Project Rockstar 2010 – Application FAQ

Project Rockstar 2010 has been officially announced.

This year it’s being spearheaded by Jeremy Soul, and is going to be set in London and Stockholm (also known as heaven on Earth). I expect this year’s Project Rockstar to be vastly different from last years – different emphases, less hectic travel schedules, hopefully less swine flu… and for the first time ever, the inclusion of both female participants and dating coaches.

Small side tangent:

Soul, Starlight and myself did an experimental “trial run” last week in San Francisco – we took a group of 6 women out on the town, and taught them how to cold approach and talk to guys. Starlight has a copy of the mindmap we came up with over at his blog: http://www.thestarlightblog.com/2010/02/girl-game-girls-get-a-strategy-to-meet-mr-right-in-san-francisco/

The distinctions we came up with are pretty fascinating. Openers work differently, the structure of emotional progression works differently, and going for the “close” goes differently.

It was a great learning experience all around, and I’m sure I’ll share some of the insights with some of my female friends over the coming weeks.

Back to Project Rockstar:

I’ve gotten a lot of questions about if people should apply, how much it’s going to cost, was it worth it, what’s involved, how to write an application etc etc… so I thought I’d answer some of the more common questions here.

Who is this suitable for?

If you are male, or female, and want more out of your life in general, you should consider applying. You are going to learn more than just how to date pretty much whoever you want – you are going to learn about social circles, about different ways to make and manage money, and different ways to live your life. The way it turned out last year, the remaining Rockstars at the end were all around 20-30 years of age. I don’t think that age matters that much if you are committed to making a change if your life. If you think you have what it takes – apply!

How much will/did it cost?

The answer is: it depends. If you live in the UK and you plan properly, you can probably do it for $2,000 or so. If you live abroad, you have to factor in plane tickets to-and-from Europe. I personally spent about $15,000 last year, though that was flying business class to-and-from the US, staying in nice hotels and eating out most of the time. Living in a convenient area in London, perhaps striking up a deal with a local Chinese restaurant to deliver takeout nightly and good planning will go a long way to reducing your costs.

Was it worth it?

Absolutely. Two events stand out to me from last year: 1) When my business started to take off, and 2) Project Rockstar. I saw it as an 8-week investment into improving my life – a chance to get away from old anchors and habitual patterns, and to both do something different and learn about a completely new way of living socially. It really comes down to asking if you’re willing to put on hold everything in your life for 6 (in my case 8 ) weeks, and walk away with more mentors, knowledge, experience, contacts and capabilities than the average person acquires over 2 lifetimes. Over that 8 weeks I also made friendships that will be with me for the rest of my life. Was it worth it? Fuck yeah.

How has life been since Project Rockstar?

I’m not going to go into personal details, but… one of the models we learnt over Project Rockstar was that of Health, Wealth and Relationships. I personally like to add in an extra section that I call “Happiness”. My life has gained momentum in all four areas since the end of Project Rockstar. I am doing things in all four areas that I would never have considered possible before. More importantly, it is continuing to gain momentum, and I have a much clearer picture of where I am headed over the next couple of years.

Will you (Whim) be involved in Project Rockstar 2010?

Most likely yes, I’ll be involved as a mentor. I am keen on teaching some online marketing strategies to the Rockstars for 2010, probably closer to the end of the program. I will also likely teach modules in productivity and efficiency – I taught a Cliff Notes version to the Rockstars as an impromptu session last year, and it blew them (and the lucky Rockstar mentors who got cc’d on the email) away.

What should I write in my application?

Ahhh… The million dollar question. It really depends – what sort of person are you, and how much effort are you willing to put in?

This is almost like a job or college application – take your time, think it through, present your best self, and use proper grammar and punctuation.

Keychain actually has a great guide up here: http://www.adventuresofkeychain.com/2009/06/18/how-to-get-into-project-rockstar-09-directors-cut/ – I actually wish I had seen that last year

Here’s what I did to write my application last year:

1. Read the entire Project Rockstar 2008 thread. If you’re on The Lounge, you can see the notes I posted up as a summary from it. This year you have the threads from 2008 and 2009 to read.
2. Read everything Mr M has ever published. This year my suggestion would be read and watch everything Jeremy Soul has up online.
3. Wrote a preliminary draft.
4. Mulled over it for a week.
5. Reread my draft, and rewrote it.
6. Thought long and hard about what value I could bring to the program – what does someone like Mr M / Soul value? What value can I bring to their lives by being part of Rockstar? What value can I bring to the other Rockstars by being part of the program?
   
