to expect. We started by meeting 5.0 and one the girls he knew in Leicester Square. We then hit the streets outside Cafe de Paris (which apparently is the low-end of high-end clubs), and did promoter game. The objective was to pick up girls, and bring them into the club and to the table we had there. It was fun, and it was hard. Every guy, girl… anyone with a pulse was getting chatted to by promoters on that strip. Even going direct and transitioning into intrigue-based attraction was difficult – very simply nothing hooked, and the one or two sets that did were super-skeptical of the whole thing. By the time we were done Josh and I were more or less in a talkative state. And so we went into Cafe de Paris.

I gotta say – the place is kinda nice. I’m not sure I really like the hugely segregated VIP area, but it was a nicely decorated club. And the women were definitely more attractive than those you would find at the more mainstream clubs. We walked around and pinged a couple of sets, but nothing really stuck – it was tough. 5.0 arrived with two girls, and was trying to get us going around the club building social proof. Josh had a much better time than me. I simply cannot force myself to pretend to dance and have fun and smile, when very simply the vibe in the club is… dead… and I’m not enjoying myself there. I took a breather and a break, and just chilled for a bit. Josh joined me later and we ended up in the back area just hanging out, waiting for the VIP area to open up.

Once midnight hit, we headed on to the upstairs VIP area. 5.0 suggested that being up here was enough social proof to open sets. And so we tried… and it was hard. One of my sets went like this:

Me: Hi, I’m A.

Girl 1: I’m (something).

Girl 2: I’m (something).

Me: How are you guys doing tonight?

Girl 2: We’re good.

Me: I’m visiting with friends from overseas, we’re just out celebrating the end of our trip. What’s the occassion for tonight?

Girl 2: It’s our friend’s birthday!

Me: Oh cool! Is that her over by the balcony by herself, looking sad?

Girl 1: No, she went to the dancefloor by herself.

Me: What?! You guys are *terrible* friends (playfully pushing away girl 2).

Girl 2: (turns away)

Girl 1: (turns away)

The rest of the sets followed a similar pattern: Hi, blah blah blah, blah blah bye. Nothing was hooking… this was extremely frustrating.

At around 1am we decided to leave. Being blown out again and again and again just wasn’t fun. 5.0 said that he would give us a breakdown to better make sense of our reference experience for the night. I actually have a pretty good theory as to what the dynamics are like in a club like that – I’ll elaborate a bit later.

We rocked over to Tiger Tiger in search of the LSS bootcamp and the rest of the Rockstars. We found Micha charming some Asian-Australian girl, and Alex engaged in set. We also bumped into some students. The attractiveness level of the women here was definitely a notch or two down from Cafe de Paris… but whatever. Time to go direct, and go in hard. Grab girl, tell her she’s gorgeous. She says thank you and vanishes. Hmmmm. Go downstairs. Girl grabs Josh’s tie, dances with him. He spins her away. She grabs my tie, I dance with her. She asks how old I am. I tell her it doesn’t matter. She disappears. What just happened?

Go upstairs. Grab girl. Tell her she’s fucking adorable. She tells me “not tonight”. Grab more girls. Tell them they’re cute. I run Alex Flair game and tease them for being boring, and that they need to celebrate life. They look smile, giggle, and bid me a good night. Ummm….

At this point Josh and I are scratching our heads and going… what…. the… fuck…

And so, logically of course, we leave for Burger King. At this point we are in some weird variation of “state” where we are talkative, we are social, and we simply don’t care. On they way across Leicester Square we attempt to give our VIP bands away to some girls – are we so out of it that we can’t even give away VIP bands to girls? Apparently so.

We make it to Burger King, and end up just having fun chatting with random people in line and at the table about all sorts of weird and wacky stuff.

That pretty much wrapped up what has got to be the weirdest night out in London during the course of Rockstar.

A Theory

Here’s the theory I came up with from being in Cafe de Paris: the people there were just not having fun. As I looked around the room, people were *trying* to have fun… as in trying to dance to the music, trying to smile, trying to enjoy themselves. In opposition to a typical nighttime venue, people there were just socially constrained and no-one was having fun. Another interesting observation is that none of the naturals there were successfully gaming girls. They were having the same dead-end one-minute conversations that we were. This only gives me way more respect for 5.0 and his ability to work the venue. He told us that it took him the better part of nine months to work out how to do high-end club game.

