Days 16 & 17: Oktberfest & Aftermath

Monday
On Monday we went out to enjoy Oktoberfest.

Actually, we were supposed to go to Erotik Messe (adult convention) and have Mr M teach us pornstar game… but we arrived there to find the convention centre eerily quiet and empty, only to find out that the convention was running on the weekends only.

And so, we went to Oktoberfest, where Mr M made it his number one priority to get us drunk on beer and hitting on girls.

There really isn’t that much to say about what happened – I’ll just let the pictures tell the story:

I ended up having late-night tapas with Vyron and Keychain afterwards. Keychain had pulled a busty German blonde early that day, and with facilitation from Vyron’s couch and a dirndl had quite a bit of fun. I’ll let him tell that story though

Tuesday
Not much happened today, except for our flight back to London. We’ll be taking care of some housekeeping in London before heading out to Stockholm for some adventures in Soul.

Now that I think about it, there are two blogworthy items here.

The first was Vishal spotting Rachel Bilson at the airport. He comes up to me and says “Aaron, don’t look back but there’s an actress behind you.” The terrible thing about this was that it made me (and everyone else) super-nervous and we just let her walk away. For reference, I found this photo on Google:

It’s interesting though – I have no idea who Rachel Bilson is, and if someone had said “veto” I would have just gone, unaware of her social status or value. I suppose this goes to show just how much of this is all in our heads, beliefs and what we know (or don’t know) about the world. It’s also made me realise that having as much fun as I have had so far in Rockstar, there is still a long way to go. That natural instinct, which Daxx spoke so passionately about a couple of weeks ago, is still not there in me. In my mind, I can picture a bunch of the lads from back home, completely unaware of “approach anxiety” or the Community or pickup or social dynamics, spotting some hottie actress and saying “first one to get her number gets a beer!”

Takeaways

• Don’t get Mr M drunk. And don’t let Mr M get you drunk.
• Internalisation. I need to spend more time internalising what I have learnt, and applying it throughout. When asked to approach, there is little anxiety or hesitation, but even then, there is that tiny splinter left. It’s time to pluck it out and move onto the next level.

Highlights of the Day

• Vishal and I spotted 3 cute girls on the plane. I passed him a note- “Jailbait anyone?” He wrote back- “I’d trade a month for that!” LOL

- Aaron P

end of munich bootcamp. Day 15

Sunday… I’m knackered. Didn’t go to bed until five a clock. We head down for the bootcamp for debrief of the students, me and Vish’ head out in Munich as the class commences again.

It’s one of the first time we just get to stroll around in the centre of Munich without being stressed. I jusy realised that I would like to have a few days in the city to actually explore it. I don’t want anybody to ask me now what I’ve seen on this trip. This trip hasn’t been anything more the about chasing women, I don’t think that it’s a bad thing but I would love to have more time here.

We then did the ritual dinner after bootcamp with the guys and started to discuss if we were going out. The german country captain had a great idea so instead of clubs we got in the cab and told him to bathouse. He laughed at us and started to talk about taking us to a proper bathouse with “happy endings” we got him to take us to the right place after we disappointed him, and told him we only wanted a sauna.

The bathouse was awesome. We headed in and we all rented “towels” that turned out to be tabelcloth, it was huge. Me, Vercetti, Vishal and josh came wrapped up and looked at each other bursting out in laughter. Mr M the only one that had shorts almost ended up on the floor in laughing attack. I noticed as soon as I entered the steamroom that this was a nude and unisex sauna. This must have been 10 game heaven as all the women were hot. So hot that Alex even tried to pick one up in the sauna, his french charm didn’t hit though.

Then me, vercetti and keychain (since all the rockstars got no urge for adventure) headed out for some midnight fun in munich on a sunday. We started out at a “burlesque” themed club that had a interesting way of keeping you occupied while you took a leak- HARDCORE PORN on monitors. We rolled on after the total shock of german culture to another wierd club with naked people on the walls. There I got veto’ed by Keychain and crashed hard, another veto boyfriend show up. He finally picked a few girls that hooked good then he showed up to wing. Game on we did everything and was doing good, vercetti decided to leave and we stayed behind. It was a long night and good fun buit no same night lay due two logistics, ended up in bed with keys instead.