7. Rewrote my application again.
8. Gave my application to a bunch of friends who I innately trust, to read and reread and proofread.
9. Rewrote my application again.
10. Sent it in.

More tips:

• Use proper grammar and punctuation. I can’t emphasise this enough.
• Don’t be afraid to ask. Alex Flair, Micha and myself have all offered to field questions on The Attraction Forums for people interested – so ask away.
• First-received-first-read. Applications are being taken on a rolling basis this year, so the sooner you get it done, the higher your chances of being selected.
• Be honest. Present your best self, but tell the truth.
• Reputation is everything. A lot of you have likely been on Love Systems programs, and have rapport with your former instructors/approach coaches. I’m not saying that it’ll help, but you know a huge part of Project Rockstar is social networking…
• Go for maximum impact. Get to the point and convey your passion – for life! This is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. So make it count.

- Aaron P

Jalouse here we go….

Today was a rather slow day, and there wasn’t really anything on the schedule more then nightgame with Mr.M, Vercetti, London Wizard and London Playboy.

I’m still on vegas time though and it’s really starting to get to me being up until seven in the morning and sleeping a few hours before going out is tearing me up. I think I made Redbull’s stock go up a few points these weeks.

So here we go, today was the day that Mr.M flexed his muscled when it came to Social Circle Mastery in London. We all met up at a bar called loop in central London to gather all and then head in to Jalouse. Jalouse celebrated on year as a club and getting in there on an average night is as hard as finding healthy food in London I’ve seen girl get turned down because there too fat guys for the wrong shirt.  It’s a hardcore seen in there and I love the quality of women there. Me and Vercetti then rolled straight by with London Wizard after a little bit of talking with Mr.M connector that got us hooked up. I would never wait in line if I wasn’t sure about getting in and this was awesome. We got in there and it’s packed with people. A rather small club with the standard booked tables and dancers….

It was probably the hottest venue I’ve ever entered in London and it was awesome. Unfortunately so was I going sick and ended up in a few really boring sets even though Vercetti was pushing me. I felt for the first time since I got in to rockstar that I had no sexual intent or desire to bring anybody with me home. I no. one of them because she was because I knew she was f****n gorgeous and American. Good I love Americans, and even better they love me. Probably end up dating her this weekend going to the opening party at China White J The  night in general was rather low key I ended up talking a lot to V and having a goodtime. I tried a few new ways of opening and had an awesome time, I will experiment a little about it and model my way. The opener that I loved was

“I’m going to give you a compliment, I usually think that Brunettes look fuckin retarded but you pull it off pretty well, if you can match that with an awesome personality, you be off really well”

It never crashed I opened the tallest and hottest one I could find with and she immediately started to qualify herself.

I’m getting somewhere now I can feel it, I have improved a great deal since this whole trip started and some crazy things have happened. I just don‘t feel the need to brag about any sexual exploitation on the blog, if it can’t help anybody.

The night ended a little bit earlier then it should but I got solid 9 no and she didn’t flake so I’m really happy and love London game right now. Even if I’m dying a bit inside L

Cya

-LoveMicha

Last day in town

Woke up absolutely trashed as usual, this city would without a doubt kill me if I wasn’t sober. It’s started to become a routine out of it now and it goes.

1. Wake up
2. Walk down to conference and grab 2 cups of coffee.
3. Call the guys and do unhealthy trashy breakfast.
4. Socialize with the crowd.

This day the breakfast was at Johnny rockets the burger joint across the street who does absolutely amazing milk shake’s and burgers. They don’t make burgers like that back at home.
Highlight of the dinner; the young teen waiter “what shake do you want, vanilla, strawberry or brownie” Vishal “brownie are fuckin kiddin’ me” with a dead serious face
Me and Vishal ran into Big Business and Dubbsy who was on their way to the strip with a group of day game student. We decided to join in without any after thought about it just to be able to see the strip during daytime. I was amazed about the no of women that was out, we started out ceasers palace. There was nothing out there to chase. The only women that I saw was either 65 years old or too young. The younger generation was definitely by the pool’s recuperating from yesterday clubbing.
After we doubled back to hotel to listen to Aaron on internet marketing, this guy really know what he’s talking about. I got really inspired by him, he really impressed with an organized presentation as well.

