Days 44-46: The Council, Comedy and It’s Time To Be An Asshole

This is going to be a long and content-heavy post. Enjoy

Tuesday

Spent most of the day preparing with Aidan Killian (http://www.laughoutloud.ie/) for standup.

Nighttime was our second London Council meeting. We all sat there for about an hour each, while our various instructors gave us feedback on the gaps in our game, where we were, how far we had come and where we needed to go.

Alex and Micha both received phenomenal feedback from the Council. I was… a bit more complicated. In the post I was going to publish on Monday about my thoughts on Project Rockstar, I had written that out of all the Rockstars, I felt that my game had improved the least. I am yet to reach a moment where everything just “clicks” for me, and there was apparently quite a bit of debate amongst the Council as to what to tell me, or how to advise me or guide me towards improving my game.

All the feedback is specific to me, but there is some good advice in this~

• Learning Game. Rockstar is just the opening credits to the movie of my life. Consider game and social skills as a subset of the skills required to do business. Approach only when you feel like approaching (nightgame). Daygame is just about skillset acquisition and a numbers game.
• Self-Concept stuff. Your greatest strengths are also your greatest weaknesses. This is a paradox, and for me, working it out is presenting different parts of my personality in different contexts. Frustration is a human process, one that I have conquered in the past, and one that I just need to trust in myself to overcome in the present (with game). More work on warmth and emotional connect. Wield emotions via logic, rather than trying to force emotions out (see emotions as a separate progression track to be inserted into attraction, qualification, comfort etc, and in that moment unleash the emotion and turn off the intellect). Have fun when going out. When going out, just have fun rather than feel the need to approach, approach, approach. See self as a social and fun person, and someone who enhances the social situation, and someone who people have fun around. Self-reliance – great but learn how to vary the behaviour.
• Parts of Others (NLP concept). Create an understanding that others have things they can contribute to my life. Realise that everyone has something amazing about their life. Accept that people are fucked up… probably more than I am. Look for the parts that are golden and learn from them. See others’ primal parts. Listen, and try the weird shit that others say and do, but have no feedback loop when doing so. Create a new part that is the social instigator.
• Taking chances. Be willing to fuck up. Go skydiving. Let’s joust attitude.
• Emotional Expression. Wielding emotions through logic. Find the point of emotional blockage and let it loose at times. Revel in my ability to play with my own mind, the minds of others and the darkness and dominance. Consider that opening up emotionally will give me an enhanced ability to access the social sphere. Consider taking a David Deida course or AMP or something.
• The Alex Lesson. Knowing when to be intellectual and when to be in the moment. Being happy with where you currently are lets you evolve to the next level.
• Acceptance. Acceptance is contextual – others’ acceptance of me is irrelevant, it’s my acceptance of them that counts. Kill the belief of “if people don’t accept me, fuck them.”
• Needing Others. This is the hardest feedback point for me to take in. But it is sometimes necessary to have others around you who accept you for who you are and who help you grow as a person. Navy Seals / Delta Force concept.

Wednesday

We spent all day with Aidan preparing for the Rockstar comedy night. And it was well worth it… all of us performed extremely well, and I’m really happy that Adam (you bastard!) and Mr M insisted that we push forward with the standup training.

There will be videos up on youtube of the whole night, but for now, here are some of the things that I’ve taken away from the ten hours or so of training we’ve had with Aidan and Sasha.

Differences in comedy – standup will make your routines punchier and hit harder. Improv improves your ability to vibe on the spot. They are two completely different skillsets.

Applying standup structure to routines. There is a process for this, roughly:

1. Get a friend or a group of friends to listen to you.
2. Stand up, and start talking about a topic or an event or a story from your life. Make sure you record it.
3. After saying it once, say it again, cutting out all descriptive and unnecessary detail from the story.
4. Figure out which details belong in the setup, and which belong in the punch. It’s even better if you have multiple punches with each being the setup for the next punch. i.e., work out what your jokes are.
5. Work out the emotional progression through the routine. Where are you supposed to be excited, where are you supposed to be dejected, where are you supposed to be sad.
6. Piece the routine back together with proper setup and transitions, adding in more detail and having the proper delivery (including pauses and laughter points).
7. Repeat back to your friends to see where the laugh points are and to see if it is genuinely funny.