Haha that’s how adventures happen and I think that this weekend was the start of a few crazy weeks that I have no idea on how there going to end.

Cya

-love Micha

second day of munich bootcamp

This was the second day of bootcamp and the students were ready to go. A lot of them did really good and we talked them trough the debrief it’s really wonderfull to see the progress and understandings they made to their game.

We then had our first apperance for the press and had to be there for picture time in a german magazine. So time for us to strike a pose VOGUE… I think I can enjoy this.

Then me vercetti, keychain,soul and all the rockstars except Aaron decided that it would be better to go to oktober (constantly chrash into me) fest instead of a pornconvention, kind of gay. The reporter then thought for some reason that it would be awesome to try out the munich tubesystem that’s so crowded during oktober fest that security needs to direct people. (Btw oktoberfest is so overrated)

If you ever want to be overun by a horde of drunk germans wearing lederhosen, be my guest go to munich during oktoberfest. Not my cup of tea. Doubled back to the bootcamp with Keychain and Vercetti for a dinner with the guys. My dinner was (not miki’s recomandation) 8 deepfried bananas with icecream an chocolate saus it was so good,  a guilty pleasure indeed.

Bootcamp was held at the M-park witch is a rough and “shitty” place that’s huge. I got assigned a student that I easily sent in to set.   It was a really easy group of guys we had this bootcamp and they didn’t need much of a push to get them rolling. It all it turned out to be an awesome night with some really cool sets. I did a “demo” for student and it was probobly the coolest girl I’ve met so far in germany and she was american, I opened up with “do you speak english? Yes. Awesome you are absolutely gorgeous, what’s your name?” It’s so easy her in germany. I left her as I had to take care if students. 14:00 bootcamp over, 5 rockstars gathered and turning in to a force to be reckoned with, it’s absolutely hilarious gaming with this guys. Aaron sees something he like and runs after it Boom 2 min kissclose. He then needed some help with the friends and of course we’re the to “help out” and all the rockstars become pre occupied.

It’s mostly crash and bur from there got undressed by a russian girls eye, but had to bad logostics to pull her so ended up with blueballs and a makeout. Only to here Vercetti to manage a same night lay.

Better luck next time.

Cya

-love Micha

Day 14: Rockstars of Glory

The Day
Two weeks into Project Rockstar, and it is all starting to come together.

The day kicked off with some minor work on our ongoing projects and then the second day of Mr M’s Munich bootcamp.

All the students were given a debrief and specific feedback for what they needed to focus on for later tonight. Mr M then covered his theory of attraction, and a number of related techniques and concepts that allow you to build attraction easily and naturally.

The bootcamp felt long. Maybe it was lack of sleep from the previous night, but I found myself having to nip out for some fresh air in lieu of having a proper power nap. The rest of the Rockstars (having been on a Love Systems bootcamp before) went out for daygame at Oktoberfest with Soul, Keychain and Vercetti.

Post-bootcamp we all had dinner at a nearby Fujian place (I still find it cool that Asian people here speak German), then bounced back to our various accommodations to rest up for bootcamp. I took a 20 minute power nap, downed some green drink (thanks LondonHunk!) and got ready to head out. I also had the chance to spend some time talking with Soul (http://www.lifewithsoul.com) about escalation anxiety, pulling the trigger and sexual intent. He gave me some advice about trying out different things, and finding different sexual elements to play with – quantity, quality or challenge.

Bootcamp
In field was pretty gruelling. After an absolutely incredible night yesterday, the combination of a different venue and the wear of less sleep and seminar time was showing in the students. Nonetheless, each and every student was able to push forward in their game, and work on in throughout the night.

The club we were at was huge. Something of an industrial warehouse converted into a nightclub. A ton of rooms, huge circular central area and an insane number of people. The demographics of the people there was definitely different from the first night of bootcamp – girls were younger and more middle-class, but also a lot more fun.

