THE END……What Have I learned…

I not really sure what this impact have had on my life but I think it definitely changed the way my children’s going to look.

I came here high on life after I got the call from Mr.M that Monday 13 days before rockstar. I don’t think I told anybody that I applied a while before so it probably came as a shock to somebody “dad” around me. I don’t think that I’ve been more excited about anything in my life this was as cool as it would be.  I came here with the aspirations to become a dating coach then go to school a few months later. I was going to start up a form an e-commerce then stay behind in London just hitting the clubs and be sarging like crazy. I was on a high in life.

I don’t think I could have been more wrong of what to expect, I now know that not even the people organizing this “event” knew what was supposed to be the product of it.  It was crazy in the begin and I’m not surprised that one dropped out.

So am I disappointed at the experience that this has been. Absolutely not, this has been such a learning experienced that has open up my eyes for what’s possible for me in my life. Partially because the things we were taught and mostly because the people that I’ve met during the journey.

This was marketed as away to work and wealth, health and relationships. Well I took and threw the health part out of the window when it came down to choose what to do in the schedule that didn’t have room for anything. So with two things to focus on you might think that I would have time to work hard on them, but no. I don’t really remember anything the first weeks of rockstar so it’s going to be interesting to read the book and to go back on my blogposts.

WHAT HAVE I LEARNED THEN…

Game: Game is f*****n easy and fun. I have some kickass memories with the guys out hitting on women. We all came here as “ordinary” people not socially awkward and some beginner’s skill in game, we were all very different in the way we interacted with women and turned in to a cool crew of guys. I came in with a clunky outer game and poor inner game. My biggest problem with women was that I had no skills in how to create the emotional connection with woman. I had easier to pull same night lays and being sexual, which turned out to be a good skill in Vegas. I look back at what I’ve learned in all these classes and I can’t really remember. I now have a moleskine notebook full of notes that I need to goo trough and map out. But I know that I’m really good now. How can I do that if I can’t put my fingers on what I’ve learned? It’s more of a feeling inside of me, I’ve had more than enough of positive reference experience with women now to now that I’m good.  I don’t know if there is anything that scares me on a night with a roll probably, but I’ll most likely do it anyway.

What is that I feel? I would like to say that I feel more complete as a man of what I can do, I’m not controlled by my fears. I can run after a beautiful woman if I see her on the streets. I don’t have to wonder what if I did approach her. I came here with a desire to connect with women and not to sleep with as many as possible. I think I coming really close to my goal I’ve been seeing one girl now for little while and it’s a good and new feeling to hang out with her.  It has also removed my desire to go after absolutely everything with two legs and breast that’s hot. I don’t know why, but she told me I could go on as usual since I’m a part of rockstar. I have honestly tried to hit on other women but I don’t have any desire for the moment and I have now abounded the idea of me being a guy that would like multiple relationships.  I would actually give it a go if I was staying in London with this girl, but for now I just enjoy the good feeling she is giving me, who knows what can happen in the future. I now feel comfortable with the idea that I can build relationships with women. So I can’t say anything more than mission accomplished, and thanks to all the instructors and fellow rockstars that has been there for the journey.

Business: I have now started to think about life in completely different new angle of what is possible to do for a living. I come from a blue collar family where it’s taking pride to work for the system and being a part of society and pull your weight. Practically all my friends in my hometown are hard workers in some form, and so is my family. I never even thought in the terms that we have been talking about here in rockstar.  I had some small ideas but nothing this planned out, I now know where I’m going and what I’m setting out to do. I now know where to aim my energy thanks to fellow rockstar and now friend Aaron. He showed me what is possible in the world of online marketing and talked and inspired with his way of life. The more we talked the more I saw how I think it suits me as a worker, and I’m now setting out to hit my goals. I came here to e inspired and to learn new ways of making a living. I know that I can work the living shit out of my body and be pulling 80 workweeks in freezing cold snow and water whipping up on. I’m now 27 almost 28 years old and I can already feel how my body is going to fall apart due to damage I got from working my ass off for somebody else. I’m never going to back to way of life I was living before it’s just not a possibility in my reality. I know look for the feeling in this area of life as I have with women. It’s the feeling of you don’t care if you lose, you can always get more money/women. I GOT THIS SHIT HANDLED. It means that there is room for improvement but you know what you are doing. So get back to me in three months and we will see where I am. I will consider that my goal here is almost achieved as it changed so much during the path of rockstar, but I’m happy with the outcome of it.