Standup delivery. There’s a lot to owning the stage, making eye contact with the audience, with handling a microphone properly and being still and using proper hand gestures to enhance delivery. Doing standup for this alone is great – it shows you very specifically how to hold court in large groups.

Thursday

We did daygame with Alex Sergeant in town. I was really not feeling it. I was actually just pretty content to walk around and enjoy London for a change. The couple of sets Micha vetoed me on I approached… lied through my teeth, and the girls gave me this look of “thanks, but I know you don’t really mean it” haha.

We then heard a talk on Mr M on sexual hoops, physical escalation and other advanced stuff. We also heard from Freedom of Speech about state triggers and the “parting the seas” concept. I don’t have notes on this yet but when I compile them I’ll put up some of the takeaways in a future blog post.

Nightgame was with Paladin. I really wasn’t in the mood to do anything. I just decided to chill, have fun and be an asshole.

Did not open any sets. The other guys were up for it, so I let them do their thing. I was pretty content to just chill out in the club, and talk about inner game and Rockstar with Paladin.

I ended up somehow winging Micha in a set. I just did not fucking care how the set went. This was the lesson from the council, of not caring about others’ acceptance and just accepting who they are, no matter how fucked up they may seem. So I said what was on my mind, and how I was feeling at the time.

Micha: Hey this is my friend A.

Me: Hi, what are your names.

Half-Asian Natalie: Natalie.

Blonde Natalie: Natalie.

I start talking to half-Asian Natalie.

Natalie: Where are you from?

Me: Guess.

Natalie: South Korea? Japan? Thailand?

Me: You’re such a fucking racist.

Natalie: Nooooo!!! I’m not… I’m the last person to be a racist, I’m half Thai (she was really apologetic in saying this haha).

Me: (in Thai) So you speak Thai.

Natalie: Yeah!

Me: Where are you girls from.

Natalie: Germany.

Me: You speak pretty good English for German girls.

Natalie: OMG, thank you!

Me: (thinking WTF – end up telling her a bit about Thailand).

Natalie: (tells me about Thailand)

Me: What do you do here in London.

Natalie: I study international business management.

Me: Fuck, not another one of you. And in London. This city is fucking cold and miserable. I’m getting ready to leave.

Natalie: What?!?

Me: Yeah, I’ve had enough of you.

Natalie: What? I’m sorry, I’m not racist.

Me: (thinking WTF – big takeway and turn around)

Natalie: (grabs my arm, turns me back around) Who are you? (steps back and checks me out head to toe).

Me: I’m popular.

Natialie: (grabs my necklace) Ohhh… Armani… I guess you are popular.

Me: (thinking WTF) Yeah.

At this point Micha turned to me and indicated he was bored and wanted to leave. So we left. The next thing I could have said would have been “Look. I’m not a sausage with feet OK. I have feelings too.” or something to that effect.

Despite having a super-chill night and not really doing anything, I had more fun tonight than on any other night in the past week. And hey, it’s fun to be an asshole sometimes and just not give a shit about what happens to a set. I think I’m going to make a commitment to myself to do this for the rest of Rockstar – take happy asshole game to the extreme and just work it. I’ve been struggling to find the motivation to go out or approach or even wing… but after tonight, I have some of that back. This is gonna be fun.

