Day 22: Enter Sheriff

Not much to say today. We flew back to London, absolutely knackered and met up with Sheriff – he’s living in Rockstar East for the remainder of Project Rockstar.

He’s offered his wisdom and guidance over the coming weeks, on any topic of game we can think of. Micha and I are planning to head over there in a bit to talk to him about one night stands (same night lays).

I’ve spent most of my transit time working on inner game issues, and some technical game work. This is going to form part of the upcoming Rockstar Superconference talk

A couple of other things I wanted to mention:

Absolute huge thanks to Soul for organising Rockstar Stockholm, and for everything he’s taught us. The best instruction and field time we’ve had so far, and words cannot express how grateful we are. And ALL the girls in Stockholm are hot…

I also did an interview a week or so ago with Ryker Koh of Asian Dating Superstars (http://www.asiandatingsuperstars.com/). We went over what it means to be an Asian man in the modern world, and how our culture and upbringing has changed the way we view dating, success and life. I’ve mirrored the interview here: http://www.projectrockstarblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/10/projectrockstar-rykerkohcollaboration.mp3

- Aaron P

Second day of Sthlm shenanigans….‏

Woke up rested, I even had to pinch my arm. This is true it can happen during rockstar.

Took the tube out in a wonderful fall morning the sun was shining trough, and the air was fresh. I have this gut feeling that it will be an awesome day, one of those gut feelings thayt it will be awesome.

The second council meeting came up, this time out of nowhere so I started to think what it was is about. It was a different experience this time and more like a group therapy. Hi I’m Micha and I’m an addict. it was a really good one and everybody got out what they wanted to get out of this. These council meeting always stir up some worried thoughts, even tough I know now that I always feel better after each one.

This day was all about game both day and night. I started by missing everybody after lunch. Had to run around town like an ass and finally catching up with people, it kill state as much as standing in line forever in front of a club.

Then I ran into the group with Soul and a journalist. I just walked around to begin an was grumpy and not in a mood at all, did a few tries and nothing hooked. I even switched groups as we ran into Bugsy and Alex.

Boooom it finally hooked. She was blond had a killer hair and was really “dolled” up and cute. Everything changed from that set. She changed my perspective about day game. I lost Bugsy and Alex and ran into my a few others and had a blast with them. I had a few really good set that day but there’s one that will stick in my mind forever.

1. I notice her passing buy with curly blonde hair. She had that confident walk and a killer pink jacket. Everybody noticed her, I made sure that I got to her before anybody else. I did the usual thing, tapped her very light on the arm and “excuse me”. Then it happend she turned around and I got so fuckin nervous that I don’t know where to go. She is not only a perfect ten but a multimillion dollar selling record artist. The only thing I could utter was you’re making me so nervous and she smiled and walked on. For you who knows she was part of swedish teen group that did abba covers(A-teens Marie Sernholt). I then walked of and laughed about my self. It’s really fun how beuty can scare me like this, it’s moments like this that make’s it all worth it.

Ok there’s a few more sets that worth mentioning.

2. Me and Vish (btw he’s a kick ass wing) see them walk out of the coffee shop and I look at him and he’s on. We race out of there jogging our way just to stop a few steps behind and walking up to them ” excuse me I just notice bla bla bla b…..” Introduced Vish divide and conquer have them laughing light kino building the tension. No closing with a real ease end getting BBM as well, I really love this.

If you want to know this feeling take soul’s day game seminar and start with day game it’s wicked.

I double back to my mate’s place after an awesome day with awesome game with Vishal and Soul. It’s an epic day that I never will forget. Grab a shower and a power nap heading down to the hotel and meeting up in the bar. Everybody is there and ready to head out. Hi-Roller’s friend hooks us up with a club called ambasadeur. It’s a high end place packed with 8’s and 9’s plastic girls. I’m way to much in day game mode and have mediocre succes.  I open a beutiful one in the bar and she’s almost on, she the grabs my “d**k” and tell me her boyfriend across the bar and that I look really good and wishes me luck. I like the swedish women

The music is pumping really loud and we decide to hit the streets and any other random bar. Aaron had some fair success that he probably will write about.