Health: well I have had two home cooked meals since I entered rockstar, both of them thanks to my dear friend that I stayed with in Stockholm. So as you may imagine I’m not in any better shape than before I was rockstar. I made it an active choice to skip training and focus my time on other the other task since I got easy access to this since before.  I got a diet and workout schedule being taken care of as soon as I touch ground in my hometown anyway.

So what’s going to happen now, well I’m going to my home town until at least New Years Eve. My purpose is to too work in peace and quiet, since I’m really tired of the shitty living standard the London flats have to offer at staggering prices. I’m going back to Sweden as results in the debate where I would get the most work done. But I’ll be back out in the world really soon. The goal is to join the other Rockstar in mars to start a real rockstar mansion hitting it big in the states. Yes it will be revealed later but we’re all going to take our supernova to the max. Be sure to check out this blog later next year.

Instructorship: Do I still want to be an dating coach? Do I want to be a part of the community? The dreaded LSS!!! These are questions that I asked myself and I’m not as sure as I was eight weeks ago. First of all rockstar has been a lot of Approach coaching since it’s a good way to become good yourself and teaching others, a little bit too much in my taste. I didn’t really feel that competent in the beginning at first, I have now risen to the challenge and feel comfortable taking a newbie out and help him, I don’t enjoy it really today thouh.  I really need some time away before I can take a decision in if I want to peruse the goal of instructorship. Because what guys don’t get is you don’t get paid to go out and pick up women, you get paid to go out to hold grown man in the hand and tell them that the hot blonde over there won’t kill you when you tell her she looks good. I can and have approached instead of sending away student to women when I was AC’ing during rockstar and I don’t regret it. That’s how I had some of the most interesting interactions so far, and how I met some of the most interesting people around the world. I will make up my mind to New years eve if this is something I want to put my time and effort in. But in the meantime if you’re in Oslo at the end of this month 28th of Nov make sure to check out Day Game expert Jeremy Soul. He’s having one of his day game seminar and I will be there to help out.

But tanks to all the readers this has been super fun and I will get out of the community, at least for a while but you never know. I need to focus on other thing in my life right now.

The guys I would like to thanks for this awesome experience are:

Vishal (cya NYE)

Aaron, Alex, Josh (rockstar mansion Vegas is waiting for us)

Jeremy Soul (cya NYE and thnx for the time in STHLM)

Vercetti you big hug bear….

Keychain have to do some more day game shenanigans with you.

Dr. Yen my pc-muscle is growing every day thnx to you J

London Playboy thnx for the torture garden ticket.

All the instructor and business mentors that have been there and a part of this journey thanks for your contribution, 5.0, Sheriff, Jeff, Kunal, London wizard, Paladin, Alex Sargent and a few more. I hope to meet up with a lot of you guys again.

Last to be mentioned Mr.M you have had a huge impact on the way my life turned out, and you keep on having a huge influence in my life. A really hope I can show you my gratitude one day but for now SUCK IT.

And Adam I would like to percived as Suave, charming Swede with absolutely Dazzling smile so don’t fabricate anything.

Stay classy

-Micha

Ps. Sandra is a dork, but a cool one

Build the supernova

Day 04: Field Report Time

The What

In a change of pace, today was our first real “field time”. Mr M graciously gave us the morning off to work on business, wealth and general housekeeping tasks (like buying food). Yes, we have no grocery shopping time scheduled into our 16-hour-day timetables

I spent the morning scouring the local area for supplies for Rockstar West and some food. I know R has our diets sent out, but we’ve been so busy we haven’t had time to shop for them yet.

Our in-field initiation was with the infamous Dr Yen (of http://www.pandoraslifestyle.com), and his approach coach Shaolin. We arrived at Covent Garden wondering what to expect, and the first thing out of Dr Yen’s mouth was- “go tell that girl that she looks fucking gorgeous”. And so we go. Over the course of the next 4 hours, we approach uncountable numbers of women and “go direct” – in everyday language, we give the women a genuine compliment about their appearance, style or vibe.