Sticking Points

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – attraction. Teasing and Sexual talk neural net training. Practice attraction via scenarios. Practice asshole game via scenarios and in-field.
• Verbal Game – vibing, qualification. Practice via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – sexual hoops (including SOIs). Go over Mr M’s talk, list them out, use them in both off-field and in-field.
• Logistical Escalation.
• Physical Escalation.
• Takeaways. I’m getting better at this. Practice in-field.
• Delivery. Practice in-field.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation.
• Identity & Beliefs. Understanding that others are fucked up and that they all have some amazing part of their life, and something to contribute to mine. Adopting the belief of “I may fuck this up, but let’s joust.” Realising that you only need to score 30/100 to pick up. No need to aim for 92/100. Realising that acceptance is contextual, and that I don’t really need to care about others’ acceptance of me, and that it’s more about my acceptance of them for who they are. Killing the belief of “if people don’t accept me, fuck them.”
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Needs more exploration. Still not automatically doing this in set.
• Boundary function.
• Self-image. Frustration as something I have overcome and will continue to push through. Realising that there’s nothing wrong with me, and that my greatest strengths are also my greatest weaknesses. More work on warmth and emotional connection. Seeing self as having fun when going out, and being someone who enhances the social situation. Creating the social instigator part in myself. The Alex Lesson.
• Behaviour. Learning to present different parts of me to different people. Learning to wield emotions via logic. Listening to the weird shit others say and trying it, without judgement.
• Emotional Management. Letting loose on emotional block points. Revelling in darkness and dominance, and the ability to play with my own and others’ minds. Ingrain idea that opening up emotionally will give me an enhanced ability to access the social sphere.
• Capabilities. Ability to see primal parts in others. Ability to recognise that in some areas of my life I need others to help me grow.
• Intent. Finding it fucking hard to fake this. But I will keep pushing.

- Aaron P

Day 43: Standup

Day

I woke up around noon and spent the early afternoon working on my property presentation and thinking a lot about the inner game issues I’ve been mentioned over the past couple of days. Had dinner, and then hopped on a Skype call with my own mentor Julian (http://www.affiliateinstruction.com/). He covered some advanced online marketing tactics, and gave a fantastic overview of where the industry and market is currently at in terms of affiliate marketing, as well as sharing some of the resources and processes that he personally uses in his business.

We then had a standup training session with Aidan Killian (http://www.aidankillian.com/), in preparation for comedy night on Wednesday. I had quite a bit of resistance to having standup training included as part of Project Rockstar, namely because it is something that I felt we could do by ourselves later, and that we were trading field time and instructor time for it. After today’s session with Aidan, I can now understand why Mr M was so insistent on having us do it. Preparing material for a show is a very quick lesson in learning how to deliver funny and punchy stories and routines, and more importantly, how to cut out extraneous details from what you say in an effort to make it funnier. I can see now how to apply to structure of standup (setup + punch) to the more common stories that I tell in set with girls, and how it can make them far more powerful.

A Bit on Project Rockstar

I was going to write a bit about how Project Rockstar has turned out, but after speaking with Mr M I was reminded that one week is a fucking long time and a lot can happen during that. So you’ll have to wait

- Aaron

Day 42: My head hurts

Day

Did some approach coaching for the LSS bootcamp daygame portion – these guys have balls

Again, I’m going to keep the “what” of the day short.

Thoughts

I did some more thinking today. I usually don’t have issues that take me more than a day to resolve – the fact that these two-to-three things are constantly being processed in my head is just plain distracting, but at the same time it means that deep-level changes are underway. It’s the David Deida concept of being lost for a portion of time while you try to find where you are going.

At the moment, the most conscious expression I can think of with this is the reconciliation of two opposing ideas. The first is the idea that making large changes in your life requires an initial emotional kick and momentum, but that eventually you need to revert to a reason why. This goes against the second, which was introduced to me by Jamie Salad during the NLP talk that you can simply do what you want in your life for no reason other than you wanting to.

I also talked to the other Rockstars more about emotional tipping points. Micha mentioned that for him, it was something akin to a build up of fury and emotions that propels him forward into the next set. Josh said that it is the moment where you can let go of conscious effort and just trust in yourself to deliver. I’m going to keep those thoughts in the back of my mind as we finish up with Project Rockstar.

A more conscious management tool for this is fooling yourself emotionally and create the reality within an interaction that you really like someone. This is something that a lot of people do naturally to a certain degree (I guess the Community would call this oneitis). For me this does not happen and while it is great in some ways it is also problematic. Before I used to be able to force myself to approach a girl who fits all the social connotations of hot and run the set… but now I feel like I’m putting on an act and that is coming across in my subcommunications. I don’t really know what the solution to this is, but Mr M has said that we’ll discuss it at some point.