There was obviously more going on there than I’m able to perceive at this point – but in this moment, it feels to me that people go to these places simply to be seen and to hang in their small group of acquaintances (I would dare not say friends). It all seems fairly pretentious actually.

As for the rest of the night… Josh and I were in this weird Zen-like state unsure about what had just transpired. We walked away kinda feeling that we sort learnt something but sorta didn’t and frankly I’m not sure right now what to make of the whole thing. Hopefully 5.0 and Mr M can shed some light on it tomorrow.

Oh, and Sasha moved into Rockstar East today. I’m not quite sure what to make of that either.

Sticking Points

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – attraction. Teasing and Sexual talk neural net training. Practice intrigue-based attraction via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – vibing, qualification. Practice via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I need to list out more of these, add more emotional oomph to them and roll them into vibing/qualifiaction.
• Logistical Escalation. Getting better, needs more field work though.
• Physical Escalation. It’s coming back. More field practice.
• Takeaways. Implementation in progress.
• Delivery. As per takeaways.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation.
• Identity & Beliefs. Need to play around more with Micha-game.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Needs more exploration. Still not automatically doing this in set.
• Boundary function.
• Self-image. Started exploring this, especially after what Alex said to be the other day. This is one of those things that will happen over time rather than over the course of Rockstar (though I may be wrong!)
• Intent. I have started to fake it til I make it haha.

Comedy Night

Anyone reading this is cordially invited to the Rockstar Comedy Night, on Wednesday 28th October.

Time: 8.15PM
Venue: The Queenshead, 15 Denman St, London, W1D 7HN
Map: http://maps.google.com/maps?q=W1D+7HN&oe=utf-8&client=firefox-a&ie=UTF8&ei=tsrhSoqdCIay4QbcjfCDAg&ved=0CAkQ8gEwAA&hq=&hnear=London+W1D+7HN,+United+Kingdom&z=16)

We’re all nervous-as about it at the moment, but it should be a fun night for all. Plus you’ll get to meet, chill and mingle with some of the London Community’s finest talent.

- Aaron P

Day 38: A Night with London Playboy & Mr M

Day

We cancelled our session with Sasha as well, it just wasn’t going to work out. I checked into a hotel near Rockstar West. Did some daygame with Adam, Micha and Trackstar. I ended up practicing what I’m calling Micha game.

One of the Asian girls that I stopped during the post-work rush hour was interesting. She was cute, very cute. Strangely enough she was more nervous about the whole thing that I should have been… something along the lines of “oh my god, nobody ever says that to me.” Why I did not number-close her and set up a date I have no fucking idea… fuck this emotional intent stuff.

Night

Tonight actually marked the countdown of the final two weeks of Project Rockstar.

We were supposed to head out to Jalouse for their one year anniversary, so we rocked up to Loop at 9:30pm and met up with the Navy Seals. The line to get into Jalouse was absolutely insane, and they were enforcing their collared shirt policy with a vengeance. Micha and Vercetti ended up going to Jalouse, the rest of us rocked up to Movida.

We ended up doing essentially what were one-on-ones with London Playboy (http://www.thesocialcoach.com/) and Mr M. We also got to watch Mr M hit on a superhot blonde girl… it was awesomeness in action. Mr M also did an exercise where he hit on Alex and me as-if we were girls, so that we could model the vibe that he gives out in set. It was fucking weird (to us and to the bar staff and girls watching), and it’s going to take some unconscious uptake to integrate what I’ve learnt, but I’ll outline some of my notes about it below.

Here are the sets I did, and feedback from London Playboy and Mr M-

American Birthday Girls. London Playboy sent me in. I told him that I would be in there for 30 seconds to 1 minute then I’d be out. And I was right. Opened, intros all round, found out it was a birthday, waved to the birthday girl and started talking to her. Friends turned away, leaving me one-on-one with the birthday girl We talked for a while – my main focus has been on verbal game lately, so I wasn’t really physically escalating all that much. We just talked, and I started using some of the teases that I’ve been learning, like “so basically you think you’re better than me”. I got an emotional reaction – just not the one I wanted… she ended up apologising for what she said haha. #-closed and facebook-closed. Pinged her earlier today but haven’t gotten a response.

