Day 38: A Night with London Playboy & Mr M

Day

We cancelled our session with Sasha as well, it just wasn’t going to work out. I checked into a hotel near Rockstar West. Did some daygame with Adam, Micha and Trackstar. I ended up practicing what I’m calling Micha game.

One of the Asian girls that I stopped during the post-work rush hour was interesting. She was cute, very cute. Strangely enough she was more nervous about the whole thing that I should have been… something along the lines of “oh my god, nobody ever says that to me.” Why I did not number-close her and set up a date I have no fucking idea… fuck this emotional intent stuff.

Night

Tonight actually marked the countdown of the final two weeks of Project Rockstar.

We were supposed to head out to Jalouse for their one year anniversary, so we rocked up to Loop at 9:30pm and met up with the Navy Seals. The line to get into Jalouse was absolutely insane, and they were enforcing their collared shirt policy with a vengeance. Micha and Vercetti ended up going to Jalouse, the rest of us rocked up to Movida.

We ended up doing essentially what were one-on-ones with London Playboy (http://www.thesocialcoach.com/) and Mr M. We also got to watch Mr M hit on a superhot blonde girl… it was awesomeness in action. Mr M also did an exercise where he hit on Alex and me as-if we were girls, so that we could model the vibe that he gives out in set. It was fucking weird (to us and to the bar staff and girls watching), and it’s going to take some unconscious uptake to integrate what I’ve learnt, but I’ll outline some of my notes about it below.

Here are the sets I did, and feedback from London Playboy and Mr M-

American Birthday Girls. London Playboy sent me in. I told him that I would be in there for 30 seconds to 1 minute then I’d be out. And I was right. Opened, intros all round, found out it was a birthday, waved to the birthday girl and started talking to her. Friends turned away, leaving me one-on-one with the birthday girl We talked for a while – my main focus has been on verbal game lately, so I wasn’t really physically escalating all that much. We just talked, and I started using some of the teases that I’ve been learning, like “so basically you think you’re better than me”. I got an emotional reaction – just not the one I wanted… she ended up apologising for what she said haha. #-closed and facebook-closed. Pinged her earlier today but haven’t gotten a response.

The only feedback from London Playboy about this set was to physically escalate more.

Blonde & Brunette. This was a two-set that I ran with London Playboy and Mr M sitting across from us on the opposite couch and listening in on the whole thing. I opened with hi, talked a bit then Jeff came in to wing me. I ended up talking to the blonde, Jeff to the brunette. The set didn’t really go anywhere – just a long conversation, lots of conversational and logical attraction, some frames set but no BT spikes. I got her facebook, but she wouldn’t give me her number. Ah.

There was a ton of feedback from London Playboy and Mr M about this set. The first one was sexual communication – talking overtly about sex in a comfortable and non-sleazy way. This is something I need to do and train. I also got feedback on my body language in seated sets, never to cross my legs, never to hold my hands together and to do bigger takeaways.

Winging Alex. Alex was talked to two hot brunettes. Turns out they were sisters and both models. One was dressed in a spring dress, the other in a Xena-looking leather gladiator outfit. We stood and talked for a while, then sat them down. Again, I ran intrigue-based attraction on the older sister, but I knew that it wasn’t doing it. I did fix a lot of body language and other things that Mr M & London Playboy had told me after the set before, but the girl kept looking away for other people to talk to. I’m seeing more and more now that what I need to do is start training my teasing neural nets, as being able to tease well is *the* foundation of verbal attraction game.

Apparently I improved a lot in this set (body language). Again, the weak point was a lack of state-based attraction and takeaways.

Sticking Points

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – opening, transitioning. Done.
• Verbal Game – attraction. Follow up with Sheriff. Teasing and Sexual talk neural net training. Practice intrigue-based attraction via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – vibing, qualification. Practice via scenarios.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I need to list out more of these, add more emotional oomph to them and roll them into vibing/qualifiaction.
• Logistical Escalation. Getting better (especially locking in). Needs more field work though.
• Physical Escalation. Why did I take this away? Should be doing this *always*.
• Takeaways. I now have a good unconscious understanding of what this looks like. Time to start implementing.
• Delivery. As per takeaways.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. Yup, I’ve remembered to contact close in most of the sets I’ve done.
• Identity & Beliefs. Need to play around more with Micha-game.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Needs more exploration. Still not automatically doing this in set.
• Boundary function.
• Self-image. Loving myself more.
• Intent. The solution that London Playboy has suggested is to “fake it until you make it”. This is in body language, in verbals etc etc…