I observed students in a number of sets and gave them feedback (plus some for tomorrow’s seminar), and also did a couple of demo sets that involved me getting blown out haha.

For example-
Boring girl: she is dancing by herself. Her friend and her friend’s boyfriend are making out behind her. I open, pull her down and begin to rapidly escalate. We get face-to-face. I test for a kiss – no-go. I talk more. Test again – no-go. Her friend’s boyfriend sees this, and pulls her up and whispers something in German in her ear. She freaks. He then tells me that we should go together, presumably to hook up. The girl is freaking out at this point, so I talk with her friend for a bit then leave.

Vietnamese girls: ran up, stopped them, talked for a bit, then proceeded to pick one up, spin hug her and carry her off. Her friend understandably freaked a bit and they ran off giggling.

More Asian girls: Opened 3 of them who had just entered the nightclub… they jumped a foot backwards when I opened and ran off.

Random girls walking by: I was just grabbing them and going direct. Most of them either blew me off, or said thanks and disappeared.

Bringing Down The House
Once 2am rolled around, the Rockstars went nuts. I gathered up Josh and Vishal and Micha and we decided to play veto extreme – it’s kind of like veto, but you have to veto someone every ten seconds.

We open a ton of sets. From what I remember…
Girl outside ladies room
I walk up to her, say “hey” loudly, she jumps a bit, and looks super nervous. She looks like she is about to bolt then I spot her boyfriend. He says something in German, and I say “you’re a very lucky man”. He says thanks and they both leave.

Birthday Party
This was a 6 set of girls the Vishal vetoed me on. Despite not really wanting to do it, I went in with “Hi, my name’s Aaron.” I then looked for the reactions. Two of the girl went green, the other four were red or yellow. I engaged the ones that went green, sat down on the edge of a table nearby and started talking.

It turned out to be a birthday party, and before I knew it Vishal and Josh were there in set with me. After chatting with the less attractive girl for a bit, I started to talking to the more attracted one (freckles, redhead, hmmmmmm). I locked in next to her, so she was facing away from her friends and talked and began to escalate.

At one point Mr M stopped by and gave me some feedback: when escalating physically, instead of using larger smiles to ease tension, I should look away instead, and smile less. A subtle difference, but one that will undoubtedly pay dividends over the upcoming weeks.

About ten minutes in I noticed that Josh had left, and Vishal was engaging two of the girls on the other side of the bench. Their less-attractive seventh friend had also made an appearance with champagne, and they were getting ready to toast. Josh motioned me to join him elsewhere so I left. In the quick debrief Mr M mentioned that I could have isolated and made out with the girl. Grrrr…

More random girls walking by
Lots of grabbing and going direct. Some nice interactions, but nothing spectacular.

30-second makeout with pictures
This set was pure awesomeness and a logistical nightmare. After playing veto extreme with the other Rockstars, I spot four girls making their way into one of the rooms of the club. I sprint, against the advice of my still-sprained ankle, after them. Mr M does a double take as I rush past him. I miss the first three but I open the last one.

I swing her around in a more aggressive sort of daygame-style spin, and tell her that her dierndl makes her look absolutely adorable. She lights up. We exchange names. I tell her she is crazy. I give her a hug, and spin her around. I then pull her in close, and I stare into her soft blue eyes. I stroke her face, and brush her hair away, and without further words, we kiss. She grabs me in and we make out. I stare back at her and we exchange a moment, then she takes my hand and pulls me towards her friends. I meet them, briefly.

We all head to the dance floor, and while everyone dances away to the high-energy beat of the music I am simply slow-waltzing and rocking back and forth with my girl. We kiss, her friends see this and two of them disappear. The remaining friend wants to dance more, and we end up on a platform.