Mc Donalds the place after a long night and we grab a few burgers. Out of nowhere in the packed queue a serious fight break out with at least 10 people involved we sit. As the turbulence spread out of mc donalds people stand up and trying to get out of the way to not get invloved. Everybody except the small asian kid Aaron who sits there showing down chicken nuggets like he’s Chuck Norris “sit down boys”.

This a small portion of what I remembered of this day.

Realizations.

1. Beauty still gives me a rush and make me nervous. I guess it always will be there.

2. The need for your mastery topics during daygame is crucial for me. Starting to figure them out.

3. I love day game because I really, really like to have quality conversation with a interesting girl.

Ps. We found the perfect spitroast but someone in the team thought she was to drunk.

Cya

-Love Micha

Day game in stockholm

Stockholm there might be a chance that I’m moving back to that city. This has been a wonderful stop with some good realizations, and YES swedish women are exactly as you thought (f**kin hot). Like mystery says women of extreme beauty rarely go alone except in Sweden night time when the average is 8. God I love this place, I now know why Soul moved here.

This was an interesting trip and the schedule was a little more relaxed then usual. Soul had really put the emphasis on that we should enjoy Stockholm. I still atended to everything except one night session (ended up in food coma on my best friends couch after having a monster dinner.)

The first day Soul had his day game seminar, I’ve taken it before bit it all made more sense now. I know that it’s due to my extensive time in the field. I really love this seminar and to hear it from Soul him self. This a dating coach like nobody else. He bring’s in a passion and care like I haven’t seen. It’s easy to like him and relate to him. He is just like a child when it comes to expressing himself in the face, and he talks like a woman.

I’m not going to go in the technical stuff if you want to you need to attends one of his seminars. I think it’s definitively worth it if you want some easy to listen guidelines if you want to handle this area.

We had some guest at the seminar, reporters. Some people like them some hate them, I love them. You should look in this weeks Aftenposten A-Magasinet if you live in Norway I’m featured with keychain, that’s fun. This time the reporters came from swedish Metro, Amelia and www.thelocal.se.

We then decided to head out after the interviews to take some pictures. If you ever tried to game some women with a camera up her ass, join the club. Can anybody give me good answer to, why is that weird woman taking pictures.  The photographer was a pain in the ass with camera. She was sweet and doing her job, it’s just hard to “deliever” like that. I really like it because of the attention. We then headed back to dump the reporters and switch intructor/students. I did the sets as I saw them, I just didn’t see the fun in  walking around in cold stockholm chasing women. It turned out to be an awful day result wise but sure a bit of fun.

I then had a date with my best friend that I was staying with that was awesome. This was the first homecooked meal of food since 3 days before project rockstar. We had some swedish herring for starters prepared on sandwich, and a really good homemade chili.  No women on this earth could pulled me of the chouch, I crashed dead tired 9 am. It was a wonderful feeling just to dose of to a episode of entourage.

Realization today.

1. Swedish women are the hottest int the world(didn’t notice that until I spent a few weeks in London)

2. It’s extremely hard to “game” a girl that get a camerlense up her ass without telling her what’s going on.

Cya

-love Micha

Day 20 : Radical Honesty & Craziness

The Day

I’m going to brush over the theory and facts quickly, as I want to get to the important part of today. And yes, I am going to make it educational, and I guarantee that everyone reading this will learn something to do (or not) out of it.

The morning was a daygame seminar portion with HG & Wizard. Some stuff about framing, public relations and learning game. I’m sure the other Rockstars will cover it in more detail.

We then went out for daygame. I winged with Vishal mostly, and again, he’ll cover it in his blog posts. There weren’t any particularly large takeaways for me today, but I did try to make more of an effort to learn about a girl and use more SOIs in set.

But this brings me to the core of today: radical honesty.