Learnings and Thoughts

• My biggest leverage point now is verbal attraction game, specifically teasing and sexual talk. I will practice these via written scenarios – I’m going to try to write out one per day.
• I made a commitment with Alex that every time we’re out, we are going to try to logistically escalate as far as we can and bounce girls back. Even if it’s just for practice.
• Quote from London Playboy about me: “You know what I like about this guy? Every time I tell him to do a set he complains about it and tells me why it won’t work and then he goes and does it.” I think this is a reflection of my inner game and self-image. I don’t really have that much of a formulation of how I view myself (in contrast to someone like Alex who truly loves himself). I am going to work on this.
• Speaking of London Playboy… could anyone ask for a better teacher? Very chill, does not pressure you with weird doses of social anxiety, very warm, and yet provides feedback you can actually put into use. Love it.

Mr M Hitting On Me

As I mentioned before, Mr M did a demo where he pretended that Alex and I were girls and hit on us, to allow us to model his vibe and game. Here’s what I learnt from it:

• Break rapport. Always. Lots of takeaways (BIG takeaways), on emotional high points.
• Non-sequitur teases.
• Sexual talk presented as just normal conversation. Like talking about sex positions.
• Insane eye contact and cockiness.
• Very dominant physical escalation. Face touches and strokes.
• Make the girl feel that she needs to comply.
• Physical game. Leaning on the girl, pushing into her etc etc
• Checking her out head-to-toe to build sexual tension.
• Cocky happy asshole vibe.
• The core of this is holding his own internal state and just throwing things out there to entertain himself.

- Aaron P

Day 33: Blight

I am hating London very much at the moment. Woke up this morning feeling somewhat better only to find myself feeling two times worse this evening.

I sat in on part of Sheriff’s bootcamp seminar today, and was supposed to be joining the boys out for infield… but considering that I have a rising fever it isn’t the best of ideas.

Yes, it is incredibly frustrating that I’ve had zero field time over the past three days and have spent most of it in bed, delirious or in some combination thereof.

At least I got some conceptual work done. I put together a structure for vibing during attraction based on past experiences and from reading up on some Juggler material and from watching some California Pimp. Here it is:

1. Bait / open-ended statement or question.
2. Vacuum. Let her commit. Compliance commands on emotional high points.
3. Relate, tease or cold read.
4. Qualify, disqualify or force frame.
5. SOI.
6. Escalate physically and logistically.

I’m going to be practicing this pretty rigorously over the next week, to the point where I have it down and internalised.

Other sticking point stuff:

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – opening, transitioning. Field test.
• Verbal Game – attraction. Same as vibing below, but could add in some default routines and stuff to make it more solid. Next in this category is teasing & roleplays Braddock-style.
• Verbal Game – vibing. Field test.
• Verbal Game – qualification. Yet to do.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I have a better idea of what I need here, and I’ll probably solidify this area by practicing the vibing structure outlined above.
• Logistical Escalation. Need field practice.
• Physical Escalation.
• Takeaways.
• Delivery.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. Need field testing.
• Identity & Beliefs. Currently exploring: the sexual vibe that Brad P, Dahunter and Starlight give out.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Done. Now for field testing.
• Boundary function.

- Aaron P

Day 32: Pain

I am in pain, so let’s keep this short. Being back in London is most definitely not good for your health. Everyone from mentors, to rockstars, to instructors are completely physically fucked at the moment.

I spent most of the day sleeping and then listened to a talk by Mr M on Advanced Social Dynamics (a continuation of his superconference talk).

We all went to Bikram Yoga this evening, to sweat out all that Grey Goose and stripper sweat (side note: there are a ton of hot women and wussy guys at yoga, go do it).

Sticking point stuff-

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – opening, transitioning. I’m considering these closed. The only thing I need to do is practice in-field.
• Verbal Game – attraction. Didn’t get a chance to do this but will look at it tomorrow morning.
• Verbal Game – vibing. As above.
• Verbal Game – qualification. As above.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. Yet to do.
• Logistical Escalation. Need field practice.
• Physical Escalation.
• Takeaways.
• Delivery.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. Need field testing.
• Identity & Beliefs. Currently exploring: the sexual vibe that Brad P, Dahunter and Starlight give out.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Currently exploring.
• Boundary function.

