Day 43: Standup

Day

I woke up around noon and spent the early afternoon working on my property presentation and thinking a lot about the inner game issues I’ve been mentioned over the past couple of days. Had dinner, and then hopped on a Skype call with my own mentor Julian (http://www.affiliateinstruction.com/). He covered some advanced online marketing tactics, and gave a fantastic overview of where the industry and market is currently at in terms of affiliate marketing, as well as sharing some of the resources and processes that he personally uses in his business.

We then had a standup training session with Aidan Killian (http://www.aidankillian.com/), in preparation for comedy night on Wednesday. I had quite a bit of resistance to having standup training included as part of Project Rockstar, namely because it is something that I felt we could do by ourselves later, and that we were trading field time and instructor time for it. After today’s session with Aidan, I can now understand why Mr M was so insistent on having us do it. Preparing material for a show is a very quick lesson in learning how to deliver funny and punchy stories and routines, and more importantly, how to cut out extraneous details from what you say in an effort to make it funnier. I can see now how to apply to structure of standup (setup + punch) to the more common stories that I tell in set with girls, and how it can make them far more powerful.

A Bit on Project Rockstar

I was going to write a bit about how Project Rockstar has turned out, but after speaking with Mr M I was reminded that one week is a fucking long time and a lot can happen during that. So you’ll have to wait

- Aaron

Days 36-37: Not Funny

Monday

Spent the morning in a session with ubermentor Jeff talking about real estate and asset protection. I then went back to Rockstar West to sleep for a while, as I was up late the night before with a fever.

Josh and Micha joined Vercetti in the evening for salsa and game, I stayed in to rest. I ended up talking with Alex for hours about online business, and we came up with some truly wicked stuff. The kind of stuff that you haven’t seen published in any ebook, guru course or anything ANYWHERE.

I also spent some time practicing intrigue-based attraction routines, in the form of baits and frames.

Tuesday

Had an early-morning session with Sheriff about qualification and breakthrough comfort. Without going into crazy amounts of detail, the basic process is the elicit her values via information she gives you, and then feed these back to her in the form of cold reads or statements or third-person framing. For comfort, Sheriff and Mr M mentioned that I need to convey more emotion when discussion my passions and purposes… even if I need to start becoming good at lying about the amount of emotional impact that they have on me. They also told me that this is a good principle or concept to apply when delivering things like SOIs or qualifying girls who really don’t have that much going for them apart from their looks (god this makes us sound manipulative).

Alex then gave an absolutely gangster talk on SEO and how to apply some of the SCM concepts we’ve been learning into it.

All this talk of business is great… I love it. But in the context of the last couple of weeks of Project Rockstar, it’s bad for me. It’s shifting my RAS back to doing business and the other parts of my life rather than focussing it on game, which is where it should be at the moment. I’m going to sit down with Micha a bit later tonight and do some modelling work on his mindsets about women and how he focuses his RAS on women all the time (even though his is starting to shift towards money and wealth creation too).

We spent the afternoon in-field for daygame. Our instructor for the day was Sasha (http://www.sashapua.com/), and we also got to meet Ace, one of the London Community’s old-hands. Sasha went through a lot of exceptionally good theory about daygame, about using short, punchy 30-second hook stories, different types of openers and different ways of infusing humour into our openers. Basically making pickup more fun and light-hearted.

Sasha is one of those instructors who knows what he’s talking about, and I’m really glad I wrote down all the things he told us, and then tested them out in-field… otherwise I’d only be writing bad things about him right now. His theories and application of them is great. The way he treated some of the Rockstars… not so much. He threw out some racial slurs at me and some anti-Irish insults at Conor, and some general insults all round for the Rockstars. This did not create the best of emotions in us, and thus when it came time for him to push us in-field, most of us just flatly refused. I pulled him aside and laid down some boundaries: I told him that we respected and appreciated that he had come all the way from Canada to teach us, that his material and what he had taught us was awesome… but that he was also causing us bad emotions and we felt offended by some of the things that he had said. We agreed to just focus on the daygame and in-field.