The last thought I had for the day ties back to the notion of doing what you want in your life for no reason whatsoever other than you wanting to. The more I think about this, the scarier a concept it is – it is the complete removal of rational backing and guidance behind one’s actions, and almost like leaving the future of things up to one’s whims and emotions. At the same time though, I can see and am beginning to feel that it is a liberating idea – having the ability to weave through the social world simply because you have the freedom to do what you want without reason and simply because you want to. This is definitely something I want to explore more.

- Aaron P

Day 41: Deep Thoughts

Day

Today was day 2 of the LSS Bootcamp. We joined the guys there for the infield session of daygame and 5.0′s talk on teasing. I then had dinner with Josh and 5.0 before taking a quick nap and heading out for infield with the LSS guys.

I’m going to keep the “what happened” at that as the what of the day was mostly outweighed by more about what I was thinking throughout the day and night, especially after a couple of eyeopening conversations I had with Josh and 5.0.

Thoughts

There are a couple of things that I’ve been thinking about recently, and they’ve had a huge emotional weight on me (yes, apparently I do get affected by emotions too )

The first is the question of: what do I want out of this? For someone who’s spent the past six weeks infield, listening to lectures and everything about pickup and social interactions, I find it somewhat ironic that I don’t think I truly know what I want. In the past I’ve just said “mastery”, but I’m feeling more and more that I’m using that as a blanket-answer for something deeper. If it was mastery alone that I was after, then I should have no problem hitting on girls I’m not attracted to. But I do have a problem with doing that. It doesn’t feel genuine, and it certainly doesn’t make me feel good or that I’m bringing value to anyone in doing so. 5.0 said something interesting to Josh and I today: he wants many things, and he has accepted that no one single girl can provide all those things. And so he has many girls, each of whom fulfills a different role and want in his life. For some reason it was a “oh yeah” moment for me to hear that. I guess it really brought back into focus that at the moment, it feels like I’m swimming blind. It’s something of a strange bind that I find myself in. For most guys, they start out not knowing what they want yet they have enough of a sexual drive and the need to sleep with a lot of girls (whether this is biological or begins as a validation-of-ego), and through that process they find what they like and want. For whatever reason I don’t have that, and everything I’ve done so far has really been carried on a very conscious decision and drive that I want to improve this area of my life.

The second is related to the first. It’s the issue of motivation. I’m still reconciling the idea in my mind that people can do things simply because they want to – that there need not be a reason behind one’s actions at all. This goes against all the self-help and motivational advice, and even societal conditioning, that I have experienced in my life. It is a hard idea to swallow, yet I am trying, and feeling lost in the process. More and more, I go out, I see women that my logical brain recognises as “oh, society sees her as attractive” and yet I don’t feel drawn. I don’t feel excited. I feel that the interactions I am having are forced, and very much “I’m doing this because I should be”, not because I truly want to.

The third, of course, is related to the prior two. And it is the notion of an emotional tipping point. If you hear the stories of various people in the Community they all have one thing in common – some emotional tipping point where their mind goes “that’s it, enough is enough” and they find themselves filled with the motivation and drive to truly change. For some it is an almost instinctive response that sets their life and course on a certain path. For others it is a sense that everything has just clicked into place and that the path forward lies clearly in front of them. This has yet to happen to me. Despite knowing that this is something I can work on in my life, and actively working on it for a good period of time, I cannot think of a real reference experience where everything has just fallen into place because of it. I am wondering if this is a result of not pushing myself hard enough, or perhaps it is because I don’t know what I truly want in this part of my life, or maybe it’s just a matter of “more time is needed”.

I usually am able to work out most game-related issues that I’ve had. But the three above puzzle me. Perhaps they will resolve themselves given time. Perhaps I need some advice. But at the moment, they have me thinking deeply.

No sticking point stuff today.

- Aaron P

Days 39-40: The LSS and… what just happened?