The next thing on the schedule was the social circle mastery class with Mr.M all this following without a proper break, in a real project rockstar management style. I have start to look at the end of this project it’s becoming so much information that I want to start to apply to my life.

I started to tex with girl from last night during the day, so our plans to take one slow night in vegas with a calm midnight walk at the strip went to hell. We ended up booking a table at XS at the wynn. I think it’s possible that it’s the coolest venue in Vegas, will go back there easy the next time I’m back in town. Clubbing in this city is amazing I feel like a golden god walking in that the women check out. I did a few cold approaches even tough I had a date here. I just couldn’t help my self it’s just to much fun. But I ended up in her arm literary and don’t regret it. I got home late as usual only to have a quick nap before I went to the airport.

Cya

-love Micha

Day 30: The Matrix

The Day

I started the day with lunch with my buddy ZeroSum from SF and Vishal and Micha. I then had to prepare for the Rockstar-only Internet Marketing presentation I was putting on. It was funny, as Alex and I ran around looking for a projector, and somehow talked event services into giving us one for free

The talk went great, but was grossly overtime. My apologies to Alex for that!

Following that we sat in on Mr M’s Social Circle Mastery seminar. I have taken Braddock’s version of it in the past, and it’s always good to get a different perspective. Despite eight hours of sleep the prior night though, I was still physically shattered… and Vishal had booked a table at XS for the night. So around 10pm or so we headed off to get ready to head out.

The Night

Tonight was supposed to be all about chilling and relaxing and just having fun. Micha was supposed to arrive with his date and her six friends, but that never materialised

I was content to just chill and enjoy my last night in Vegas but the drinks started arriving and Vishal wanted to talk to girls, so off we went. It turned out a bunch of the other instructors (Future, Prestige, Keychain, Starlight) were at XS too. We ran a bunch of sets, most of them going nowhere for me although Vishal was on fire.

There was only one set really worth mentioning. Vishal had opened her friend, so I just decided to go up and go direct on her anyway. We got talking and flirting a bit and her friend and her sat down with us at our table. She was probably one of only about three really cool girls that I have met all year. Spanish-Chinese, cute, good personality, very independent and successful and extremely worldly. I loved every minute of the conversation… even if most of it was spent force framing everything she said sexually

I’m starting to wonder if my issues with not being able to emotionally connect with the majority of women is actually just because I’m looking for a very specific type of woman, and that the non-emotional connects need to be there first before the emotional connect can take place.

The set went great. We talked. I carressed her neck. She grabbed my tie. We kissed. We looked into each others eyes. We told each other how much we liked each other. She said she wanted to leave. I said in a bit.

Then at some point, everything abruptly ended. She turned to her friend, said something, then they got up and left. In retrospect, I know exactly what I had needed to say to make her stay, and what I needed to do logistically to have spent the night with her.

Beyond that though, is that I didn’t number-close or facebook-close or get her contact details… even if we didn’t hook up she was still be a fucking cool person to have as a friend. This annoys me more than not getting laid

In case you’re wondering, what I should have said was “Hey look. I really meant what I said. I think that you are an incredible woman, and even if I didn’t want to take you upstairs right now and do all sorts of dirty and nasty things to you, we would still hang out.” This would be followed up by grabbing her hand, pulling her up from the table and leading her from the table to her room with “Let’s go.”