Josh and I were walking ahead of the group, and started approaching women. In contrast to the bad moods that we had previously, we were having so much fun that we just wandered off and did our own thing. In all fairness, I used the openers that Sasha and Ace had given us. Mostly variations of delayed humour, or openers that would normally cause some level of social anxiety. And they work, really well. Obviously they need more practice and fluency to be able to used effectively and consistently, but it is bloody awesome to have a new set or class of openers to use rather than just bread-and-butter direct for daygame.

We ended up being joined by Micha and investing mentor Trackstar later on, and did daygame on the streets of London until dinnertime.

Sticking Point stuff I’ve been working on-

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – opening, transitioning. It works. Yay. Can throw humour-based openers into here too.
• Verbal Game – attraction. Needs more work. Intrigue-based stuff is almost down. Next in this category is teasing & roleplays Braddock-style. Sheriff has some advice in this area too.
• Verbal Game – vibing. Fits well into qualification the way Sheriff suggests doing it. Needs more field testing.
• Verbal Game – qualification. I’m combining this into “vibing” as it fits in well there.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I need to list out more of these, add more emotional oomph to them and roll them into vibing/qualifiaction.
• Logistical Escalation. Needs field practice.
• Physical Escalation.
• Takeaways.
• Delivery.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. Needs field testing.
• Identity & Beliefs. I’ve explored the sexual vibe that I saw in Dahunter/Brad P/Starlight. Now to field test it. I’m doing a modelling exercise with Micha later about his vibe and the way his RAS works.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change). Done. Initial field testing shows that I’m aware of how to capitalise on them but I’m not, because for the most part the intent is not there and I really don’t care. I need to explore this more.
• Boundary function. I think I exercised this pretty well today

- Aaron P

Day 30: The Matrix

The Day

I started the day with lunch with my buddy ZeroSum from SF and Vishal and Micha. I then had to prepare for the Rockstar-only Internet Marketing presentation I was putting on. It was funny, as Alex and I ran around looking for a projector, and somehow talked event services into giving us one for free

The talk went great, but was grossly overtime. My apologies to Alex for that!

Following that we sat in on Mr M’s Social Circle Mastery seminar. I have taken Braddock’s version of it in the past, and it’s always good to get a different perspective. Despite eight hours of sleep the prior night though, I was still physically shattered… and Vishal had booked a table at XS for the night. So around 10pm or so we headed off to get ready to head out.

The Night

Tonight was supposed to be all about chilling and relaxing and just having fun. Micha was supposed to arrive with his date and her six friends, but that never materialised

I was content to just chill and enjoy my last night in Vegas but the drinks started arriving and Vishal wanted to talk to girls, so off we went. It turned out a bunch of the other instructors (Future, Prestige, Keychain, Starlight) were at XS too. We ran a bunch of sets, most of them going nowhere for me although Vishal was on fire.

There was only one set really worth mentioning. Vishal had opened her friend, so I just decided to go up and go direct on her anyway. We got talking and flirting a bit and her friend and her sat down with us at our table. She was probably one of only about three really cool girls that I have met all year. Spanish-Chinese, cute, good personality, very independent and successful and extremely worldly. I loved every minute of the conversation… even if most of it was spent force framing everything she said sexually

I’m starting to wonder if my issues with not being able to emotionally connect with the majority of women is actually just because I’m looking for a very specific type of woman, and that the non-emotional connects need to be there first before the emotional connect can take place.

The set went great. We talked. I carressed her neck. She grabbed my tie. We kissed. We looked into each others eyes. We told each other how much we liked each other. She said she wanted to leave. I said in a bit.

Then at some point, everything abruptly ended. She turned to her friend, said something, then they got up and left. In retrospect, I know exactly what I had needed to say to make her stay, and what I needed to do logistically to have spent the night with her.

Beyond that though, is that I didn’t number-close or facebook-close or get her contact details… even if we didn’t hook up she was still be a fucking cool person to have as a friend. This annoys me more than not getting laid

In case you’re wondering, what I should have said was “Hey look. I really meant what I said. I think that you are an incredible woman, and even if I didn’t want to take you upstairs right now and do all sorts of dirty and nasty things to you, we would still hang out.” This would be followed up by grabbing her hand, pulling her up from the table and leading her from the table to her room with “Let’s go.”