The only feedback from London Playboy about this set was to physically escalate more.

Blonde & Brunette. This was a two-set that I ran with London Playboy and Mr M sitting across from us on the opposite couch and listening in on the whole thing. I opened with hi, talked a bit then Jeff came in to wing me. I ended up talking to the blonde, Jeff to the brunette. The set didn’t really go anywhere – just a long conversation, lots of conversational and logical attraction, some frames set but no BT spikes. I got her facebook, but she wouldn’t give me her number. Ah.

There was a ton of feedback from London Playboy and Mr M about this set. The first one was sexual communication – talking overtly about sex in a comfortable and non-sleazy way. This is something I need to do and train. I also got feedback on my body language in seated sets, never to cross my legs, never to hold my hands together and to do bigger takeaways.

Winging Alex. Alex was talked to two hot brunettes. Turns out they were sisters and both models. One was dressed in a spring dress, the other in a Xena-looking leather gladiator outfit. We stood and talked for a while, then sat them down. Again, I ran intrigue-based attraction on the older sister, but I knew that it wasn’t doing it. I did fix a lot of body language and other things that Mr M & London Playboy had told me after the set before, but the girl kept looking away for other people to talk to. I’m seeing more and more now that what I need to do is start training my teasing neural nets, as being able to tease well is *the* foundation of verbal attraction game.

Apparently I improved a lot in this set (body language). Again, the weak point was a lack of state-based attraction and takeaways.

Sticking Points

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – opening, transitioning. Done.
• Verbal Game – attraction. Follow up with Sheriff. Teasing and Sexual talk neural net training. Practice intrigue-based attraction via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – vibing, qualification. Practice via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I need to list out more of these, add more emotional oomph to them and roll them into vibing/qualifiaction.
• Logistical Escalation. Getting better (especially locking in). Needs more field work though.
• Physical Escalation. Why did I take this away? Should be doing this *always*.
• Takeaways. I now have a good unconscious understanding of what this looks like. Time to start implementing.
• Delivery. As per takeaways.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. Yup, I’ve remembered to contact close in most of the sets I’ve done.
• Identity & Beliefs. Need to play around more with Micha-game.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Needs more exploration. Still not automatically doing this in set.
• Boundary function.
• Self-image. Loving myself more.
• Intent. The solution that London Playboy has suggested is to “fake it until you make it”. This is in body language, in verbals etc etc…

Learnings and Thoughts

• My biggest leverage point now is verbal attraction game, specifically teasing and sexual talk. I will practice these via written scenarios – I’m going to try to write out one per day.
• I made a commitment with Alex that every time we’re out, we are going to try to logistically escalate as far as we can and bounce girls back. Even if it’s just for practice.
• Quote from London Playboy about me: “You know what I like about this guy? Every time I tell him to do a set he complains about it and tells me why it won’t work and then he goes and does it.” I think this is a reflection of my inner game and self-image. I don’t really have that much of a formulation of how I view myself (in contrast to someone like Alex who truly loves himself). I am going to work on this.
• Speaking of London Playboy… could anyone ask for a better teacher? Very chill, does not pressure you with weird doses of social anxiety, very warm, and yet provides feedback you can actually put into use. Love it.

Mr M Hitting On Me

As I mentioned before, Mr M did a demo where he pretended that Alex and I were girls and hit on us, to allow us to model his vibe and game. Here’s what I learnt from it:

• Break rapport. Always. Lots of takeaways (BIG takeaways), on emotional high points.
• Non-sequitur teases.
• Sexual talk presented as just normal conversation. Like talking about sex positions.
• Insane eye contact and cockiness.
• Very dominant physical escalation. Face touches and strokes.
• Make the girl feel that she needs to comply.
• Physical game. Leaning on the girl, pushing into her etc etc
• Checking her out head-to-toe to build sexual tension.
• Cocky happy asshole vibe.
• The core of this is holding his own internal state and just throwing things out there to entertain himself.

- Aaron P

The pick-up community

Yes this is a “special” community that I’m a part of writing for every other night. I’m here to learn and end enjoy. I’m learning a lot and throw all the other things aside that I can’t apply.