Thursday

We had an investment talk from wealth mentor Andrew S. He talked about diversification, and the future of the global economy and how we should be investing money as we make it.

I spent the evening working on teasing drills and catching up on rest and some business stuff – I hear Josh and Micha had quite the adventure out about town though.

Friday

The LSS. Ah. I was a bit ambivalent going into the workshop. On the one hand, I have massive respect for some members of the LSS – Dr Yen, Soul, London Playboy. On the other, the less-than-friendly reception that the Project Rockstar thread has received made me almost want to say “Why are we doing this? They obviously don’t like us.” I’m glad that we decided in the end to participate in the LSS bootcamp – all the presenters and guys there were cool, normal guys… not weird screennames online who have nothing better to do that complain about the commercialisation of something they don’t understand and how pretty we are. It would seem that the latter are a small minority on the LSS (and thank god for that!)

We heard talks from Psy, Mowgli, Wisdom, LPB and Mantra. We also held a Rockstar Panel where we talked a bit about our experiences over the past few weeks, some of the things we had learnt and a small section of physical escalation and gaming abroad.

Later that evening 5.0 stole Josh and I away from approach coaching to go do some high-end club game. I’ve never really been to a high-end club before (does Movida count?), so I wasn’t really sure what to expect. We started by meeting 5.0 and one the girls he knew in Leicester Square. We then hit the streets outside Cafe de Paris (which apparently is the low-end of high-end clubs), and did promoter game. The objective was to pick up girls, and bring them into the club and to the table we had there. It was fun, and it was hard. Every guy, girl… anyone with a pulse was getting chatted to by promoters on that strip. Even going direct and transitioning into intrigue-based attraction was difficult – very simply nothing hooked, and the one or two sets that did were super-skeptical of the whole thing. By the time we were done Josh and I were more or less in a talkative state. And so we went into Cafe de Paris.

I gotta say – the place is kinda nice. I’m not sure I really like the hugely segregated VIP area, but it was a nicely decorated club. And the women were definitely more attractive than those you would find at the more mainstream clubs. We walked around and pinged a couple of sets, but nothing really stuck – it was tough. 5.0 arrived with two girls, and was trying to get us going around the club building social proof. Josh had a much better time than me. I simply cannot force myself to pretend to dance and have fun and smile, when very simply the vibe in the club is… dead… and I’m not enjoying myself there. I took a breather and a break, and just chilled for a bit. Josh joined me later and we ended up in the back area just hanging out, waiting for the VIP area to open up.

Once midnight hit, we headed on to the upstairs VIP area. 5.0 suggested that being up here was enough social proof to open sets. And so we tried… and it was hard. One of my sets went like this:

Me: Hi, I’m A.

Girl 1: I’m (something).

Girl 2: I’m (something).

Me: How are you guys doing tonight?

Girl 2: We’re good.

Me: I’m visiting with friends from overseas, we’re just out celebrating the end of our trip. What’s the occassion for tonight?

Girl 2: It’s our friend’s birthday!

Me: Oh cool! Is that her over by the balcony by herself, looking sad?

Girl 1: No, she went to the dancefloor by herself.

Me: What?! You guys are *terrible* friends (playfully pushing away girl 2).

Girl 2: (turns away)

Girl 1: (turns away)

The rest of the sets followed a similar pattern: Hi, blah blah blah, blah blah bye. Nothing was hooking… this was extremely frustrating.

At around 1am we decided to leave. Being blown out again and again and again just wasn’t fun. 5.0 said that he would give us a breakdown to better make sense of our reference experience for the night. I actually have a pretty good theory as to what the dynamics are like in a club like that – I’ll elaborate a bit later.

We rocked over to Tiger Tiger in search of the LSS bootcamp and the rest of the Rockstars. We found Micha charming some Asian-Australian girl, and Alex engaged in set. We also bumped into some students. The attractiveness level of the women here was definitely a notch or two down from Cafe de Paris… but whatever. Time to go direct, and go in hard. Grab girl, tell her she’s gorgeous. She says thank you and vanishes. Hmmmm. Go downstairs. Girl grabs Josh’s tie, dances with him. He spins her away. She grabs my tie, I dance with her. She asks how old I am. I tell her it doesn’t matter. She disappears. What just happened?