Outer Game

• Verbal Game – attraction. I still need to do some real off-field work on this. But I did practice the basic strategy behind eliciting and framing all night… but there were still silent moments.
• Verbal Game – vibing. Combining California Pimp’s structure with Juggler’s will be interesting.
• Verbal Game – qualification. I’m using California Pimp-style questions for qualification. These basically qualify a girl on her identity as a woman, her compliance to you and her looks. I am going to start using these more as it’s a really good way to qualify girls who I’m not that into for non-emotional stuff (the majority of girls I meet), and they hit hard.
• Verbal Game – SOIs. I need to make them a habit so that they just happen in set and have a repertoire of them to use.
• Logistical Escalation. Time to do some inner game work on this to make it a habit. The number-close should be automatic during spikes in attraction and the logistical lead should just happen. I should always be leading, rather than waiting for her to lead. This only changes at a certain point when we’re already in seduction.
• Physical Escalation.
• Takeaways.
• Delivery.

Inner Game

• Logistical Escalation. See above.
• Identity & Beliefs. Still to work on: girls find me attractive, girls check me out, I am sexworthy, I am a man who makes things happen.
• Capitalising on reads in real-time (this is a behaviour-level change).
• Boundary function.

Learnings

• More Awkward is Less Awkward when winging. Just fucking go in guns blazing and be dominant. Don’t blow wing out.
• I feel like my ability to see the social matrix is starting to skyrocket. I said to Vishal last night: “It’s weird dude. I can see exactly the probabilities of each set working out and where we’re going to lose them, and I can see all the approach invitations and all the high probability sets… but I don’t act on them. What I like about you, is that you don’t look at any of that stuff and you just act on it.”
• I’m realising that I am bloody good at reading when a set in interested, when they’re not, when they’re likely to open or not and to some extent the exact moment that myself or the other Rockstars will get blown out or have hooked the set. I need to capitalise on this ability more however, and have some default behaviours for advancing the interaction based on these reads.

- Aaron P

Day 25: Vegas & The Hidden Masters

About 16 hours was spent on the plane today. I stayed up all night in an effort to knock out on the plane (it worked). Wrote my SC speech on the way, and studied Magic Bullets religiously.

We checked into the hotel, where Mr M used his patented check-in game to get us all free room upgrades.

We then grabbed some greasy American food and headed for the first session with the World’s Hidden Masters (http://www.worldshiddenmasters.com/).

These guys were phenomenal. Everything they said resonated really deeply with me, yet at the same time they’ve provided a totally different perspective about business and entrepreneurship that I never knew existed. Kind of like someone encountering a pickup system like the M3 or Emotional Progression Model for the first time.

Because today was oddly game-absent, I’ll end this post here, and rest up. VEGAS begins tomorrow.

- Aaron P

Day 09: The Most Important Day Yet

The What

Today was the most important day of Project Rockstar yet.

We started the morning with a continuation of M’s talk on business plans. Then we grabbed some lunch, and were given time to finish up on housekeeping and administrative tasks in preparation for our upcoming jaunt to Munich.

Following that we met up with Curran Padake, one of the old-guard in the Community and a former Pickup101 instructor. He gave us advice on daygame approaches, on using statements rather than questions and ran through some improv-style exercises on using facial expressions to convey messages rather than using words. He also very importantly pointed out the use of “check-ins” to keep the girl engaged in conversation.

The last session of the day was the one we were all looking forward to but were also uncertain about. It was a session of personalised feedback for each of the Rockstars with The Council (Mr M, London Playboy, Vercetti, 5.0, Dr Yen and Keychain). Over the past week or so they had taken their collective first impressions of us both in and out of field and formed notions of “this is what they need to change and consider in their lives”.

It was fairly brutal, but extremely constructive. The feedback was delivered in a such a way that it would have a huge impact on our thought processes and emotions, and drive us towards change and development. The questions and feedback I received from the instructors were pretty much dead-on: a couple were things that I’d recognised in myself in the past but thought were unchangeable. Others were things that I had no idea I was exuding, and it’s a completely liberating feeling to be able to have these things brought into conscious awareness.