Hilarity ensues. Some random German guy spills beer on the girl’s friend. She is freaked, and pissed. We move slightly away from him, but he is persistent. Next thing I know, he is grinding with me girl’s friend and trying to kiss her. He does not succeed initially, but he keeps going. This is perfect for me – an instant and impromptu wing. We move again to the main dance floor and towards a quieter area of the club as I want to isolate. Unfortunate my new-found wingman is being overly aggressive and groping the girl while forcing a makeout. He loses the girl, and I find myself being dragged away by my girl and her girlfriend to get away from him.

As we wander around the quieter parts of the club I found out more about them. They are au pairs visiting from different parts of Europe, having just arrived for Oktoberfest. None of them use facebook or have German cell numbers. This is unfortunate. Perhaps I should have taken my girl’s Italian cell number, but this felt like more of a this-night-only kind of thing.

We wind up back in the main club room, on the dance floor, rejoined by the rest of the girlfriends. I propose we head to the bar for a drink. On the way there, I spot Soul and MunichHawk standing nearby, and motion them to come wing. They smile, and I soon see why. At the bar, the navy seals team is there: Josh, Vishal, Micha and Alex. I introduce my girl to Micha and Josh, and they are introduced to her friends. Vishal joins us. Vercetti and Mr M are standing nearby, smiling like proud parents. Some bootcamp students meander over and watch, as we all mini-isolate each of the girls and proceed to make out with them… I bit my girl on the neck too, just for fun

The girls’ buying temperatures must have been sky-high, as some of them became very giggly and they all rushed off the dance floor, never to be seen again. It was a bittersweet ending to an otherwise awesome interaction. Perhaps we could have seeded and created a bounce back to our place for an afterparty, but perhaps not.

Takeaways

• Easing tension while physically escalating – smile less, and takeaway by looking away rather than smiling more.
• Sexual intent and escalation anxiety – experiment, try everything and stretch the imagination. Challenge myself. During the final mini-isolation I had my hand on the girl’s lower back. Soul walked over and repositioned it to her behind… he later told me that I should have gave it a nice squeeze and proceeded to escalate further, just to see where things would go.
• Comfort point – there was a moment during the final set/interaction where the girl went “ohhhh” and was pressed up comfortably against me. Soul tells me that this was the point where she felt comfortable to take things physically to the next level, and that next time it happens I should watch for it and continue things forward.
• English – speaking English in Europe is fun. When in doubt, open with “do you speak English?”
• Closing – yes, things are improving, but I feel that I can still be closing more. Numbers or facebook as contingencies, and pushing even faster physical escalation as the main aim.

Highlights of the Day

• The mystery of the petite Polish blonde and the Beast. I think every student and instructor hit on this set at some point… how an adorable, cute and sexy Polish girl was paired with an absolute beast of a woman is beyond all of us.
• Standing outside the apartment building next to where we were staying trying to work out why the key didn’t fit before realising that we were trying to open the door to the building next door.
• Mr M: “After teaching bootcamp, I kind of understand how strippers feel when they’ve been dancing all night.”
• Soul: “Gaming is like being a duck. On the surface, you are smoothly gliding across the water… but underneath, you’re furiously kicking your feet away.”
• Shout out to Mr Wong from Australia – thanks for reading mate!

- Aaron P

Day 13: Storming Munich

The What
Absolutely awesome day.

Woke up in the morning and had the time to get ready properly, do some shopping and even to start reviewing some of the notes that I’ve taken over the past 12 days.

I then headed out with Mr M & Soul to the first day of the Munich bootcamp (http://www.lovesystems.com), and met up with the rest of the Rockstars there.

We sat in on the bootcamp seminar as both students and approach coaches. For me, this was my first Love Systems bootcamp, so it was pretty enlightening. The material presented was very different from what I’ve seen taught by other companies, and is definitely more geared towards people who like to think things out logically and structurally.

After 5 hours of seminar, we headed for dinner at this awesome German “fast food” place called Ocui. You take a swipe card, get your food freshly prepared, grab a glass of wine and then sit down in an urban-chic restaurant and have healthy and awesome food.

