THE END……What Have I learned…

I not really sure what this impact have had on my life but I think it definitely changed the way my children’s going to look.

I came here high on life after I got the call from Mr.M that Monday 13 days before rockstar. I don’t think I told anybody that I applied a while before so it probably came as a shock to somebody “dad” around me. I don’t think that I’ve been more excited about anything in my life this was as cool as it would be.  I came here with the aspirations to become a dating coach then go to school a few months later. I was going to start up a form an e-commerce then stay behind in London just hitting the clubs and be sarging like crazy. I was on a high in life.

I don’t think I could have been more wrong of what to expect, I now know that not even the people organizing this “event” knew what was supposed to be the product of it.  It was crazy in the begin and I’m not surprised that one dropped out.

So am I disappointed at the experience that this has been. Absolutely not, this has been such a learning experienced that has open up my eyes for what’s possible for me in my life. Partially because the things we were taught and mostly because the people that I’ve met during the journey.

This was marketed as away to work and wealth, health and relationships. Well I took and threw the health part out of the window when it came down to choose what to do in the schedule that didn’t have room for anything. So with two things to focus on you might think that I would have time to work hard on them, but no. I don’t really remember anything the first weeks of rockstar so it’s going to be interesting to read the book and to go back on my blogposts.

WHAT HAVE I LEARNED THEN…

Game: Game is f*****n easy and fun. I have some kickass memories with the guys out hitting on women. We all came here as “ordinary” people not socially awkward and some beginner’s skill in game, we were all very different in the way we interacted with women and turned in to a cool crew of guys. I came in with a clunky outer game and poor inner game. My biggest problem with women was that I had no skills in how to create the emotional connection with woman. I had easier to pull same night lays and being sexual, which turned out to be a good skill in Vegas. I look back at what I’ve learned in all these classes and I can’t really remember. I now have a moleskine notebook full of notes that I need to goo trough and map out. But I know that I’m really good now. How can I do that if I can’t put my fingers on what I’ve learned? It’s more of a feeling inside of me, I’ve had more than enough of positive reference experience with women now to now that I’m good.  I don’t know if there is anything that scares me on a night with a roll probably, but I’ll most likely do it anyway.

What is that I feel? I would like to say that I feel more complete as a man of what I can do, I’m not controlled by my fears. I can run after a beautiful woman if I see her on the streets. I don’t have to wonder what if I did approach her. I came here with a desire to connect with women and not to sleep with as many as possible. I think I coming really close to my goal I’ve been seeing one girl now for little while and it’s a good and new feeling to hang out with her.  It has also removed my desire to go after absolutely everything with two legs and breast that’s hot. I don’t know why, but she told me I could go on as usual since I’m a part of rockstar. I have honestly tried to hit on other women but I don’t have any desire for the moment and I have now abounded the idea of me being a guy that would like multiple relationships.  I would actually give it a go if I was staying in London with this girl, but for now I just enjoy the good feeling she is giving me, who knows what can happen in the future. I now feel comfortable with the idea that I can build relationships with women. So I can’t say anything more than mission accomplished, and thanks to all the instructors and fellow rockstars that has been there for the journey.

Business: I have now started to think about life in completely different new angle of what is possible to do for a living. I come from a blue collar family where it’s taking pride to work for the system and being a part of society and pull your weight. Practically all my friends in my hometown are hard workers in some form, and so is my family. I never even thought in the terms that we have been talking about here in rockstar.  I had some small ideas but nothing this planned out, I now know where I’m going and what I’m setting out to do. I now know where to aim my energy thanks to fellow rockstar and now friend Aaron. He showed me what is possible in the world of online marketing and talked and inspired with his way of life. The more we talked the more I saw how I think it suits me as a worker, and I’m now setting out to hit my goals. I came here to e inspired and to learn new ways of making a living. I know that I can work the living shit out of my body and be pulling 80 workweeks in freezing cold snow and water whipping up on. I’m now 27 almost 28 years old and I can already feel how my body is going to fall apart due to damage I got from working my ass off for somebody else. I’m never going to back to way of life I was living before it’s just not a possibility in my reality. I know look for the feeling in this area of life as I have with women. It’s the feeling of you don’t care if you lose, you can always get more money/women. I GOT THIS SHIT HANDLED. It means that there is room for improvement but you know what you are doing. So get back to me in three months and we will see where I am. I will consider that my goal here is almost achieved as it changed so much during the path of rockstar, but I’m happy with the outcome of it.

Health: well I have had two home cooked meals since I entered rockstar, both of them thanks to my dear friend that I stayed with in Stockholm. So as you may imagine I’m not in any better shape than before I was rockstar. I made it an active choice to skip training and focus my time on other the other task since I got easy access to this since before.  I got a diet and workout schedule being taken care of as soon as I touch ground in my hometown anyway.