Project Rockstar is a little more then a cold approach program though. We are being schooled to become social masters, and therefore we become/are social savvy (at least I consider myself to be that).
A lot of guys who started with pick up especially old school community are in my terms really fuckin weird and awkward, when they got good with women they became weird and good with women. You see that for a guy to be good with cold approach game doesn’t make him socially calibrated. Look at Mystery/Matador/Lovedrop they are all fuckin weirdos, good with women yes, anything I want to be like NO.

When I find guys that inspires me and motivates me, they can make me do everything. I had a session with one of our awesome coaches Vercetti he took me on a class of salsa dancing. I was rather confused mid class and hated the Idea before class, but I stretched my comfort zone because I trusted him and his judgment. It’s almost like the mutual respect I have with a dear friend. The people that I’m inspired by in this community they have not only become better with women but also socially calibrated. We were told “many of these guys are not role models, but are here to teach you game” in the beginning. In the same time during the rockstar are we also told concept as thin slice and always trusting our thin slice. I made a bad judgment call today. I trusted my thin slice completely but acted a little wrong on it. I will always trust it just act on it differently.

We had a guest instructor coming today to teach us Day Game. Sasha (http://www.sashapua.com/), and we also got to meet Ace, one of the London Community’s old school guys. My first sight if Sasha gave me thin slice of a person I might hung around with 5 years ago when my life was still chaos, destruction and drugs. I trust my warnings signals a lot and I’m happy for it. Sasha for me came of weird when I met him. He came of a little nervous when he was started talking to us and tried to find his way with jokes, and nothing really hitting home with the rockstars, only upsetting us and making some of us really pissed. We then hit the streets after an hour of theory, we started at tottenhamn court road. But as I said earlier I need trust for me to do stupid shit that will be really fuckin weird or awkward. I didn’t have that with this guy, and not two of the other rockstars as well. Our reaction to that was to wander off and do daygame on our own and sneaking out of class. It’s not the best choice I’ve made since rockstar. He was generally upset and wants us to write him an apology now. I’m not sure I will because I’m still not sure I want to learn anything from him.

Do you want to know the fucked up thing, I could probably learn a ton from this guy. The theory he taught us was good, really good. We tested it on our own without him and it’s solid. Guys that I like taught from him and are good. Why can’t I do the same. The same reason that stops most people FEAR. I really don’t want to turn in to anything like him that’s why it’s hard to listen to him. If your only looking to get solid good day game. Then he’s probably your guy I would really recommend him but I want more out of this.

The sense moral is my fear of being “weird” hinder me in my learning process of game as I stay socially calibrated.

Stay Classy San Diego

-Love Micha

Day 33: Blight

I am hating London very much at the moment. Woke up this morning feeling somewhat better only to find myself feeling two times worse this evening.

I sat in on part of Sheriff’s bootcamp seminar today, and was supposed to be joining the boys out for infield… but considering that I have a rising fever it isn’t the best of ideas.

Yes, it is incredibly frustrating that I’ve had zero field time over the past three days and have spent most of it in bed, delirious or in some combination thereof.

At least I got some conceptual work done. I put together a structure for vibing during attraction based on past experiences and from reading up on some Juggler material and from watching some California Pimp. Here it is:

1. Bait / open-ended statement or question.
2. Vacuum. Let her commit. Compliance commands on emotional high points.
3. Relate, tease or cold read.
4. Qualify, disqualify or force frame.
5. SOI.
6. Escalate physically and logistically.

I’m going to be practicing this pretty rigorously over the next week, to the point where I have it down and internalised.

Other sticking point stuff:

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – opening, transitioning. Field test.
• Verbal Game – attraction. Same as vibing below, but could add in some default routines and stuff to make it more solid. Next in this category is teasing & roleplays Braddock-style.
• Verbal Game – vibing. Field test.
• Verbal Game – qualification. Yet to do.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I have a better idea of what I need here, and I’ll probably solidify this area by practicing the vibing structure outlined above.
• Logistical Escalation. Need field practice.
• Physical Escalation.
• Takeaways.
• Delivery.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. Need field testing.
• Identity & Beliefs. Currently exploring: the sexual vibe that Brad P, Dahunter and Starlight give out.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Done. Now for field testing.
• Boundary function.

- Aaron P

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