Following dinner we all rushed back to prepare for field time. Soul, Mr M and myself also met up with a journalist who wanted to cover the bootcamp for a local paper.

But onto infield…

This was a HUGE bootcamp. 4 instructors, 6 rockstars and our tour manager Conor approach coaching, as well as locals Frame and MunichHawk and ubermentor Jeff approach-coaching too. We hit up 2 clubs in central Munich.

I only did about 5-6 sets over the course of the night, most of the time was spent making sure the students were being pushed into sets, that they were opening properly and getting into interactions. It’s kind of reflective to see what the past 10 or so days of being pushed ourselves into sets that we don’t want to do has done to our game and calibration.

All the students were phenomenal, approaching, opening, going direct, getting numbers, kiss closes and all sorts of other chaos. Congratulations to all!

I did do a couple of demo sets~

The first was an attempt to show a student what a blow out looked like, and that it doesn’t matter if a girl “rejects” you. It didn’t quite work. Some tall, hot German girls walks past. I grab her, pull her in. I tell her she is adorable. We talk. We exchange names. We get up close. We talk more. I realise that I’m supposed to be coaching the student. We talk more, and exchange flirtatious eye contact. She promises me a dance later.

The second that I remember was showing a student how to go in “semi-direct”, or basically walking up to a girl and just introducing yourself. This was in the outside area. This girl was cute. Sexy cute. She had a small piercing just below her lower-right lip and a tongue piercing. After talking with the student for a few minutes, encouraging him to approach I decide to do it instead. Normally this would be perceived as awkward, having hovered around the girl for five minutes. But what is more awkward is less awkward, but what is less awkward is more awkward (credit: TD). I open, sit down and we exchange names. She has an American accent. I ask her about it. She says that she has been to Australia. That is perfect for me, and we connect, and talk, and talk, and talk. All throughout I am doing social touching (touching her on her arm, her upper arm, her elbow, her shoulder), and “clawing” her in on emotional high points for a sideways hug (credit: Tim). I glance up at the student, and decided that the point has been made – you can open, and talk to a girl, just by going up and saying hi. I leave the set. In retrospect, I should have number-closed or facebook-closed this girl, as all the signs of interest were there. More in this below.

The third I remember was towards the end of the night. I spotted a girl standing by herself looking bored on the fringes of her group. I go up. I say hi. I pull her in towards me, introduce myself, and ask for her name. It is something German. At this point there are 5cm between our faces. We talk. And dance. I spin her around, push her away, grab her in. Soon we are locking fingers, and we are waltzing. Her arms go around my neck. I go to kiss her – no go. I spin her away, and back. We talk in what is known as “vibing” – where the content of the conversation is less important than the emotional message conveyed behind it. I go to kiss her again. She turns her head away. Spin away, pull her back in, and then I look deeply into her eyes. The tension builds as she gets the message… she is the first to break the tension, saying “no, no, not tonight…” I pull her in, arm around her waist and we just rock on the spot for a bit. At this point, I am somewhat bored, I whisper something to her, and bid her farewell…

The rest of my sets pretty much involved me grabbing girls as they walked past, whispering sweet nothings into their ears, watching them smile… and exchanging some flirtatious eye contact while their less attractive friends dragged them away

I also had the opportunity to watch Mr M & Vercetti in set. They are phenomenal. It is both awesome and worrying that as they walked around the venue… they were checked out and ogled over by both German women… and men

It is starting to dawn on me the progress we have made and are making in Rockstar. I know some of us were worried, that we wouldn’t be ready or have made enough progress as last year’s Rockstars because of less field time… but after tonight, everything is starting to come together.