It began with a Council session comprised of Soul and Jeff. All the issues were brought to the table: what we liked about Project Rockstar, what we didn’t, what the instructors saw in us, and what we saw in each other. It was awesome, and also private. So don’t ask me to share.

What I will share though, is my experience from about 2:30pm-5:30pm this afternoon, and following the theme of the day, I will be radically honest about it. I won’t mention who the instructor is (everyone involved in Stockholm knows who it is, and it was NOT a Love Systems instructor, it was one of the UK-based coaches who volunteered to be here), but it was a prime example of how NOT to act and how to turn a shaky thinslice into one that makes people want to eject you from their social group immediately.

In case anyone hasn’t read Blink by Malcolm Gladwell, a thinslice is something akin to a first impression you get of a person. Beyond that though, the thinslice can change over time as humans are dynamic creatures whose physique, appearance, social status and personality changes over time.

Let me demonstrate this through a progression of events involving this particular instructor:

Thursday Night: He invites me to open a set with him. I do. He proceeds to ignore me, not introduce me and just game the girls. I didn’t think much of it at the time and actually chalked it up more to the fact that the set was lost because I didn’t engage one of the girls and mini-isolate her. And plus, Soul had told me that he was someone worth learning from so I kept an open mind.

Friday, lunch: He and another instructor arrived, pissed, angry, and annoyed that we were “late”. This makes no sense as the Council session had ended at 2:10pm, it was 2:30pm and Soul had said to go grab lunch and meet up with everyone later. Heck, I even apologised and explained the situation to him.

Friday, enroute to daygame: He asked me about my sticking points. I told him it was sexual intent. He started to break things down, and offer critique and mostly impractical feedback from a technical perspective, but the fact remains- every instructor I’ve talked to has told me that it’s a problem for me, but no-one (apart from Soul and Mr M) has given me any actionable items to work with. This particular instructor then started to qualify himself, something along the lines of “yeah, I’ve been good with girls for a few years.”

Friday, daygame: We walked with the instructor for a bit, then after a long set, Vishal and I wandered off and did our own thing.

Friday, hotel lobby: We were supposed to meet up with everyone else at the hotel lobby, at 4:00pm. And so we waited. The instructor “debriefed” us, but no particularly constructive feedback was given. He asked if I was OK as I had looked “knackered” yesterday – WTF!?! But wait, there’s more. He then came over and asked if he could “pick my brain” about affiliate marketing, and proceeded to ask a series of questions which could only be described as value-draining. For those of you with skill in an area, this is like someone coming up to you, requesting your time and resources and offering nothing in return. What made it worse, was when it was clear that I wasn’t talking to him he proceeded to then do the same thing to Vishal.

Friday, 4:30pm: I went out with Vishal to do sets as no-one else had showed up. The instructor sent Vishal into a set where he couldn’t tell if the girl was hot or not, then proceeded to go himself into a set where the girl was stunning. I hate it when instructors do this – not give a shit about the students and the quality of their interactions and just go after the girls who are attractive themselves. Watching him in set, I got a really bad thinslice too. Something about the way he used his phone as a prop, overplaying the tourist card and the sort… it just came off as fake and unauthentic.

After, I told Soul that I wanted to switch groups and we walked off. I tried an approach, and even though my composure was fine, the girl could tell that I was in a draining emotional state. Rather than drag down the energy of my group, and worse, approach girls from a place of taking value, I decided to return to my hotel to rest up.

The sum total of all these thinslices and experiences, coupled with being emotionally tired over the past couple of weeks, resulted in a really bad, disgusting feeling within me. I felt terrible and physically sick. Beyond that, I am (as I write this) feeling pissed off. There are a ton of stunningly beautiful women out there on the streets of Stockholm, and I am here in my hotel room having to emotionally recover because some instructor decided to be a emotionally value-draining dick.

I have a rule for my social circles: if someone crosses a set of boundaries three times, they are set aside or unceremoniously cut. In the course of two days, this particular instructor has managed that. I will not be working with him for the remainder of Project Rockstar.