Go upstairs. Grab girl. Tell her she’s fucking adorable. She tells me “not tonight”. Grab more girls. Tell them they’re cute. I run Alex Flair game and tease them for being boring, and that they need to celebrate life. They look smile, giggle, and bid me a good night. Ummm….

At this point Josh and I are scratching our heads and going… what…. the… fuck…

And so, logically of course, we leave for Burger King. At this point we are in some weird variation of “state” where we are talkative, we are social, and we simply don’t care. On they way across Leicester Square we attempt to give our VIP bands away to some girls – are we so out of it that we can’t even give away VIP bands to girls? Apparently so.

We make it to Burger King, and end up just having fun chatting with random people in line and at the table about all sorts of weird and wacky stuff.

That pretty much wrapped up what has got to be the weirdest night out in London during the course of Rockstar.

A Theory

Here’s the theory I came up with from being in Cafe de Paris: the people there were just not having fun. As I looked around the room, people were *trying* to have fun… as in trying to dance to the music, trying to smile, trying to enjoy themselves. In opposition to a typical nighttime venue, people there were just socially constrained and no-one was having fun. Another interesting observation is that none of the naturals there were successfully gaming girls. They were having the same dead-end one-minute conversations that we were. This only gives me way more respect for 5.0 and his ability to work the venue. He told us that it took him the better part of nine months to work out how to do high-end club game.

There was obviously more going on there than I’m able to perceive at this point – but in this moment, it feels to me that people go to these places simply to be seen and to hang in their small group of acquaintances (I would dare not say friends). It all seems fairly pretentious actually.

As for the rest of the night… Josh and I were in this weird Zen-like state unsure about what had just transpired. We walked away kinda feeling that we sort learnt something but sorta didn’t and frankly I’m not sure right now what to make of the whole thing. Hopefully 5.0 and Mr M can shed some light on it tomorrow.

Oh, and Sasha moved into Rockstar East today. I’m not quite sure what to make of that either.

Sticking Points

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – attraction. Teasing and Sexual talk neural net training. Practice intrigue-based attraction via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – vibing, qualification. Practice via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I need to list out more of these, add more emotional oomph to them and roll them into vibing/qualifiaction.
• Logistical Escalation. Getting better, needs more field work though.
• Physical Escalation. It’s coming back. More field practice.
• Takeaways. Implementation in progress.
• Delivery. As per takeaways.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation.
• Identity & Beliefs. Need to play around more with Micha-game.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Needs more exploration. Still not automatically doing this in set.
• Boundary function.
• Self-image. Started exploring this, especially after what Alex said to be the other day. This is one of those things that will happen over time rather than over the course of Rockstar (though I may be wrong!)
• Intent. I have started to fake it til I make it haha.

Comedy Night

Anyone reading this is cordially invited to the Rockstar Comedy Night, on Wednesday 28th October.

Time: 8.15PM
Venue: The Queenshead, 15 Denman St, London, W1D 7HN
Map: http://maps.google.com/maps?q=W1D+7HN&oe=utf-8&client=firefox-a&ie=UTF8&ei=tsrhSoqdCIay4QbcjfCDAg&ved=0CAkQ8gEwAA&hq=&hnear=London+W1D+7HN,+United+Kingdom&z=16)

We’re all nervous-as about it at the moment, but it should be a fun night for all. Plus you’ll get to meet, chill and mingle with some of the London Community’s finest talent.

- Aaron P

Days 36-37: Not Funny

Monday

Spent the morning in a session with ubermentor Jeff talking about real estate and asset protection. I then went back to Rockstar West to sleep for a while, as I was up late the night before with a fever.

Josh and Micha joined Vercetti in the evening for salsa and game, I stayed in to rest. I ended up talking with Alex for hours about online business, and we came up with some truly wicked stuff. The kind of stuff that you haven’t seen published in any ebook, guru course or anything ANYWHERE.