So what’s going to happen now, well I’m going to my home town until at least New Years Eve. My purpose is to too work in peace and quiet, since I’m really tired of the shitty living standard the London flats have to offer at staggering prices. I’m going back to Sweden as results in the debate where I would get the most work done. But I’ll be back out in the world really soon. The goal is to join the other Rockstar in mars to start a real rockstar mansion hitting it big in the states. Yes it will be revealed later but we’re all going to take our supernova to the max. Be sure to check out this blog later next year.

Instructorship: Do I still want to be an dating coach? Do I want to be a part of the community? The dreaded LSS!!! These are questions that I asked myself and I’m not as sure as I was eight weeks ago. First of all rockstar has been a lot of Approach coaching since it’s a good way to become good yourself and teaching others, a little bit too much in my taste. I didn’t really feel that competent in the beginning at first, I have now risen to the challenge and feel comfortable taking a newbie out and help him, I don’t enjoy it really today thouh.  I really need some time away before I can take a decision in if I want to peruse the goal of instructorship. Because what guys don’t get is you don’t get paid to go out and pick up women, you get paid to go out to hold grown man in the hand and tell them that the hot blonde over there won’t kill you when you tell her she looks good. I can and have approached instead of sending away student to women when I was AC’ing during rockstar and I don’t regret it. That’s how I had some of the most interesting interactions so far, and how I met some of the most interesting people around the world. I will make up my mind to New years eve if this is something I want to put my time and effort in. But in the meantime if you’re in Oslo at the end of this month 28th of Nov make sure to check out Day Game expert Jeremy Soul. He’s having one of his day game seminar and I will be there to help out.

But tanks to all the readers this has been super fun and I will get out of the community, at least for a while but you never know. I need to focus on other thing in my life right now.

The guys I would like to thanks for this awesome experience are:

Vishal (cya NYE)

Aaron, Alex, Josh (rockstar mansion Vegas is waiting for us)

Jeremy Soul (cya NYE and thnx for the time in STHLM)

Vercetti you big hug bear….

Keychain have to do some more day game shenanigans with you.

Dr. Yen my pc-muscle is growing every day thnx to you J

London Playboy thnx for the torture garden ticket.

All the instructor and business mentors that have been there and a part of this journey thanks for your contribution, 5.0, Sheriff, Jeff, Kunal, London wizard, Paladin, Alex Sargent and a few more. I hope to meet up with a lot of you guys again.

Last to be mentioned Mr.M you have had a huge impact on the way my life turned out, and you keep on having a huge influence in my life. A really hope I can show you my gratitude one day but for now SUCK IT.

And Adam I would like to percived as Suave, charming Swede with absolutely Dazzling smile so don’t fabricate anything.

Stay classy

-Micha

Ps. Sandra is a dork, but a cool one

Build the supernova

Day 29: Strategy & Tactics

The Day

Superconference day 3. Listened to Mr M’s talk on advanced social dynamics, then joined the Rockstar Panel onstage. We all presented mini-segments on different topics… I talked about a framework for analysing your game (inner game or otherwise), borrowed from NLP (credit: Robert Dilts). It’s called Neurological levels and works a bit like this:

1. Path / Purpose – What you ultimately want to do in life, and how it impacts the world.

2. Beliefs / Values – What you believe in. And what is important to you.

3. Capabilities – What you can do. Tactics and technical fluency.

4. Behaviour – How you naturally act when out in-field.

5. Environment – How people react to you in-field, and environmental factors like logistics and other people.

If you take any game sticking point, you can run it through this model and it will tell you what you need to specifically work on, and at what neurological level you should work on it. It will tell you if you need to change something at a higher level (say beliefs) or just test something out in-field more (say a new routine, dependent on your behaviour and the environment around you).

Following our panel some of the Rockstars had lunch/dinner at Johnny Rockets… real American food

I then took some time off to take a quick powernap and green drink before listening to Savoy’s talk about learning game, and hearing a wrap-up of the superconference from Future (voted best instructor for 2009) – it was inspiring to hear that he came from a very dark place and is now one of the funnest, funniest, and most compassionate people I have met.

The night was spent in-field for Savoy’s birthday party at Body English (happy birthday mate!). It was a lot of fun, but also incredibly frustrating at the same time. The club was loud, and the crowd was very different from prior nights. Being a Sunday, most of the people in there were Vegas locals, and thus socially hardened. We got a lot of break rapport reactions and had to play dancing monkey to just hold conversations, as well as having to be very physically dominant when handling girls. At around 3am I had had enough and decided to leave… there was nothing new to be gained or learned from running five-to-ten minute sets and then having them fizzle because my verbal game is lacking.