The Night

I headed back to my hotel to take a nap and rest up for night game. Had a very quick takeout dinner, and then a small “breakout” session with Vishal and Josh as we discussed the concepts of self-image and supernova. It has finally started to dawn on me the changes that are being made to my life and my own self-image as a result of Project Rockstar. The rest of the world will continue on for the duration of Rockstar, and more than likely, people’s lives will have remained fairly static over these eight weeks. Mine however, has been set in a new direction, and a chain of events is unfolding where the end simply cannot be the same or even remotely similar to the beginning.

We headed over to the Scandic Anglais to meet everyone else. After saying hi, Josh, Vishal and I open a set. For a warmup it was alright. There was a technical glitch with Vishal blowing Josh and myself out of set (he’s high energy), but we all learnt a bit about winging.

I then ran a two set with Jeff – it didn’t really go anywhere, but I learnt that I need to push physical escalation more, and to be more conversationally dominant in set.

Vishal and I opened a two set of older women. Mine was lovely – Arabic-Swedish and a great smile and figure to match. I played around a bit with faster physical escalation, but it was hard because the Scandic has much more of a conversational lounge feel to it rather than a high-energy club. I felt that this girl was ready to go home, but I had no idea how to make this happen – at this point it was only 10pm, everyone (including the women) wanted to go clubbing… and the set ended up fizzling.

I then spent some time winging Josh with his girl, who was most definitely ready to go home with him… I even bounced with them over to another bar, and offered to jump on the grenade with the girl’s very unattractive friend. A number of things happened which made it fall to pieces, but I’ll let Josh cover that if he wants to. I ended up leaving and then running into Alex outside a club (tried to get in but couldn’t), and subsequently into Jeff, Adam and Josh after that. Enroute to the club where we chatted up two adorable blonde Swedish girls using a functional opener and just teasing… and with some rapid sexual talk from Josh they brought us into the club with them. To be fair, Josh facilitated them getting us in, but he did steal my target once we were in the club

Walked around the club a bit – it was full of gorgeous women. I talked a bit with some of the mentors and coaches and Soul, and found myself back in set with one of the blondes we had brought in. I was testing for physical escalation but while she was happy to stay and talk and banter, I couldn’t escalate beyond moving her around by her hips. I ended up number-closing her, and Bugsy tried to up the physical escalation by putting her arm around me and having her kiss me, but he hadn’t witnessed the whole set and it was miscalibrated. This particular girl was down to escalate either later in the night, or continue a relatively normal conversation and go on a date the next day. Pushing the escalation too much blew out the set, but hey… it’s a learning process.

After that we left the club to do streetlight game with Soul. I winged Micha on a number of sets. In fact, I think this is one of the first times I’ve winged Micha, and man it was different. He has this Romantic-Viking thing going on where he comes off as extremely charming… whereas I tend to be more break-rapport in set.

Soul spotted an adorable blonde girl walking, and sent me after her. I opened, direct, talked with her a bit about Stockholm, and with Soul yelling out “qualify!”, “touch her hair!”, “kiss her!” in the background proceed to charm her, get her number and kiss her in all of five minutes. Following this set Soul explained to me the difference between physical escalation during attraction and during qualification. I’ll cover this in my takeaways below.

Tired and cold, we bounced back to my hotel and enroute witnessed Soul undergo what he calls “rapport ploughing”. This is where he logistically and conversationally bombards the girl with smooth talk and interesting conversation, until she relents and offers up herself to his charms.

We met up with Micha and his friend at the hotel, then headed to Sturehof, a combination bar-restaurant-club. Soul and I chilled for a while inside, and outside Vishal, Alex and Micha were working a three set of girls. As the restaurant closed (1am or so) we found them outside. Vishal’s girl was an absolute stunner, and she was completely enamored by him.

I saw a cute Asian girl walk past and I chased after her. Opened direct, built attraction, and began to qualify her. I suggested meeting up on Saturday, but she had other plans. Given that I’m leaving Stockholm early on Sunday, I ended up just taking her facebook. In retrospect, the number would have been better just for practice, but whatever.