I also spent some time practicing intrigue-based attraction routines, in the form of baits and frames.

Tuesday

Had an early-morning session with Sheriff about qualification and breakthrough comfort. Without going into crazy amounts of detail, the basic process is the elicit her values via information she gives you, and then feed these back to her in the form of cold reads or statements or third-person framing. For comfort, Sheriff and Mr M mentioned that I need to convey more emotion when discussion my passions and purposes… even if I need to start becoming good at lying about the amount of emotional impact that they have on me. They also told me that this is a good principle or concept to apply when delivering things like SOIs or qualifying girls who really don’t have that much going for them apart from their looks (god this makes us sound manipulative).

Alex then gave an absolutely gangster talk on SEO and how to apply some of the SCM concepts we’ve been learning into it.

All this talk of business is great… I love it. But in the context of the last couple of weeks of Project Rockstar, it’s bad for me. It’s shifting my RAS back to doing business and the other parts of my life rather than focussing it on game, which is where it should be at the moment. I’m going to sit down with Micha a bit later tonight and do some modelling work on his mindsets about women and how he focuses his RAS on women all the time (even though his is starting to shift towards money and wealth creation too).

We spent the afternoon in-field for daygame. Our instructor for the day was Sasha (http://www.sashapua.com/), and we also got to meet Ace, one of the London Community’s old-hands. Sasha went through a lot of exceptionally good theory about daygame, about using short, punchy 30-second hook stories, different types of openers and different ways of infusing humour into our openers. Basically making pickup more fun and light-hearted.

Sasha is one of those instructors who knows what he’s talking about, and I’m really glad I wrote down all the things he told us, and then tested them out in-field… otherwise I’d only be writing bad things about him right now. His theories and application of them is great. The way he treated some of the Rockstars… not so much. He threw out some racial slurs at me and some anti-Irish insults at Conor, and some general insults all round for the Rockstars. This did not create the best of emotions in us, and thus when it came time for him to push us in-field, most of us just flatly refused. I pulled him aside and laid down some boundaries: I told him that we respected and appreciated that he had come all the way from Canada to teach us, that his material and what he had taught us was awesome… but that he was also causing us bad emotions and we felt offended by some of the things that he had said. We agreed to just focus on the daygame and in-field.

Josh and I were walking ahead of the group, and started approaching women. In contrast to the bad moods that we had previously, we were having so much fun that we just wandered off and did our own thing. In all fairness, I used the openers that Sasha and Ace had given us. Mostly variations of delayed humour, or openers that would normally cause some level of social anxiety. And they work, really well. Obviously they need more practice and fluency to be able to used effectively and consistently, but it is bloody awesome to have a new set or class of openers to use rather than just bread-and-butter direct for daygame.

We ended up being joined by Micha and investing mentor Trackstar later on, and did daygame on the streets of London until dinnertime.

Sticking Point stuff I’ve been working on-

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – opening, transitioning. It works. Yay. Can throw humour-based openers into here too.
• Verbal Game – attraction. Needs more work. Intrigue-based stuff is almost down. Next in this category is teasing & roleplays Braddock-style. Sheriff has some advice in this area too.
• Verbal Game – vibing. Fits well into qualification the way Sheriff suggests doing it. Needs more field testing.
• Verbal Game – qualification. I’m combining this into “vibing” as it fits in well there.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I need to list out more of these, add more emotional oomph to them and roll them into vibing/qualifiaction.
• Logistical Escalation. Needs field practice.
• Physical Escalation.
• Takeaways.
• Delivery.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. Needs field testing.
• Identity & Beliefs. I’ve explored the sexual vibe that I saw in Dahunter/Brad P/Starlight. Now to field test it. I’m doing a modelling exercise with Micha later about his vibe and the way his RAS works.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Done. Initial field testing shows that I’m aware of how to capitalise on them but I’m not, because for the most part the intent is not there and I really don’t care. I need to explore this more.
• Boundary function. I think I exercised this pretty well today

- Aaron P

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