Takeaways

• Teaching pickup totally changes the nature of the game and your inner game. There is something very, very different about walking into a venue and then directing the social interactions that happen in there. It’s almost like you become master of the venue and are able to influence or even manipulate the social variables there – and when you can do that, there’s no need to be anxious or even a real need for state.
• Sexual intent: this is still my main sticking point. For example, getting bored with the set towards the end of the night, or not automatically going for some sort of contact close in every set past hook point (where the girl has been engaged). Mr M says that this is pretty much a “you need to pull the trigger” problem, and is a habit to break and reform. Soul says that it’s a matter of finding hotter girls or making each set more challenging to myself. Mr M also mentioned the notion of “ohhhh”… where you see a girl, and she just does all the right things for you and you can picture yourself doing all sorts of dirty and sexy things to her.
• Escalation: I am going to structure my physical escalation more- same basic structure in the beginning, but a smoother escalation towards a kiss… touching her face, brushing away her hair, pulling her hair first… before kissing. I am also going to add in a basic two-step qualification to all the sets I run.
• Framing – friendly frame. Almost everyone I talk to I mention that the people in XYZ country are really friendly. It sets the right frame, and subsequently makes them friendlier!
• Nonsensical vibing. Something that describes how Braddock games and teases. I don’t really understand it yet, but have heard it and it’s both funny and effective, and something that I should add to my game.

Highlights of the Day

• Konichiwa opener: For probably the third time in my life I was opened my a girl. A HOT girl. She was walking past with her less attractive friend, and we made eye contact. She says: “Konichiwa! Are you Japanese?” My mind went: “No, but IT’S ON!!” I grabbed her while her friend vanished outside. We talk, we get up close, we talk… I tease her, touch her, grab her, pull her in… the words are meaningless, the meaning is in what we are doing with our gestures, our touching, and our eye contact. And then the friend reappears. And grabs her, apologises, and takes her away. As she is being dragged away, she is looking back, with a “I really want to spend more time with you” look in her eyes. I mentioned what had happened to Mr M and the Konichiwa opener is to be field tested tonight- whether the girl looks Japanese or not.
• Straight German guys offering to buy us drinks – told you people here are friendly.
• Quote of the day from Mr M: “Fuck, I never win that game” (in reference to who gets to use the bathroom first).

- Aaron P

Day 12: Rockstar Munich

After waking up illegally early I headed out with Alex and Josh to Heathrow to fly to Munich. On the way, we found out that Vishal took the 6am flight out and was already there. Micha had arrived the day before.

Getting on the plane was a bit weird. Everything was very precise, on time and… uniform. It was also probably the only plane trip I’ve taken this year where I haven’t had an in-depth conversation with the person sitting next to me (who was a businessman from HK on his way back home).

I caught up on sleep on the flight, and we landed in Munich. After struggling to decipher the ’80s-style ticket machine we started the 45 minute journey into the heart of Munich. Alex started chatting up this German girl, and Josh and I decided to join in. A couple of stations later and we ended up talking to two cute German girls, one dressed in the tradition dierndl. I believe that Josh ended up number-closing one of them who is taking us out to Oktoberfest on Saturday.

And speaking of Oktoberfest… after rendezvousing with Mr M, Soul, Vishal and Misha we all headed out for Munich’s #1 attraction. We actually arrived fairly late, around 9pm, and everything closes up at 11pm.

I would describe Oktoberfest as a HUGE outdoor carnival with gigantic beer halls scattered throughout. After grabbing some quick, hearty German food, we decided to join in on the fun. One of our wealth mentors bought a round of beer, and we spent the next couple of hours drinking, having fun and lasciviously hitting on German girls. Aggressively. Like, walking up, grabbing them around the waist or shoulders and telling them all the naughty things we wanted to do to them.

Everyone ran a number of really cool sets, and I believe that a some numbers were exchanged. Probably the strangest thing was the realisation that as Oktoberfest was finishing up, it became harder and harder to stop people and talk to them… they just wanted to leave. Reminds me a bit of doing “shark game” as the clubs and bars close at the end of the night.

We bounced to a club nearby… which was empty (but we did get Mr M on hidden camera haha), and then hopped in a taxi which took us to some strange German disco area. Where there were no girls. Oh well, I’ve only been in Munich 12 hours, and it’s been an awesome adventure already.

Just wait until tomorrow… Rockstars… Love Systems… Munich… Oktoberfest… oh my.

- Aaron P

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