Alex went home at this point, and the remaining craziness of the night began.

As we were crossing the street in search of late-night food, Vishal pulled in a girl who was wandering across the road. She was older, likely in her thirties, and she fell into his charms. She then followed us around for a bit… it was funny. She kept on wanting to go back to our hotel with us. We all picked this up as a sign that she was down-to-spitroast. We passed Bugsy at one point and he gave us this quizzical look as he worked out what was happening. In the end though, Vishal (not the girl) put up last minute resistance and he sent the girl into a cab on her way home… much to the chagrin of Micha and myself who turned around and were like “hey, where’d she go?”

We found ourselves in McDonald’s warming ourselves up from the cold Stockholm night. A fight broke out between ten or so people in McDonald’s, and the police were called in to break it up. We somehow ended up sitting next to these two crazy Swedish girls and their boyfriends. The girls kept on trying to imitate British and Australian accents, and we just chatted with the guys. Micha ended up number-closing one of the girls – I hope he follows up with her. Both girls had the most gorgeous set of legs and matching physiques EVER.

Leaving McDonald’s and heading back to the hotel, I talked with Vishal about the events of the night and even though none of us had spent the night with a girl in Stockholm, we had had a phenomenal time. We are high on life

Learnings

• Rapid conversational escalation into sexual topics. The way to do this, is to get comfortable using dominant phrases and questions on sexual or sensual topics. Turn it into what Soul calls a Mastery Topic, and be comfortable with it. Vishal has a different twist on this, which is using sensual language and description (especially about touch and physical sensations, e.g., “as the water gently glides down your leg, bringing each part of you alive”).
• Faster physical escalation is most definitely possible during streetgame and daygame.
• Attraction and qualification during daygame look different. Attraction is sort of leaning back, teasing the girl, breaking rapport (for me anyway). Qualification is about intense eye contact, getting close to her, and making her blush. Something akin to the Robbie Williams stare (credit: TD and Soul).
• I need to work more on my SOIs, compliments and leading conversations towards building commonalities and connection.
• I need to ask Soul and Mr M more about logistical escalation. Soul offered some advice in that doing whatever it takes to create logistical maneuvering is what it takes – inviting the girl for a drink at yours before going out clubbing, or inviting her for coffee or whatever… anything that advances your interaction logistically is useful.
• It’s time to take another look at sexual framing. I think Sheriff is going to cover this back in London too.
• Flakes. Soul gave us a whole lecture on why we were number-closing 9s and 10s but getting flaked on almost 100%. I’ll write something up once I’ve broken it down (perhaps tomorrow’s entry).
• I still need to slow down a lot more when talking.
• Off-field practice was awesome. We need to do more of it.
• Winging. When there is no conversational catch, and no passive attraction can be built, then it is best to apply the “what is more awkward is less awkward” principle and just talk to the other girl with cold reads, statements or questions.
• My conversational repertoire could be better. While I have Soul’s basic outline for attraction and rapport-based conversation, I am still stalling out at times. I need to expand my mastery topics.
• I have a new set of immediate sticking points/leverage points to work on: SOIs and compliments, which I’ll handle by practicing first and then injecting them more and more into sets infield. Sexual vibe, which I’ll explore using some change techniques I know, and this will also address some of the issues I have with sexual intent. Sexual conversation, which I mentioned above. Mastery topics for daygame.
• Resistance level to opening. This is a concept that we’ve observed and will develop more. Watching the instructors, they have a very low level of resistance to opening sets with low probabilities or that are logistically harder. I can feel my own resistance threshold lowering as I progress through Rockstar. I expect that within the next couple of weeks it will level out completely.

- Aaron P

Soul Welcomes the Rockstars

As I sit here in my central Stockholm apartment, newly decorated with black oak furniture and chrome fittings, the last rays of the Swedish summer filtering through my window, I reflect on what brought me here.

Steve Jobs once spoke at Stanford University about connecting the dots. He said that sometimes the smallest of events, even those which we consider insignificant at the time, can eventually have huge impact on our lives.

