Days 36-37: Not Funny

Monday

Spent the morning in a session with ubermentor Jeff talking about real estate and asset protection. I then went back to Rockstar West to sleep for a while, as I was up late the night before with a fever.

Josh and Micha joined Vercetti in the evening for salsa and game, I stayed in to rest. I ended up talking with Alex for hours about online business, and we came up with some truly wicked stuff. The kind of stuff that you haven’t seen published in any ebook, guru course or anything ANYWHERE.

I also spent some time practicing intrigue-based attraction routines, in the form of baits and frames.

Tuesday

Had an early-morning session with Sheriff about qualification and breakthrough comfort. Without going into crazy amounts of detail, the basic process is the elicit her values via information she gives you, and then feed these back to her in the form of cold reads or statements or third-person framing. For comfort, Sheriff and Mr M mentioned that I need to convey more emotion when discussion my passions and purposes… even if I need to start becoming good at lying about the amount of emotional impact that they have on me. They also told me that this is a good principle or concept to apply when delivering things like SOIs or qualifying girls who really don’t have that much going for them apart from their looks (god this makes us sound manipulative).

Alex then gave an absolutely gangster talk on SEO and how to apply some of the SCM concepts we’ve been learning into it.

All this talk of business is great… I love it. But in the context of the last couple of weeks of Project Rockstar, it’s bad for me. It’s shifting my RAS back to doing business and the other parts of my life rather than focussing it on game, which is where it should be at the moment. I’m going to sit down with Micha a bit later tonight and do some modelling work on his mindsets about women and how he focuses his RAS on women all the time (even though his is starting to shift towards money and wealth creation too).

We spent the afternoon in-field for daygame. Our instructor for the day was Sasha (http://www.sashapua.com/), and we also got to meet Ace, one of the London Community’s old-hands. Sasha went through a lot of exceptionally good theory about daygame, about using short, punchy 30-second hook stories, different types of openers and different ways of infusing humour into our openers. Basically making pickup more fun and light-hearted.

Sasha is one of those instructors who knows what he’s talking about, and I’m really glad I wrote down all the things he told us, and then tested them out in-field… otherwise I’d only be writing bad things about him right now. His theories and application of them is great. The way he treated some of the Rockstars… not so much. He threw out some racial slurs at me and some anti-Irish insults at Conor, and some general insults all round for the Rockstars. This did not create the best of emotions in us, and thus when it came time for him to push us in-field, most of us just flatly refused. I pulled him aside and laid down some boundaries: I told him that we respected and appreciated that he had come all the way from Canada to teach us, that his material and what he had taught us was awesome… but that he was also causing us bad emotions and we felt offended by some of the things that he had said. We agreed to just focus on the daygame and in-field.

Josh and I were walking ahead of the group, and started approaching women. In contrast to the bad moods that we had previously, we were having so much fun that we just wandered off and did our own thing. In all fairness, I used the openers that Sasha and Ace had given us. Mostly variations of delayed humour, or openers that would normally cause some level of social anxiety. And they work, really well. Obviously they need more practice and fluency to be able to used effectively and consistently, but it is bloody awesome to have a new set or class of openers to use rather than just bread-and-butter direct for daygame.

We ended up being joined by Micha and investing mentor Trackstar later on, and did daygame on the streets of London until dinnertime.

Sticking Point stuff I’ve been working on-

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – opening, transitioning. It works. Yay. Can throw humour-based openers into here too.
• Verbal Game – attraction. Needs more work. Intrigue-based stuff is almost down. Next in this category is teasing & roleplays Braddock-style. Sheriff has some advice in this area too.
• Verbal Game – vibing. Fits well into qualification the way Sheriff suggests doing it. Needs more field testing.
• Verbal Game – qualification. I’m combining this into “vibing” as it fits in well there.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I need to list out more of these, add more emotional oomph to them and roll them into vibing/qualifiaction.
• Logistical Escalation. Needs field practice.
• Physical Escalation.
• Takeaways.
• Delivery.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. Needs field testing.
• Identity & Beliefs. I’ve explored the sexual vibe that I saw in Dahunter/Brad P/Starlight. Now to field test it. I’m doing a modelling exercise with Micha later about his vibe and the way his RAS works.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Done. Initial field testing shows that I’m aware of how to capitalise on them but I’m not, because for the most part the intent is not there and I really don’t care. I need to explore this more.
• Boundary function. I think I exercised this pretty well today

- Aaron P

Day 05: Casualties of War

The What

The physical, mental and emotional strains of Project Rockstar are starting to show.

Claude has a nasty virus that’s keeping him in-and-out of the sessions, Micha has a rising fever and I sprained my ankle during a training session with R (more on this later).