In case you’re wondering, here’s what was pointed out to me:

• Lack of intent.
• Comes off as cold.
• Comes off as aloof and arrogant.
• Needs to appreciate a wider range of things.
• Needs to work on form.

I am starting to see that these things all tie back into my self-concept and self-image, which I’m believing more and more is the source of absolutely everything in life. I am going to begin work on this immediately, and we’ll see where it takes me over the next couple of weeks.

I really hope that we have one of these sessions every 2 weeks or so. It would be great to see what the result of field time and personal development does to our character over the next 7 weeks.

Highlights of the Day

• Council feedback session. Blew all of us away.
• Josh to Vishal: “you motherfucker, put your lips on this and suck it” (handing him a drink).

- Aaron P

Day 07: And Now For Something Different

The What

Things panned out a bit differently today.

In the morning, a couple of us met up with Mr M at King’s Cross Station to head out of town to meet up with celebrity dentist Dr Raj Ahlowalia (of Extreme Makeover and http://www.smilesbyraj.com) for teeth whitening. We had molds of our teeth made there, and given instructions on how to apply the whitening paste over the next few weeks.

What was more interesting was the trip over. Micha and Alex took the train with Bao, and I hopped in K’s car with Mr M and Rowena D, a reporter from the Guardian in the UK who is interested in doing a piece on Project Rockstar. If you’ve ever wondered what success in the wealth sphere of your life gets you, K is the perfect example. This was a nice car. In fact, it’s so nice, I’m attaching a photo:

We sped out of London at some 150 mph to Dr Raj’s office. In all fairness, we were late as we stopped for lunch along the way. It was interesting to see what a mainstream journalist wanted to know about, in terms of both the seduction community and in terms of Project Rockstar. I also had a chance to talk more with K about his philosophy on business – he has this unique ability to take years of experience and compress them into high-level principles that you can apply to any business and to life in general.

After the meeting with Dr Raj I took a nap on the train back into London. Sleeping and napping is becoming something of a luxury in Project Rockstar.

We then had a standup comedy class with Aidan Killian of http://www.aidankillian.com. I knew absolutely nothing about standup going into the class, so it was very interesting to hear Aidan talk about standup in terms of presenting and creating presence rather than actually being funny. We did some very cool eye contact exercises to help make us more comfortable with creating immediate stage presence and addressing an audience and keeping them engaged.

Following standup Vishal, Jeff, Micha and myself headed to the local Chinese place for some quick food. We’ve been so busy that looking our diets has become something of a secondary priority: LondonHunk and R, if you’re reading this, we’re working on it. Hopefully we’ll have someone in to clean our kitchen next week so we can begin preparing healthier meals in-house (it was supposed to happen today but there was an organisational blip).

We then had an hour-long Skype call with Starlight (Jesse), one of the 2008 Project Rockstars. He talked to us about the four hour work week-style businesses he wanted to help us set up, and gave us some homework assignments and brainstorming to do moving forward into the next 8 weeks.

The work is certainly starting to pile up on Project Rockstar, and I may just start using these blog posts as a way of tracking them as we barely have time to do any everyday organisation, being it managing our to-do lists or pinging our social circles.

LondonHunk stopped by in the evening to drop off our green drinks (I love this stuff – it tastes great!)

We then had a nightgame session with various instructors. I headed off to meet Wizard along with Micha and Josh. It was a different sort of night. We met at Loop, which was next to the club we were meant to go to – Jalouse. We chilled for a bit, then went to get into Jalouse. We waited in line for one and a half hours, before getting to the front and being told that we couldn’t go in because they needed more girls in the venue first. At that point our states had dropped to below zero and we made the call to bounce and catch up on sleep and other work instead. It’s a shame that we didn’t actually get to work on our game today, but… shit happens.

Highlights of the Day

• Quote from Vishal: “Fucking Asians, always looking for the positive in everything.”
• Speeding down the freeway at 150mph in a AMG CL63.

- Aaron P

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