I can trace back where I am now, which is a place I consider to be the happiest I’ve ever been, to a series of such events. Looking back, each of these dots was critical in making me the man I am today.

Starlight was one of last year’s Project Rockstar candidates. We got along so well that I introduced him to Eskay, a serial entrepreneur and client I had trained in Day Game several weeks prior to Rockstar.

Eskay and Starlight discovered common ideology in love, sex, romance and business. They got along so well that, together with Mr M, they took an infamous trip to Shanghai to party with some of China’s most influential businessmen and most beautiful women.

I was on tour in the USA at the time. On my return, Eskay introduced me to the founders of Spotify, the application currently changing the face of the music industry. He invited me to their launch party in Stockholm and gave me a couple of extra invites.

I invited Rokker, our Swedish based instructor and an old friend of his, Maximilian. The party was legendary. A few months later, I found out Maximilian had a spare room to rent in Stockholm. I decided to come visit and see what it would be like to live here.

Within a couple of days, I was in love. This was my favourite city in the world and I decided to call it my new home. The dots had connected.

Good luck to all of this year’s Rockstars. Work hard, be respectful, and remember this moment a few years from now when you are living the dreams you have right now. I’ll see you gentlemen in Stockholm.

Making It Real

September 12th, 2009
Today was another preparation day for Project Rockstar. We got some supplies for the Rockstar Mansion in the morning, then met Adam (our editor), Josh and Alex once their flights landed. We ended up strolling around Oxford St getting SIM cards and the sort worked out. I said it before, but I’ll say it again: the women in London are gorgeous.

After lunch and a bit of travel time, we find ourselves back at the Rockstar Mansion and just end up shooting the breeze. Claude joins us later in the evening and we head for dinner at a nearby Swedish restaurant. The waitress has the smoothest, whitest skin I have ever seen and is a platinum blonde. Micha tells us nonchalantly that in Sweden she would be a 7… our jaws all drop momentarily at the thought that we’ll be in Stockholm at the end of this month.

Following dinner I have to jet really quickly as Mr M asked me to meet him over in the West End so that he could show me some of the nicer parts of town (me having never been to London before). I’m all dressed up and waiting in front of the station… and I spot this cute Korean girl also waiting. After hesitating for about a minute whether I should talk to her or not, I just decide to do it. I’m leaving London in 8 weeks anyway – what have I got to lose?

I approach her and say something like “Hey, are you Korean?” and she is surprisingly friendly. We talk back and forth for about 5 minutes, then Mr M & one of his roommates arrive. We head off to visit one of their friends at a nearby hospital, then head to this upscale Japanese bar/restaurant called Nobu, where we meet a bunch of Mr M’s business contacts (a couple of them are Rockstar mentors). All I have to say is: Wow. Mr M obviously knows a lot of very successful people, and it’s great to see that they’re all onside for Project Rockstar too.

After a shot or two we head over to Maya to meet up with the rest of the Rockstar game mentors. They’re all assembled in a bar opposite the club and I get to meet Vercetti and 5.0 for the first time. Vercetti has a voice that cuts over everything – even can’t-hear-myself-think club music. 5.0 is very, very laid back and confident.

We head into Maya bit later, and 5.0 gives us his high-end club rule:  if you check out a girl twice, you have to go talk to her. Ha.

All the Rockstars are walking around the club a bit, dancing and just generally having fun, but it’s late and we have an early start tomorrow so we head out early, grabbing some Chinese along the way. With a few drinks in each of us we talk about really overt stuff in the taxi (much to the chagrin and surprise of the cabbie no doubt) and continue our talks back at the Rockstar Mansion.

On the way back in the taxi, it really hit me: Rockstar is really happening. Here I am, hanging out with top dating coaches and business mentors (and Monday with top health mentors), meeting gorgeous women, and getting to know 5 really cool guys who are likely to be good friends for life. Despite only having met Adam, Claude, Josh and Alex today, it feels that we’re all good friends with common purposes, interests and goals.

And so Rockstar begins.

- Aaron P