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – attraction. I still need to do some real off-field work on this. But I did practice the basic strategy behind eliciting and framing all night… but there were still silent moments.
• Verbal Game – vibing. Combining California Pimp’s structure with Juggler’s will be interesting.
• Verbal Game – qualification. I’m using California Pimp-style questions for qualification. These basically qualify a girl on her identity as a woman, her compliance to you and her looks. I am going to start using these more as it’s a really good way to qualify girls who I’m not that into for non-emotional stuff (the majority of girls I meet), and they hit hard.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I need to make them a habit so that they just happen in set and have a repertoire of them to use.
• Logistical Escalation. Time to do some inner game work on this to make it a habit. The number-close should be automatic during spikes in attraction and the logistical lead should just happen. I should always be leading, rather than waiting for her to lead. This only changes at a certain point when we’re already in seduction.
• Physical Escalation.
• Takeaways.
• Delivery.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. See above.
• Identity & Beliefs. Still to work on: girls find me attractive, girls check me out, I am sexworthy, I am a man who makes things happen.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change).
• Boundary function.

Learnings

• More Awkward is Less Awkward when winging. Just fucking go in guns blazing and be dominant. Don’t blow wing out.
• I feel like my ability to see the social matrix is starting to skyrocket. I said to Vishal last night: “It’s weird dude. I can see exactly the probabilities of each set working out and where we’re going to lose them, and I can see all the approach invitations and all the high probability sets… but I don’t act on them. What I like about you, is that you don’t look at any of that stuff and you just act on it.”
• I’m realising that I am bloody good at reading when a set in interested, when they’re not, when they’re likely to open or not and to some extent the exact moment that myself or the other Rockstars will get blown out or have hooked the set. I need to capitalise on this ability more however, and have some default behaviours for advancing the interaction based on these reads.

- Aaron P

Day 03: Top Secret Stuff

Today was all about top-secret stuff.

It (as usual) started with most of the Rockstars getting up – late – and rushing to get to the first session.

Today’s first talk was with one of the wealth mentors, Jeff, who is basically showing us everything we need to know about investing in property and real estate. He talked a bit about his background and story, and also about his thought process about picking investments given an economic climate. We’re actually going be presenting 2 different property analyses about mid-way through Rockstar, and have our strategies picked apart and improved upon by Jeff. For me, this is seriously a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to learn from a mentor who is happy to share, rather than pay $5,000 for a 1-day seminar and be pitched to all day. Jeff also shared some top secret stuff which I may or may not share in the near future…

We all ran out to grab a quick lunch at Subway before taking the Tube back to Rockstar Mansion West for our first physical session with R. He did some benchmark measurements for all of us, and gave us a portable “hotel circuit workout” that we can use while we’re traveling. The workout really took a lot out of us – it’s amazing what you can do with a couple of pieces of furniture and a floor.

Late afternoon was supposed to be our daygame Trial By Fire session with Yen, Keychain and Vercetti, but London finally kicked in its infamous all-day drizzle and the session was cancelled because of that. Instead, Mr M came by to teach us the first opening principles of Social Circle Mastery. He talked about all the main concepts and components, and gave us examples of how they applied in the real world, beyond just game and in other parts of our lives too. Even though I’ve been to the Social Circle Mastery seminar before, it was interesting to hear about some of the newer concepts that he and Braddock have come up with, and how he links these into the idea of Supernova. And yes, we were asked to sign an NDA so it’s all TOP SECRET.

The Rockstars and a number of mentors then bounced to Fika again for dinner. I got to talk a bit more with B (from yesterday’s business talk) about why he chose to pursue expanding the business in the way he did.

Following dinner, half the Rockstar crew moved into Rockstar Mansion East – which is absolutely pimp. They have this awesome 3-story hidden place, which looks like a converted warehouse loft. Vishal and Conor have rooms with GLASS WALLS overlooking the living area… I suspect quite a bit of voyeurism will be occurring in Rockstar Mansion East

We all agreed that the seminars should be held in Rockstar Mansion East – nicer venue, more space, more chairs. Of course, those of us living at Rockstar Mansion West are kinda bummed… but we’re making the most of what we have and we have a secret weapon that no-one knows about (not even the instructors!)

And oh yeah, Vishal and Micha are busy coming up with the points system for our contest. Rockstar Mansion East is already ahead, with Conor bringing a random Norwegian girl home from a coffee shop last night!

Highlights of the Day

• Vishal dropping his iPhone into his chicken-plenk (food).
• Vishal beating Mr M at Asian efficiency (iPhone vs Blackberry – iPhone wins!)
• Rockstar Mansion East – that place is totally pimp and the boys there are going to have some MAD parties (especially with an art gallery RIGHT NEXT DOOR).

- whim