- Aaron P

Day 29: Strategy & Tactics

The Day

Superconference day 3. Listened to Mr M’s talk on advanced social dynamics, then joined the Rockstar Panel onstage. We all presented mini-segments on different topics… I talked about a framework for analysing your game (inner game or otherwise), borrowed from NLP (credit: Robert Dilts). It’s called Neurological levels and works a bit like this:

1. Path / Purpose – What you ultimately want to do in life, and how it impacts the world.

2. Beliefs / Values – What you believe in. And what is important to you.

3. Capabilities – What you can do. Tactics and technical fluency.

4. Behaviour – How you naturally act when out in-field.

5. Environment – How people react to you in-field, and environmental factors like logistics and other people.

If you take any game sticking point, you can run it through this model and it will tell you what you need to specifically work on, and at what neurological level you should work on it. It will tell you if you need to change something at a higher level (say beliefs) or just test something out in-field more (say a new routine, dependent on your behaviour and the environment around you).

Following our panel some of the Rockstars had lunch/dinner at Johnny Rockets… real American food

I then took some time off to take a quick powernap and green drink before listening to Savoy’s talk about learning game, and hearing a wrap-up of the superconference from Future (voted best instructor for 2009) – it was inspiring to hear that he came from a very dark place and is now one of the funnest, funniest, and most compassionate people I have met.

The night was spent in-field for Savoy’s birthday party at Body English (happy birthday mate!). It was a lot of fun, but also incredibly frustrating at the same time. The club was loud, and the crowd was very different from prior nights. Being a Sunday, most of the people in there were Vegas locals, and thus socially hardened. We got a lot of break rapport reactions and had to play dancing monkey to just hold conversations, as well as having to be very physically dominant when handling girls. At around 3am I had had enough and decided to leave… there was nothing new to be gained or learned from running five-to-ten minute sets and then having them fizzle because my verbal game is lacking.

Outer Game

I have a number of outer game sticking points written down at the moment. Each day, I am going to report on my progress of working through them. It feels like today is the first day where I am starting to approach Project Rockstar proactively rather than having things prescribed to me by various instructors.

Here they are-

• Verbal Game, starting with opening, transitioning and attraction. Qualification can come later. Daxx helped me with opening, and I’ll post below his very good advice. Transitioning – take the most common transitions (who, what, fun, work) and build conversation pieces that are optimised. Attraction – write scripts, build conversation pieces that set the right frames. Make sure that I use each of these in every interaction I enter into. Attraction – teasing and “dissociative thinking”, via question-answer scripts and reading Braddock’s field reports. All of this is ultimately training my neural nets and transferring initially conscious effort into unconscious ability.
• Verbal Game, qualification, comfort, SOIs etc etc. This will come later.
• Logistical Escalation. This is both an inner and outer game issue. The outer game component is about getting used to “making things happen”, and the inner game component is all about developing that killer instinct and just going for it (“sexual intent”).
• Physical Escalation. More consistency and pushing the boundaries more would be good.
• Takeaways. Mostly of a physical nature.
• Delivery. Sensual descriptions, deeper voice and slow down.

Inner Game

In addition to working on my outer game tactically I’m also going to continue to develop my inner game, slowly and bit-by-bit. Outer game takes priority. Inner game is more of a “if I have time” kinda thing.

• Logistical Escalation & just going for it. Part of this is the willingness to stick it out and to keep approaching and trying. See above.
• Identity & beliefs. Some beliefs I need to consider: girls find me attractive, girls check me out, I am sexworthy, I am a man who makes things happen.
• Boundary function.

Learnings

• I need to spend more time in off-field practice. This is like the sports team that spends all week training for a game on the weekend. Simply being out in-field and approaching non-stop, at my level, will not help me improve things. There are too many environmental variables in an interaction, and I need structure to train things first.
• Opening, Daxx-style: “Woah, woah woah… (pause) You… are…. fucking… gorgeous… who are you?” or “Hey… this is… uh… really embarrassing (pause, hold eye contact)… but I was going to wear exactly the same thing tonight.” or “Woah… (pause)… you are stunning… why haven’t we met yet?”. The key to all these is in the delivery, pausing, eye contact and dominant physical components.
• My biggest leverage point at the moment is my verbal game. I am going to hammer away at this until it is a level where I can say that it’s handled, and consistent.

- Aaron P