Outer Game

I have a number of outer game sticking points written down at the moment. Each day, I am going to report on my progress of working through them. It feels like today is the first day where I am starting to approach Project Rockstar proactively rather than having things prescribed to me by various instructors.

Here they are-

• Verbal Game, starting with opening, transitioning and attraction. Qualification can come later. Daxx helped me with opening, and I’ll post below his very good advice. Transitioning – take the most common transitions (who, what, fun, work) and build conversation pieces that are optimised. Attraction – write scripts, build conversation pieces that set the right frames. Make sure that I use each of these in every interaction I enter into. Attraction – teasing and “dissociative thinking”, via question-answer scripts and reading Braddock’s field reports. All of this is ultimately training my neural nets and transferring initially conscious effort into unconscious ability.
• Verbal Game, qualification, comfort, SOIs etc etc. This will come later.
• Logistical Escalation. This is both an inner and outer game issue. The outer game component is about getting used to “making things happen”, and the inner game component is all about developing that killer instinct and just going for it (“sexual intent”).
• Physical Escalation. More consistency and pushing the boundaries more would be good.
• Takeaways. Mostly of a physical nature.
• Delivery. Sensual descriptions, deeper voice and slow down.

Inner Game

In addition to working on my outer game tactically I’m also going to continue to develop my inner game, slowly and bit-by-bit. Outer game takes priority. Inner game is more of a “if I have time” kinda thing.

• Logistical Escalation & just going for it. Part of this is the willingness to stick it out and to keep approaching and trying. See above.
• Identity & beliefs. Some beliefs I need to consider: girls find me attractive, girls check me out, I am sexworthy, I am a man who makes things happen.
• Boundary function.

Learnings

• I need to spend more time in off-field practice. This is like the sports team that spends all week training for a game on the weekend. Simply being out in-field and approaching non-stop, at my level, will not help me improve things. There are too many environmental variables in an interaction, and I need structure to train things first.
• Opening, Daxx-style: “Woah, woah woah… (pause) You… are…. fucking… gorgeous… who are you?” or “Hey… this is… uh… really embarrassing (pause, hold eye contact)… but I was going to wear exactly the same thing tonight.” or “Woah… (pause)… you are stunning… why haven’t we met yet?”. The key to all these is in the delivery, pausing, eye contact and dominant physical components.
• My biggest leverage point at the moment is my verbal game. I am going to hammer away at this until it is a level where I can say that it’s handled, and consistent.

- Aaron P

Day 27: So Close Yet So Far

Yet another strange day.

On the surface, things were phenomenal. A full day of superconference lectures and breakout sessions, and a great night out with students at Tao.

They were phenomenal – superb approaches, makeouts, handjobs in booths… it was all there

And now for the strange part: the realisation of my number one sticking point… and the realisation that there’s nothing I can do to fix it quickly. It came out of my post-workshop conversation with Sheriff. Most instructors have pointed out to me that they sense (with some confusion) that I almost don’t want to be at Project Rockstar. I usually get questions like “How much do you really want this?” or “Dude, why aren’t you pulling the trigger?”. Understandably, everyone thought that this was tied back to issues of sexual intent… and it kind of is, but it is actually a much larger issue than that. It is about emotional intent.

I spent a lot of time last night and this morning thinking about this, its origins and how to work on it.

It actually results in some pretty weird social interactions… like girls grabbing me to kiss me to try to work out if I like them. At the same time though, it’s also a major issue in my game.

The general solution is this: it will take time to work on, and will be a process of emotional opening up and connecting more with my emotions and the expression of them to others. Unfortunately this is not a quick process, and will take time. For the moment, I have to trust in myself that even though I am processing attraction at an intellectual and not an emotional level, the inner self always shines through. If I am talking to a girl, it is because I want to be there, even if I don’t find myself emotionally compelled to be there (that will come over time). Other people can most definitely pick up on my emotional state through my subcommunications, even if I don’t truly feel it myself yet. This is more about aligning my self-image with what is actually happening and trusting in myself more.

Resolving this sticking point will skyrocket my game. I know this. And now that I know this, it is something to work towards – I just wish I could get there faster.

- Aaron P

Day 26: Disappointment

The time spent infield today felt like the worst night I have had since embarking on Project Rockstar. At the moment I am feeling both emotionally and physically drained, and I feel disappointed with myself. It has had enough of an emotional impact that it overcasts the phenomenal daytime seminar sessions we had with the World’s Hidden Masters (http://www.worldshiddenmasters.com/) and Mr M on Inner Game.