I’ll sum up my takeaways and lessons at the end of this post, but my daygame tally was:

25 approaches

1 email/facebook close

3 blowouts – one told me to fuck off (a first in my entire life I believe), one had a boyfriend and the other Dr Yen had opened 15 minutes earlier.

The thing I liked the most about today’s session was that the women were absolutely stunning. They ranged from cute and adorable to model-quality. And there were plenty of them. Unlike back in San Francisco, we could literally go from one girl to the next, and not have to scour the streets for twenty minutes looking for who to talk to next.

I am annoyed with myself for not pushing the envelope more. I should be number closing or at the very least facebook closing all the women I talk to. I spoke with Vercetti about this and he mentioned that as they teach us more structure, we’ll have a better feel and intuition for when it’s appropriate to do some form of contact close, and that our rates with closes will naturally go up.

Following daygame Conor and I were supposed to go get haircuts with Dr Yen’s stylist, but he wasn’t around. We all ended up having dinner at this great modern-British cuisine place instead.

Immediately after dinner we went to meet up with London Playboy (of http://www.thesocialcoach.com) and Paladin (of http://www.organicseduction.com and http://www.smellymyblog.com, and a Rockstar graduate from last year). They gave us some basics of approaching and some theory, and then off to the bars it was. Paladin took myself, Josh, Vishal and Alex, and London Playboy took Claude, Micha, Conor and Adam and a couple of the mentors who were with us.

We hit up TT. It was dead. We bounced to a bar somewhere nearby, and decided to chill for about an hour until the club next door opened. We all talked to some of the (not particularly attractive) women there to warm up, and found out a bit more about Paladin and his background. When the club opened next door at 9:30 we headed in. It was dead empty

We hung around for a bit, Paladin gave me some personal advice on game while Josh and Vishal were off opening the only set in the room. We soon bumped into London Playboy who coached us a bit more. He watched Alex and myself do an approach, and then mentioned that we both have the basics of opening and transitioning and engaging people in conversation down.

Unbeknownst, the club had been slowly filling up with people, and Josh was off talking to a 4-set of Indian girls. He came back and decided he wanted us to wing. I was literally *exhausted* from all the daygame and getting up early to fix some Rockstar Blog admin work and some of my own personal business work, but the team convinced me to stay for “a little longer”. So we bounced into the 4-set and occupied the 3 other girls for Josh for a good 45 minutes or so. Paladin texted me at some point to “kiss your girl or I’ll fucking punch you in the face”…

I didn’t end up kissing her, as I had planned on playing the facebook/number/social route instead of the take-her-home-tonight route, and my physical escalation and verbal game reflected that. It was also really early to be taking a girl home at 11:30pm. Quite a bit of drama actually ensued as Vishal and myself were trying to extract our girls, but at one point we lost them when they all went to the ladies room together and decided that they did not want to go home with us tonight (one of the other girls was also adamant on not leaving without her friends). My girl also had to leave London at 7am the next morning. In retrospect we probably did lose the set for not escalating on the girls fast enough, but that’s why we’re here – to learn these things. Following that I wandered the club a bit but was dead tired and falling asleep. I pinged the various Rockstars still out and Alex and I ended up heading back home on the Tube.

The Who

Dr Yen: this guy is awesome. I love his direct daygame style and his energy, even if he does get a bit carried away during the day.

Paladin: this guy both scares me and leaves me in awe at the same time. He is extremely calm and articulate in set, and gives spot-on advice and critiques. At the same time, whenever he asks me to approach I get that gut-wrenching feeling… maybe because it’s because he’s good at reading people.

London Playboy: awesome, awesome instructor and Community old-guard. His vibe is very warm and laid-back, and his words of wisdom are priceless.

The Lessons

From daygame coaches (Dr Yen, Shaolin, Vercetti): Approach lighter – use 2-3 fingers to gently spin a woman around, not your whole hand. Do not grab. Open when directly next to her, not from slightly behind. Open on the side her handbag is not on. Push the interaction more. RUN after girls.

From Paladin: Find a sexy stereotype to use. Work on building warmth in my presence. Paladin’s technique for escalating to a kiss close (brush her hair, tease her by whispering in her ear and then grab her and kiss her). Basic dancefloor opening. No hands in pockets – it displays insecurity.

From London Playboy: Be cool and just have conversations. Do not value scan in a venue. Lock in against the bar when first arriving if you like.