Today we had an all-day session with Dr Stuart Sandler about using cognitive-behavioural therapy techniques to set and achieve goals, and to overcome approach anxiety. The most fascinating thing for me out of the morning discussion was the concept that successful people – without a fail – are willing to throw their lives out of sync for a period of time to achieve a goal. This is very similar to what I was personally doing earlier this year when I was building up my business to a certain standard of success. Mr M fully agreed, and so did Dr Sandler. This was reflected in the final goal-setting prerequisite: the goal must be worded in the *now* to force your physiology and psyche into taking action.

The afternoon session was about approach anxiety and escalation anxiety, and about how to handle it. In this area, desensitisation and repeated exposure works wonders, as do some of the CBT techniques that Dr Sandler discussed. I personally still have some degree of approach anxiety and escalation anxiety. My approach anxiety is centred around logistics and “the right moment”. A lot of the time, I’ll see a set and just feel that it isn’t right to approach at that time (because they’re ordering a drink, because of where they’re standing or whatever). After today’s workshop, the thought I came away with was “there is never a perfect time to open”, so I will just do it. My escalation anxiety… I need to explore it a lot more and run the train more.

After Dr Sandler’s workshop we were given something of a reprieve in the form of a 2 hour break – I jetted back to Rockstar West to take a powernap. We then met up with R, our personal trainer. I went over my sprained ankle with him, and he told me basically: stay off your feet as much as possible, ice it 2-3 times a a day and take ibuprofen. After that we met with KingOfHearts and A (don’t know his screen name). We grabbed some food nearby and KoH talked to us about what we wanted to get out of the night. I was a bit divided over pushing for a one-night stand and getting to know the local barstaff as we were heading out in our neighbourhood. In the end, we decided to just go out and have fun.

Even though my ankle was swollen and hurting, I decided to go out – I’m here to learn after all. KoH was extremely encouraging, and not an overly-pushy the way a lot of instructors are. On the way from the restaurant, I went directly complimented a brunette British girl, and we talked for a bit. In retrospect I should have asked for her number and invited her to our housewarming party this weekend, but I didn’t. A (the instructor) told me to always ask for a girl’s number in street or daygame, because the probabilities dictate that you will never see her again. We bounced to a salsa bar nearby, stayed for a bit then moved. We headed to a more casual bar. KoH demonstrated opening and holding a set of guys and girls and Conor joined him. He then asked me to talk to a seated set of 2 girls, who were part of a larger party of 10 or so. I hesitated a couple of times then went. KoH wanted me to use his patented nuclear-bomb direct group opener, but I refrained. I just opened with hi. The two girls were extremely friendly, and we talked quite a bit about travel and London. At some point I ran out of things to say, and bid them a good evening and left. Talking with KoH, he told me that I need to just plough, plough and plough. In laymen’s speak this means to just continue talking to the group repeatedly until they accept that you’re just going to stay there. To achieve this, I think I need to explore my conversational threads more, and perhaps even formulate some type of routine stack.

I ended up talking with two Asian girls for the rest of the night. I was not particularly attracted to either, but Alex wanted to practice talking to girls in English, so we stayed. It was a bit strange. I continuously tested touching the girl I was talking to, seeing if I could escalate but while she remained flirtatious and pulled silly faces and the sort she was having none in terms of touching. After a half hour or so we had exchanged contact information and we decided to leave. KoH suggested that we bounce the girls to the next bar, and proceed to show us how to do so: tell a funny story, and create an emotional high and then suggest the bounce.

We bounce, but lost the girls (walking through the streets) at some point. KoH opened a cute blonde in the venue we bounced to, while Adam and I observed. After that my ankle was really starting to swell up and I decided to leave and rest up. The coming days are going to be tough, with all sorts of seminars, daygame and nightgame sessions planned, not to mention our whirlwind trip through Munich and Stockholm where we will be interacting with others 24/7.

Words of Wisdom (from KingOfHearts and A)

• Bouncing girls to another venue and then just leaving them there is fine. Girls do it to guys all the time.
• Plough, plough, plough, plough. Until they just accept that you’re staying there.
• Always try to number-close girls on the street. You will never get another chance.
• Don’t worry as much about physical escalation – that is one route you can take, but conversational escalation is more important. Move off mundane every-day topics as soon as possible and go into more sexual conversations as soon as possible (e.g., discussion of threesomes).
• Don’t worry that much about reading a girl’s signals. The best guys at pickup just have the mindset of “I’m hot, and she likes this because other people have liked this before and if she doesn’t like this she’s kinda weird.” This is the mindset of “if they’re still there, she’s interested.”
• Different approaches to game: if you haven’t done it before, do it until you know that you can do it. Then you will see that you have an option of whether you want to take that approach or not.

Highlights of the Day

• 4 of the 6 Rockstars being out of commission for one reason or the other. We need to man up.
• KoH suggesting that we bounce the Asian girls to Rockstar West haha.
• Vishal on his date with his hot and sexy daygame girl from yesterday (I believe he’s with her now!)

- Aaron P