The majority of the Love Systems instructor crew and Rockstars who are here in Vegas went to Tao, the local hotspot for Thursday. Steep cover (we got a table), and overall a pretty cool club. But the entire night felt like slog after slog after slog… over the course of five hours or so, I must have talked to over fifty different groups of people. Most of them followed some basic pattern of opening in some variation of direct, then transitioning and then just chitchat… all the sets seemed to fizzle out during attraction or qualification. A couple of them that I remember well-

Vegas girls: someone bounced them over to our table. I winged. Escalation, finger locking, eye contact, conversation. It was weird – all the nonsensical stuff that I could get away with in Europe did not hit at all. She did keep on reengaging the conversation though, and I probably lost her by not escalating fast enough towards a kiss or a makeout (this is Vegas, these things should be fine in front of peer groups).

10-second kiss: I grabbed this tall blonde girl walking by and told her that she looked stunning in her dress, and held eye contact. After a couple of seconds she grabbed me and kissed me, then ran off giggling.

The number one thing missing from tonight was me having fun. I really wasn’t. It was likely a combination of jetlag, all-day seminars about deep and emotional topics, the instructor assessments taking place and the cultural differences between the US (and Vegas) and the time spent in Germany and Sweden. It also didn’t help to have various people throughout the night remind me that I was looking terrible

So the biggest takeaways from today were… 1) have fun, 2) kill the limiting belief that my game is not good enough. It is. I may have to revive some higher-energy routines and forms that I stopped using a while ago to adapt to the environment, but so be it.

By objective measures the night was great – a talked to a bunch of girls, kissed one, heavily flirted with dozens of others and got to wing and watch world-class instructors do their thing… but it certainly does not feel that way.

- Aaron P

Day 22: Enter Sheriff

Not much to say today. We flew back to London, absolutely knackered and met up with Sheriff – he’s living in Rockstar East for the remainder of Project Rockstar.

He’s offered his wisdom and guidance over the coming weeks, on any topic of game we can think of. Micha and I are planning to head over there in a bit to talk to him about one night stands (same night lays).

I’ve spent most of my transit time working on inner game issues, and some technical game work. This is going to form part of the upcoming Rockstar Superconference talk

A couple of other things I wanted to mention:

Absolute huge thanks to Soul for organising Rockstar Stockholm, and for everything he’s taught us. The best instruction and field time we’ve had so far, and words cannot express how grateful we are. And ALL the girls in Stockholm are hot…

I also did an interview a week or so ago with Ryker Koh of Asian Dating Superstars (http://www.asiandatingsuperstars.com/). We went over what it means to be an Asian man in the modern world, and how our culture and upbringing has changed the way we view dating, success and life. I’ve mirrored the interview here: http://www.projectrockstarblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/10/projectrockstar-rykerkohcollaboration.mp3

- Aaron P

end of munich bootcamp. Day 15

Sunday… I’m knackered. Didn’t go to bed until five a clock. We head down for the bootcamp for debrief of the students, me and Vish’ head out in Munich as the class commences again.

It’s one of the first time we just get to stroll around in the centre of Munich without being stressed. I jusy realised that I would like to have a few days in the city to actually explore it. I don’t want anybody to ask me now what I’ve seen on this trip. This trip hasn’t been anything more the about chasing women, I don’t think that it’s a bad thing but I would love to have more time here.

We then did the ritual dinner after bootcamp with the guys and started to discuss if we were going out. The german country captain had a great idea so instead of clubs we got in the cab and told him to bathouse. He laughed at us and started to talk about taking us to a proper bathouse with “happy endings” we got him to take us to the right place after we disappointed him, and told him we only wanted a sauna.

The bathouse was awesome. We headed in and we all rented “towels” that turned out to be tabelcloth, it was huge. Me, Vercetti, Vishal and josh came wrapped up and looked at each other bursting out in laughter. Mr M the only one that had shorts almost ended up on the floor in laughing attack. I noticed as soon as I entered the steamroom that this was a nude and unisex sauna. This must have been 10 game heaven as all the women were hot. So hot that Alex even tried to pick one up in the sauna, his french charm didn’t hit though.

Then me, vercetti and keychain (since all the rockstars got no urge for adventure) headed out for some midnight fun in munich on a sunday. We started out at a “burlesque” themed club that had a interesting way of keeping you occupied while you took a leak- HARDCORE PORN on monitors. We rolled on after the total shock of german culture to another wierd club with naked people on the walls. There I got veto’ed by Keychain and crashed hard, another veto boyfriend show up. He finally picked a few girls that hooked good then he showed up to wing. Game on we did everything and was doing good, vercetti decided to leave and we stayed behind. It was a long night and good fun buit no same night lay due two logistics, ended up in bed with keys instead.

Haha that’s how adventures happen and I think that this weekend was the start of a few crazy weeks that I have no idea on how there going to end.

Cya

-love Micha

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