Takeaways

• Asian girls in London – they’re mostly Japanese, and asking if they’re that is better than suggesting they’re Korean.
• Girls with headphones – don’t pretend to talk and motion for headphones. Instead, look them straight in the eye and look expectantly at them and motion for them to pull their headphones off (credit: Vercetti). Otherwise, just start talking if they don’t comply.
• Taking risks and pushing the envelope – I have 8 weeks to make the most of my time in Europe and of Project Rockstar. No matter how tired, how sore, how stressed I am… I will push the envelope. No going home early – this is a once in a lifetime opportunity and on the Tube home today I realised that. I am going to push myself to the limit and beyond – here is my promise in writing.
• Vocal Projection – only talk when there is air in your mouth and breath from your diaphragm (credit: Vercetti).

Highlights of the Day

• Getting told to fuck off. Wow.
• The tons of hot and gorgeous women wandering the streets of London.
• All the crazy shit that happened at the final nightclub.

- Aaron P

First Impressions of London

September 11th, 2009

I arrived in London today in advance of Project Rockstar. The flight was pleasant enough – got a couple of hours worth of sleep, talked to some old people (what is it with old people and flying to London?) and watched The Proposal.

Landed in London and phoned Dr. Yen to find out where we were staying. He tells me that the mystery sixth Rockstar is taking care of it. I call him and hop in a cab. Three-quarters of the way there I get a text, saying that I’m going to have to get the keys from the building manager. Ouch. An 11-hour flight to London and I gotta wait on the pavement for some English landlady to bring the keys? No fucking way. I text back, saying I’ll be there soon.

First impressions of London. The official colour is industrial-revolution brown. Everything seems to be this blackened, brick colour. Whoever told me that it was going to be cold was wrong. It is in fact, quite warm, especially when the sun’s out. Whoever said that there were no beautiful women in London was also wrong – on the cab ride across town I spotted no less than five good-looking women.

Finally get to the Rockstar “Mansion”… and… Oh. My. God.

Who… in… their… right… mind… decided… on… this… place…?

There’s only one other Rockstar here, so I grab one of the bedrooms while he heads out for some coffee. Seriously, this place is ghastly. There is a fine layer of brick dust *everywhere*. There are worker’s rubber boots in the closet. The provided silverware is coated in dust. The lamp in my room has had its power cord severed. Power sockets are falling out of the wall. If you step on a floorboard, the other end of it springs up.

I’m going to be living here for eight weeks… seriously???

After the initial shock I decide to get a bit more productive. I head out with the sixth Rockstar to Oxford St to grab a sim card. I plug it into my iPhone – it doesn’t work. It turn off 3G… ah, much better, but what’s the point of an iPhone without 3G connectivity? I also grab a 3G USB adapter for Internet.

We dash down Oxford Street and grab some duvets and sheets and other miscellaneous household goods. It appears that in the UK “furnished” really means “some old stuff lying around that I didn’t want to move out”.

Mr. Sixth Rockstar gets a phone call from Mr. M. We have to meet up with him. We walk 20 minutes across town, and wait another 30 for him to arrive. He finally does, and we taxi back to the “mansion”.

I decide that it’s time to do a proper look-through. We discover all sorts of unsanitary joys, and dial Mr. M. He says he’s coming by to look at it… 3 hours later, he arrives with Paladin.

After some back-and-forth, he says (paraphrasing) “Look, this is London. Stuff looks old, and is old. It looks like this. You guys will be fine.” And so we decide to have a cleaning lady to come by tomorrow to clear up the mess and make it a bit more hospitable.

We all head out for dinner nearby. All of a sudden, it begins to dawn on the sixth Rockstar and myself *why* Dr. Yen chose this particular location. There is a bar/lounge next door. This is very cool. Almost all night, about five metres from our front door there is a group of girls talking, and waiting for their friends to arrive. Later in the evening, there is a sexy brunette speaking Russian into her cell phone outside our front door. It is also very annoying – cars, taxis and crazy drunk people coming back and forth consistently.

We get dinner in the Brick Lane area of London and then grab a quick beer after. I got to talk to Mr. M a bit about his background and what he’s working on, and get a feel more for the dynamics of how Project Rockstar is going to go down… it’s going to be one crazy journey.

- Aaron P